The teacher should "just say no thank you", right?

[mjkacmom]

Tattling vs. Telling: Tattling is telling on someone in order to get him in trouble. Telling is reporting about someone to get him help.

 

[legalsea]

Not quite.. Could you please clarify where you obtained this information?

Because (dramatic pause)



I am that father!

 

[glitterkittyy]

Because (dramatic pause)



I am that father!

You should be ashamed of yourself.



I mean, The Jonas Brothers? Come on, man! You can do better!

 

[mickeyboat]

Well, if thats so, then they will know they can't get away with anything then huh?

No - going to the school with busybody concerns destroys any of your credibility. When you go to the school with legitimate concerns that do directly affect your child, you will not be taken seriously. Eventually you will run out of "higher-ups" to complain to.

You are not the police force at your children's school.

 

[mickeyboat]

Because (dramatic pause)



I am that father!

If so, can you let me in on some of that action? I promise to only praise your posts on the DIS forevermore.

 

[leighe]

Clovergirl - just curious - do any of your kids play sports? Because the standing rule in our school is that coaches WILL NOT discuss other players or playing time with a parent. Seems sensible to me.

 

[Heidict]

Really, I said that? Theres that ugly thing called PRESUMPTION again. It seems to running rampant here!

Yeah, I guess so. Kinda like how you are presumming that the teacher is taking a bribe from a 3rd grader and go running to the principal about it.

 

[declansdad]

Op, you must have had a reason to question what was going on at school and nobody should knock you for it. Do what you think you should do. I do and its what I will continue to do until my kids are out of school. Don't worry about what the teachers or principal thinks about you if you were to talk to someone about it. If nobody has anything to hide, its not a big deal. I agree, there are bigger things to think about, but my children are important to me, and if I question ANYTHING at school, Im going to make it known no matter what. If it hurts someones feelings because I talked to someone, then I guess it does. Good luck to you.

So if I thought you had did something wrong and reported that to your superior without verifying the facts, you would be ok with that, right?

 

[glitterkittyy]

If so, can you let me in on some of that action? I promise to only praise your posts on the DIS forevermore.

Oh, did you mean action with tickets?

I thought you meant the teacher.

 

[C.Ann]

Because (dramatic pause)



I am that father!

You (and your teacher "friend") can now look forward to coal in your stockings!!!

Hmpf..

 

[mickeyboat]

Oh, did you mean action with tickets?

I thought you meant the teacher.

 

[legalsea]

You should be ashamed of yourself.



I mean, The Jonas Brothers? Come on, man! You can do better!

Due to my diminished vision I thought the sign said Allman Brothers. I feel like I'm tied to the whipping post..........

 

[mjkacmom]

Clovergirl - just curious - do any of your kids play sports? Because the standing rule in our school is that coaches WILL NOT discuss other players or playing time with a parent. Seems sensible to me.

I love this rule - my friend's ds11 plays on a competitive soccer team, and the parents sign a waiver that they will not talk to the coach! The kids have to take care of things themselves. I wish my DH did that with his soccer parents - I would save him a lot of frustration!

 

[glitterkittyy]

Due to my diminished vision I thought the sign said Allman Brothers. I feel like I'm tied to the whipping post..........

Now THAT's some action I'd like to get into.







The whipping post not the Allman Brothers.

 

[KandD]

OK I agree with the OP that I wouldn't "tell" on the teacher or even bring it up to her if I was in this situation but it might bother me a bit (maybe enough to post a thread on the DIS to get other opinions! LOL).
Obviously since the OP knows what is going on, the students must know what is going on too and I think it is only normal at that age to feel a little left out if they see another classmate giving really "cool" gifts to the teacher. But all in all it wouldn't bother me enough to say anything.

 

[clovergirl5]

no - going to the school with busybody concerns destroys any of your credibility. When you go to the school with legitimate concerns that do directly affect your child, you will not be taken seriously. Eventually you will run out of "higher-ups" to complain to.

You are not the police force at your children's school.

omgggggggggggodddddddd*****************************shoot me in the head already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How do i need to say this....

I
am
not
someone
who
runs
to
the
principal
complaining,
telling on,
or whatever you want to call it.


Do you know how long 9 years is?
Talking to the principal 5 times in
the last 9 years makes me one of those parents?
And with the exeption of the kid spitting on my dd
i didn't "tell" on anyone! My god...get over it already! This
is stupid.

 

[bumbershoot]

I don't like injustices. I like to get involved just on principle, even if it doesn't change my life either way.

Since you drive her to "CCD" (what's that? eh, I don't know what it is, doesn't matter) I imagine you know her dad.

Couldn't you make a call to the school asking what the gift policy is, then talk to the dad, mentioning the policy (if high value gifts aren't OK) and that you don't want them to get into trouble if others notice?

Seems that would be the thing to do.

 

[Scurvy]

Never mind school, it may be against state policy. There was a story on the news here this week, as government employees teachers may only accept gifts with a value of $75 or less.

I'd be interested to see how that would work in a case like this. If they were comp tickets and not for resale, they could be considered to have a face value of $0. In that case, even though it seems like a large gift it might be perfectly acceptable under the policy.


legalsea - Really, Jonas Brothers?! There are way better concerts at which to carry on a clandestine relationship. Honestly, I would have thought you had better taste than that!

 

[sbell111]

Is that meant as sarcasm? Then the op is a busybody too?

That wasn't sarcasm and I did not call the OP anything.

 

[clovergirl5]

Clovergirl - just curious - do any of your kids play sports? Because the standing rule in our school is that coaches WILL NOT discuss other players or playing time with a parent. Seems sensible to me.

Yes, 4 older kids are in sports. Don't know what your great point is here My mind is about ready to explode on the computer screen because some people here are something that I can't say!