This is elementary school related and I need advice...

[disdreams]

Sometimes we can help her without a problem , but sometimes when we try to help her , she gets confused and frustrated because we may be teaching her something in a completely different way that they are learning, this makes us frustrated too.

My oldest is an honor roll student, as well, and gets very frustrated when she asks us a question and she doesn't understand what we are saying. I agree that a lot of times we are teaching her the way WE learned, and things are very different now. That confuses ME! She does not want to hear how "we" do (or did) things, either.

As for not asking the teacher, I would talk to the teacher. I'd also explain to your DD that if she does not ask the teacher when she needs help, her grades may end up suffering one day because of that. Also, get your teachers phone number and email address. Maybe when she has homework she can contact her from home so nobody will know. Good luck.

 

[Snowysmom]

My 14 year old DS really had problems talking to teachers ( and adults in general.) We have found that as he got older, he got better at talking with the teachers. He is a freshman in high school now and he asks the teachers questions and lets them know if he has any problems. He is a quiet kid (except at home when the hormones kick in!) We have talked to the teachers and they have tried to help him speak up more. But he is doing better as he gets older. If we are trying to help him with some school work and he doesn't understand, he can get frustrated and cranky but I make him chill out for a while and then we get back to it when we both are calmer. I think it is hard for really bright kids who usually get the material quickly to realize that there are some things they need a little more help with. Good luck with the counselor and the teachers. They should be able to help.

 

[Mskanga]

Disdreams , in our schools teachers do not give their phone numbers or e-mail addresses out , it's a schoolwide policy. If people have problems , they call the school and work them out there.
Snowysmom you described my dd to a T , honor roll student ( who for the first time EVER this last quarter didn't make it to honor roll ) , shy and quiet ( except at home when the hormones kick in ) and used to "get it" right away but finding out that sometimes she needs help , and having trouble accepting that.
I just don't get it because it's not like we tell her at home that she must get A's or B's all the time, we just want her to do the very best that she can . If she came home with a C and we know that this is the best she could do , we would be happy with it. But another thing is when she gets a C in reading ( because the class is boring according to her ) , that is not acceptable because we know she can do better than that.
She was supposed to talk to the teacher today but she couldn't because they had a class trip to go to , she asked me if she "had to talk to her tomorrow " and I told her yes. Let's see what she is going to do tomorrow.