The only way to have a friend is to be one." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

[Linzybrooke]

Hey guys! I think I can dis again! Apparently Chris updated our virus software last weekend, and so far this week I have only gotten the error message once. Yippee!!!

 

[Linzybrooke]

I wanted to show this to you guys, but don't know how to post it to facebook.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Lin, love it ! It is too cute!

Lyzziesmom, I hope you have fun at the festival.


No plans here. It's suppose to rain all weekend (it started raining before we left and no plans to stop) so we are just staying home. My back is feeling a little better, but it's still hard to do much.

 

[lyzziesmom]

Lin, that is too cute! Love the new ticker, too.

Hope your back continutes to improve, Amber. Mine has been bad with this up & down weather we've been having. It takes a long time to get up & going in the morning.

Speaking of getting going... Gotta run! Time for Jiggle Jam (the music fest). It starts in 35 minutes and we are not even dressed yet!


PS - I have to work tonight but Dusty (the cat) stole one of my work shoes and I haven't been able to find it for 3 days. Darn cat!! That's why we call her the Croc Hunter.

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

Lin- That is so cute!

Lyzziesmom- Have fun at the music fest! I hope you find your shoe!

Lyzziesmom and Amber, I hope ya'll feel better soon. My back hurts a little also and I have no idea what I did to it!

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

Long work vent ahead...

I'm done with the drama!!! I can't take it anymore.

Yesterday, as I was coming in to work, my manager told me that she fired a coworker of mine. I was shocked, but had a feeling that something was going to happen since I knew she wanted her and another coworker gone. The final straw was that on Sunday, she was 30 mins late and did not call the manager to let her know. Now she did call me to let me know (I was the only other person working). I was fine for those 30 minutes, nothing happened to me! Now if she didn't call, then I would have been angry. Now this girl should have been let go a long time ago, she locked the store in the middle of her shift to go pick up her mom about a month ago. Now don't get me wrong, I do like this girl, and am sad she's gone.

Then she proceeds to tell me all the details of her being fired. Which I think is funny, she told 2 of my coworkers that they were gossiping too much (which was true), so why are you telling me what happened? She told me that when she called the district manager he said "Well, K*** will probably be the next to go." I don't need to know that. All she needed to tell me was that my coworker was let go, end of story.

Next one of my coworkers came up to me yesterday and told me that she was upset because she didn't clock out for her break and my manager got mad at her so she clocked out after her break, she only works a few nights a week after she gets off from her other job and only works a few hours and therefore doesn't get a break. So I can understand that she was confused. She said that the manager was nothing but drama and was going to quit. I told her I was thinking about leaving too, that I get anxiety almost everytime I work. She said she would see if I could possibly come work where she is as a receptionist. I told her okay, that would be great.

After I got off work I went with Steven to see Night at the Museum 2 (which was great!!!) After the movie, my one coworker that I had talked to earlier and my manager left me messages. The one from my coworker said that she had talked to her and that she thought things were going to get better. The message from my manager said that she was sorry for any stress she had caused, (I really hope my coworker didn't tell her about my anxiety, I told her that in confidence) and that I could talk to her about anything and that things were going to get better. Halfway through her message I yelled "I can't take this anymore!" and started crying. Things aren't going to change. I just can't handle it anymore.

I'm not sure what I'm going to do.

I'm not even sure if any of this makes sense!

 

[Linzybrooke]

Nicole, I am sending you a great big hug! If you aren't happy, then leave. Don't force yourself to stay and keep getting more and more stressed out. I was actually talking to two of my friends about this yesterday at Eddie Bauer, these are the two other girls I managed with at TDS. We were talking about feeling locked into something with no ability to change, and why it took the three of us so long to leave Disney even when we all knew we were unhappy. If you are looking for another retail job, Eddie Bauer pays part-time associates really well, and treats everyone really well too. I make more part-time hourly at Eddie Bauer than I did as a Lead at TDS.

Lyzziesmom, did you find your shoe?

Amber, hope your back feels better soon! Are you officially moving back to WV?

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Nicole, I agree that you should look for something else; it just isn't worth being upset and having anxiety.


It isn't completely official, but we are STRONGLY considering moving back. We've been thinking about it for some time now (and have even looked at a few places), but after visiting last week, we realize how much we miss it.

We aren't rushing anything, but if we find something, we are out of here. It stinks, because we do like some aspects of FL (especially WDW ), but it isn't worth some of the negatives.

It is actually very uncomfortable here now, because no one is really speaking to us. I think my MIL is upset that we are thinking of moving back, but she hasn't done anything to make us want to stay. If anything, she has been worse than before.


I hope everyone is having a nice weekend. It is STILL raining here (it started the day before we left and doesn't look like it will be stopping any time soon).

 

[lyzziesmom]

Nicole, I agree that it's definitely time to find a different job. I got stressed out just reading about all the drama! It sounds to me like your manager has very poor people skills and is in denial. That makes it awful for everyone involved. You should not be feeling so horrible just hearing a message from her. Time for a change. Good luck!

Amber, is your back feeling any better? I'm sorry your MIL is being such a poop. It sounds like you'll be much happier if you are able to move. Best of luck finding a house. Awww, rainy weather on a long weekend is no fun!

We went to the pool yesterday for opening day. One of the city pools that is on the main road between our house & my parents' house was refurbished and the girls were so excited to go. It was a beautiful day but the water was FREEZING!! I couldn't even go in up to my knees. I stood there in the shallow end like a dork for 20 minutes and still couldn't feel my feet so I gave up. The girls didn't seem to mind at all, they got used to it in about a minute. Just another way they make me feel old! After a 15-min break for "adult swim" they couldn't get used to the cold water again though, and I finally convinced them it was too cold. Emma said she wasn't cold but her teeth were chattering and her lips were turning blue! I was surprised the pools were very busy despite the frigid water.

Today has been overcast and looks like rain but it hasn't rained yet. It's coming though, my back feels awful. I take a 12-hour pain pill that I'm supposed to take in the morning & evening, but I usually don't take the nighttime one because I figure I'll be asleep anyway. Well last night I was very sore so I took it, and I could not sleep a wink. I was still awake when I heard Lyzzie wake up this morning. My heart & mind were racing all night, and by the time I gave up trying to sleep on my own it was too late for Ambien.

We were supposed to have a steak dinner at my parents' house tonight but I fell asleep at the computer an hour ago just before we were supposed to get ready to go, so we are putting it off until tomorrow. I feel bad because they were looking forward to it too but I just don't want to make the 20-minute drive when I'm this sleepy.

Oops, Emma just tried to go outside but forgot she's not wearing pants! (I have no idea why.) I'd better help her. I hope you all had a great holiday weekend.

 

[lyzziesmom]

Oh, and yes I found my shoe! It was under the couch. The funny part is that the shoes were both in my basket where I keep them, and the cat took them out and put one in my room and the other under the couch.

Ugh I just typed a long saga and deleted it. Too boring! The short version:
My work shoes (that the cat steals) are slim sling-back Crocs. Technically not allowed, but my store manager said they are ok during my interview due to my back issues. Also my pant legs are long & cover the open heels. The CM who got the lead position (not my favorite CM) appointed herself Costume Cop & says if I wear them again I am getting written up. Now I need to buy new shoes but it will take me a couple weeks. She says, "I've been unemployed for almost 2 years but I bought new ones, you can too." Yes, but she has a husband and no kids, plus is now an almost fulltime lead. Apples/oranges. Also she got reprimanded last year for wearing the exact same shoes, and points it out every single time we work together. It's petty and stupid, and I hate that I let it bug me, but goshdarnit those are the only comfy shoes I can tolerate standing in for a few hours!!

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Lyzzismom, yeah for finding your shoe! Have you tried an Alice or Prima crocs? They don't have an open back.

The pool sounds fun (even if cold). My mom just opened hers; of course it would be the week AFTER we left, but it was kind of chilly when we were there.


My back is doing a little better. Mike has been taking care of me, so I can rest and that seems to help.

MIL is finally starting to speak to us and I hope that we can get along (especialy since it could take while to find a place; I don't want to settle on something and just have to move yet again).

 

[lyzziesmom]

I just ordered a pair of the Prima Crocs, they were on clearance at the outlet section of the website and I found a code for free shipping! I hope they are ok, they have a few small holes in the back but are still closed. The Alice ones are not acceptable; they have the white Crocs logo on the strap, and the shoes have to be all black with no logos or decor of any kind. It's very hard to find comfy shoes that fit the rules! There is a new "work" style that looks really comfy but they are not only $50 (ouch!) but they have a tiny gray stripe on the top. Darn it.

I'm glad you're being taken care of & feeling better. I have a mental picture of Mike fanning you with palm fronds & feeding you grapes in a hammock!! I'm crossing my fingers for you finding the perfect house, moving is a pain and you don't want to do it twice if you don't have to!

 

[Linzybrooke]

Lyzziesmom, get a doctors note that the crocs are best for your back and therefore you need to wear them, and then keep a pair of cheap black shoes with backs in your locker for when you are moving up and down ladders. They will be able to file the doctors note in your file and that should cover you regardless of who decides to be the costume cop. Plus, for what its worth, this girl is trying to put out that she has a whole lot more authority than she actually has...

My mom has a dog who steals slippers. Phoebe cannot stand for two matching slippers to be together, so she always moves one to a random place and leaves the other where it was! Cat and Dog with shoe issues...who wouda thunk it?

We went to see Night at the Museum 2 and Star Trek today. I loved Star Trek (I'm a huge Star Trek geek anyway), and Night at the Museum was cute, but not as good as the first one.

Anywho, I'm beat and going to bed! Have a great day tomorrow!

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

I hope everyone had a great Memorial Day!

Lyzziesmom- I agree with Lin, get a Dr's note and maybe make your manager aware of the situation. A swim sounds so nice, even if it was cold!

Amber- Good luck on the house hunt! I'm glad your back is getting better, you should ask Mike for a massage.

Lin- Steven saw Star Trek today, I think he was confused by it! He's never seen the series. I can't decide which Night at the Museum I like better. I thought the new one was going to be terrible, but I was surprised by how good it was.

Yet more work drama involving my manager, and she wasn't even working today!!!!

 

[kellyg403]

You know I stumbled upon this thread because I was feeling exactly like I need one. a friend that is. I was going to call one but it just seems so trivial that I was feeling like it was just dumb to be upset about it. Hopefully someone here will understand!

A few weekends ago, the kids grandparents (ex and I are divorced) came by to see the kids since they were in town. Evidently at some point they gave them a tracing they had done on the internet of their family history. Great idea right? Well where their father's name is it shows only his new wife's name and nothing about them. Yet it shows his sister her husband and their children. Now, I didn't think much about it but evidently my 14 year old, soon to be 15 yo son, was quite offended. He has brought it up at least 5 times in the last two weeks. I haven't said much, kinda changed the subject because I don't know what to say. Its not like he is 7 anymore and I can say the standard 'dad made a misake' kwim. I am at the stage in the game where I try to let the kids decipher what their true feelings are and then talk about it without saying a lot. But, now its bothering me too. Why..? I guess because with ex its always some stupid drama after another. He doesn't think something is offensive or will hurt the kids feelings and will basically say or act like they need a thicker skin. It bothered me so much earlier in the week that when I found out he was giving my dd 'options' for her summer not knowing what her schedule was I totally went off on him. Last time he gave her options, it ended up costing me more money because the promise is made and SOMEBODY has to follow through.

Anyway, tell me to grow up and let it go. He is stupid the kids will see him for what I saw a long time ago..selfish and pure t unavailable etc.

Kelly

 

[lyzziesmom]

Hi Kelly, welcome to our little thread! I can completely understand what you're going through. I am a single mom to 2 girls, and just last night my DD4 for the first time seemed to realize that she is missing something in her life. She said to me, "I wish I could meet my daddy again," and I tried to explain that he just didn't want to be a dad, that he left before he got to know her but if he had given it a try I'm sure he would have liked her. (He left when she was 2 months old, and has never looked back so I was stretching the truth a little.) She got sad and said and said, "Oh. I don't have a daddy? I thought I had one," then refused to talk about it any more. I felt so bad for her and mad at him all over again.

I think at your son's age it's normal to feel angry for being abandoned. Also at their ages, they probably do see their dad for what he is. Of course they will hope for more but just give them all the love and attention you can and be the best parent you can be, and they will be fine.

I gave up a few years ago on trying to make up for my ex's lack of attention. He makes no effort to see his DD and at first I tried to meet halfway, or to use my vacation time to see him or invite him along on our trips but when years went by and he made no effort to visit his child, I gave up. Sorry but it's not my responsibility to turn him into a good father. If he doesn't want to make the effort, then he is only hurting himself. When/if he does ever decide to try to see her, she won't want to because she is smart enough to know how he feels by his actions, or lack thereof.

Sometimes it feels better to know you're not the only one. You will get through this and it's not trivial, it's your kids!!

 

[lyzziesmom]

Nicole -- funny that your manager can cause drama when she's not even there! That's got to be really frustrating. Did Steven like Star Trek? I used to be a big fan of the Next Generation series but never watched the original or the movies very much. At one of the festivals we went to a couple weeks ago, there was a booth where a guy was doing little girls hairstyles in some twisty thing he was selling. We stopped to watch & he was explaining to anyone who would listen (mostly the little girls whose hair he was doing) the entire premise of the Star Trek movie and how it completely wiped out the "timeline" so none of the sequels would be able to happen. Like the 6-yo girl cared or even knew what he was talking about!!

Lin -- I already have a dr's note that says I can't lift over 20lbs or climb ladders or mop (don't laugh, that thing is heavy!), so I don't want to push it with the shoes. If they say I can't wear the Prima Crocs either, then I will try to get a note because that's ridiculous. I completely agree with your assessment of the lead CM, but I just didn't want to say it because it sounds petty but it's right on. She tried to reprimand another CM for wearing "suntan" hose instead of "nude" hose. Then when we were looking at the rules it didn't say anything about that, only that socks must be worn with skirts. I understand that Disney has strict appearance standards and I know why they do it and even agree that it's necessary, but c'mon.

Too funny about the dog & the slippers! When Dusty lived at my mom's house, she used to hunt & steal paper cups from the bathroom every day at 3am. She continued that here for a little while, now she's moved on to shoes at 8am. I guess it's better than when we lived in FL and she would bring us lizards & snakes, or her bird phase. Chirping under your bed in the wee hours of the night is scary! Thank goodness she only hunts indoors these days.

I'd better go wake Emma up. She is still asleep at 10:30am!! She was really crabby yesterday so I hope she feels better today.

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

Welcome Kelly! Your kids will, if they haven't already, see him for who he really is.

Lyzziesmom- Yeah, I'm sure those girls were bored, listening to him! Good luck with the shoes.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Welcome Kelly and . It's completely understandable for you to be upset; we don't want to see our kids hurting. Your kids will see their father for what he is. The best thing for you to do is be there for them and try not to say anything bad about their dad (not that you have).

Lin, glad to hear the movies were good. I never rally watched ST, but I think I may want to see the movie.


I have become comepletely addicted to Chain Rxn on Facebook. It is such a stupid game, but I can't stop playing. Mike even started playing. I ave also gotten other peopkle addicted to the game. So, you have all been warned!

 

[hellokitty86]

Howdy girls!!!!

Sorry I haven't checked in, I wasn't recieving any notifications for this thread so I didn't know people were posting!!!!

Sorry for the drama everyone is having.....is something in the air or what??!

Hi Kelly!! Welcome to our thread and feel free to post anytime!!! So sorry about the situation with your ex...that must be so difficult to deal with and I'm very sorry your son feels so offended. I don't have any advice but wanted to give you hugs! One day your ex will realize the mistakes he made with your kids and I hope its not too late! In the meantime I think you are doing a great job, just like our beloved Lyzziesmom!! Being a single parent is the hardest job in the world!


Lyzziesmom, that story with Emma just breaks my heart. I hope she's feeling better about that. Sorry your job is being so strict about the shoes- let us know how the other Crocs work! I agree about the doctors note!! My Mom and I went swimming yesterday at the house my Grandma is house sitting at, it was so fun and had a slide!, but the water was absolutely freezing!!! It takes some getting used to!!! And now I'm sunburnt.

Nicole, I'm soooooo sorry about the drama at your job!! That is just horrible. I know how you feel, that's how it was when I quit my job, the drama was just too much to deal with!!! I'm sending you pixie dust that it either gets better or you find another job soon!

Lin, I want to see Star Trek sooooo bad!!! I never watched the other shows but I've heard the movie is excellent!!!

Amber-- I hope you find a house that suits your needs in WV soon!!! So sorry your MIL is playing these games with you. I'm sure she will regret her actions when you guys are gone and she can't see Spencer as often, and took advantage of that time. I can see your addicted to that game, I see the posts where you play it all the time!! Hope your back is feeling alittle better!

Talk to you later girls! Xoxoxo!