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[mnm.rain]

That is a rough one. I think we would need mroe details. Is she violating any court order stuff? I dont have firsthand experience just what my good friend had to put up with her ex.

No...they have joint custody...we have him M, W, F and all day Sat. until between 4 and 6. Those were the arrangements. My guy works different shifts (he's management in retail) so I'm always the one to keep the child. Not a problem, I love having him!!! She asks to switch days with us, which we almost always do...but now she's on a kick about wanting us to keep him every weekend instead of what was arranged so that she can go out with her boyfriend (who doesn't like her son). I had to drop off some things to her this morning, and I was nice (as usual). She asked me about switching to weekends only and I told her she'd have to talk to him about that. She called him, at which point he says, no-we go with what was planned and we can switch sometimes when you need to. She then proceeds to tell him she will now keep him all the time, will take him back to court to make us keep him every weekend, and various other threats. He says do what you need to do. She then tells him (while she starts crying) that I was bad mouthing him this morning, I'm always mean to the child because I hate her, and everything she's doing is my fault. If I hadn't said bad things about him, she would never act this way.

She is a proven liar, and has been her entire life. I don't ever say bad things about my guy (especially wouldn't to her), and I treat the son just like I do my own. She took advantage of my guy before we started dating and then living together and now that I'm in the picture, he doesn't cater to her whims and wants the way he used to. That is her major problem.

I have gone out of my way to be nice and to do everything I can to benefit the child (keep him from being shuffled) but I am at a total loss. I am so angry I don't know which way to turn.
I have lots of thoughts and feelings about her that I keep to myself because I try to stay out of the middle. Now she drags me right in and my guy says just to avoid her and not say anything. I know he's probably right, but it doesn't help me any right now.

 

[LaraK]

No...they have joint custody...we have him M, W, F and all day Sat. until between 4 and 6. Those were the arrangements. My guy works different shifts (he's management in retail) so I'm always the one to keep the child. Not a problem, I love having him!!! She asks to switch days with us, which we almost always do...but now she's on a kick about wanting us to keep him every weekend instead of what was arranged so that she can go out with her boyfriend (who doesn't like her son). I had to drop off some things to her this morning, and I was nice (as usual). She asked me about switching to weekends only and I told her she'd have to talk to him about that. She called him, at which point he says, no-we go with what was planned and we can switch sometimes when you need to. She then proceeds to tell him she will now keep him all the time, will take him back to court to make us keep him every weekend, and various other threats. He says do what you need to do. She then tells him (while she starts crying) that I was bad mouthing him this morning, I'm always mean to the child because I hate her, and everything she's doing is my fault. If I hadn't said bad things about him, she would never act this way.

She is a proven liar, and has been her entire life. I don't ever say bad things about my guy (especially wouldn't to her), and I treat the son just like I do my own. She took advantage of my guy before we started dating and then living together and now that I'm in the picture, he doesn't cater to her whims and wants the way he used to. That is her major problem.

I have gone out of my way to be nice and to do everything I can to benefit the child (keep him from being shuffled) but I am at a total loss. I am so angry I don't know which way to turn.
I have lots of thoughts and feelings about her that I keep to myself because I try to stay out of the middle. Now she drags me right in and my guy says just to avoid her and not say anything. I know he's probably right, but it doesn't help me any right now.

I hate when people use kids as pawns...

If the new boyfriend doesn't like her son, she doesn't think her son will pick up on her choosing the boyfriend over him? What kind of crapola is that? Sounds like maybe your husband should threaten back and say that perhaps he should assume full custody.

My parents had joint custody of me and it worked very well...we did M&W with dad...T&H with mom, F, Sat and Sun were lumped together and alternated...it worked very well.

 

[LUVMYTINK]

Oh man my neighbors are cruel. Someone on the street is grilling steaks.
All I can think of right now is having a steak with a baked potato & an artichoke.
I know what I'm making FE make for dinner when he comes home. He's the grill master of the house

 

[Thats_for_Shore]

Well, I loaded the dishwasher, started a load of laundry, took out 3 bags of trash (yes three, I told you my kids were pigs that never clean up anything) and I cleaned the mud room.

I just took a 5 minute break to DIS, and now I'm going to tackle the living room.

Wish me luck. If you don't see me later, please, send a search party, as I'm sure I've gotten lost in all the clutter.

 

[Mkrop]

No...they have joint custody...we have him M, W, F and all day Sat. until between 4 and 6. Those were the arrangements. My guy works different shifts (he's management in retail) so I'm always the one to keep the child. Not a problem, I love having him!!! She asks to switch days with us, which we almost always do...but now she's on a kick about wanting us to keep him every weekend instead of what was arranged so that she can go out with her boyfriend (who doesn't like her son). I had to drop off some things to her this morning, and I was nice (as usual). She asked me about switching to weekends only and I told her she'd have to talk to him about that. She called him, at which point he says, no-we go with what was planned and we can switch sometimes when you need to. She then proceeds to tell him she will now keep him all the time, will take him back to court to make us keep him every weekend, and various other threats. He says do what you need to do. She then tells him (while she starts crying) that I was bad mouthing him this morning, I'm always mean to the child because I hate her, and everything she's doing is my fault. If I hadn't said bad things about him, she would never act this way.

She is a proven liar, and has been her entire life. I don't ever say bad things about my guy (especially wouldn't to her), and I treat the son just like I do my own. She took advantage of my guy before we started dating and then living together and now that I'm in the picture, he doesn't cater to her whims and wants the way he used to. That is her major problem.

I have gone out of my way to be nice and to do everything I can to benefit the child (keep him from being shuffled) but I am at a total loss. I am so angry I don't know which way to turn.
I have lots of thoughts and feelings about her that I keep to myself because I try to stay out of the middle. Now she drags me right in and my guy says just to avoid her and not say anything. I know he's probably right, but it doesn't help me any right now.

I agree with your DB. Keep things the same way, have him say fine take us to court, sounds like she is use to getting him to just do what she wants , do you really think she would follow through with going to court? I doubt it. Unless you want the child more at your house so he can feel wanted instead of shafted by mom and her new beau.

As for you and her, ignore her and kill her with kindness when necessary. She is trying to get a rise out of you. JMHO.

GL

 

[Mkrop]

I got baseball uniforms washed. Ironed DS10's uniform stuff (I am ahead here he doesnt have school until Wed ) and made him do his 15 millionth project of 4th grade. He will be done it tomorrow. This one was Our Lady of Guadalupe and Our Lady of Knock Ireland. Exciting stuff.

Ribs are in the oven. I need to go get the rest of whatever I am making started.

 

[LaraK]

I got baseball uniforms washed. Ironed DS10's uniform stuff (I am ahead here he doesnt have school until Wed ) and made him do his 15 millionth project of 4th grade. He will be done it tomorrow. This one was Our Lady of Guadalupe and Our Lady of Knock Ireland. Exciting stuff.

Ribs are in the oven. I need to go get the rest of whatever I am making started.

Hmmm...that makes me think of a thread....

 

[MoniqueU]

well I actually cleaned today too. You don't know what a miracle that is. I called my husband at work and told him I had a surprise for him that wasn't a dog or a couch or costs any money LOL. Usually when I have a surprise it's a new pet or furniture that he doesn't have any clue about.

2 of my kids are home. My son was supposed to go paintballing with his wrestling team but only one other kid showed up to do it. Luckily it was someone we know so he could get a ride back home.

My oldest daughter is in AZ with my youngest daughters best friends older sister who is `16, My mom drove them out there for a concert of Panic at the Disco. My daughter forgot her sunscreen and says her feer are burnt. I hope not too bad and my mom told her to get some snacks and she said she didn't want any so now I have a hungry burnt 11 year old stranded in the desert. My mom is just about at my aunts house in southern az to drop off some much needed clothes to my cousin for her kids and won't be back to the concert area to bring suppiles until probably just when the concert is starting. I sure hope they sell food there. We loaded her and our neighbor up with money so hopefully they sell something. I am a nervous wreck a little bit right now LOL. They should of just started letting the kids in a few minutes ago and it did sound like she was having fun, this is just something I have never let her do before so I am just crossing my fingers I didn't make a bad decison. The neighbor girl is super responsible though and very mature for her age. Now I am wishing my son who wanted to go but decided to do the paintball instead would of gotten to go. He is super responsible too. Not sure where I got all these good teenagers around me but either I am dense or there are really some good ones left out there. LOL

Ok now back to putting the kids to work to help clean up some more.

Ok she just called me and they had a dance competition for some local radio station and she did her cheer routine and now gets to meet the band. WOW, she was so excited. I can't believe it LOL.

 

[Mkrop]

Hmmm...that makes me think of a thread....

do tell

 

[LaraK]

do tell

Made a Sunday Dinner thread.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Yummy!!!!!!!!!!!!
Great now I want some cream of wheat.

I bought some cream of wheat the day it was brought up here. .had some this morning w/brown sugar. But I do like my grits, too.


We just gto back from the Golden Corral (the Trough) for dinner. As I sat there looking at my plate with about 12 different items touching each other, mixing into each other, laying on top of each other...I thought of you, Lara.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

double post-doggone slow Dis

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

I got baseball uniforms washed. Ironed DS10's uniform stuff (I am ahead here he doesnt have school until Wed ) and made him do his 15 millionth project of 4th grade. He will be done it tomorrow. This one was Our Lady of Guadalupe and Our Lady of Knock Ireland. Exciting stuff.

Ribs are in the oven. I need to go get the rest of whatever I am making started.

on the project. We and I do mean WE finished our poster of an animal(barracuda) and it's habitat this afternoon, it looks pretty good.. Trying to teach a 4th grader that fine line between "your own words" and plagerism is a difficult one, but we managed. We have a couple of things done on the diorama..it will be froma scene from a book called "Hatchet" about a kid alone surviving in the wilderness. There is a scene with a tornado, and we are going to shape steel wool (not Brillo pads, the plain kind ) into a funnel shape and have it destroy everything in the diorama box..at least thats the plan..

 

[Mkrop]

on the project. We and I do mean WE finished our poster of an animal(barracuda) and it's habitat this afternoon, it looks pretty good.. Trying to teach a 4th grader that fine line between "your own words" and plagerism is a difficult one, but we managed. We have a couple of things done on the diorama..it will be froma scene from a book called "Hatchet" about a kid alone surviving in the wilderness. There is a scene with a tornado, and we are going to shape steel wool (not Brillo pads, the plain kind ) into a funnel shape and have it destroy everything in the diorama box..at least thats the plan..

The Hatchet project sounds cool.

The librbarian at school went over plagiarism the other day so now DS10 is all worried and this religion porject said to write it on your "own fourth grade lanuguage"

I was thinking of you and your project the other day. After you mentioned barracudas, I couldnt get the Heart song out of my head, then I turned on AI Gives Back and Heart was performing the song with Fergie. Then the next day I heard it on a Toyata commercial.

 

[mdrob214]

I got baseball uniforms washed. Ironed DS10's uniform stuff (I am ahead here he doesnt have school until Wed ) and made him do his 15 millionth project of 4th grade. He will be done it tomorrow. This one was Our Lady of Guadalupe and Our Lady of Knock Ireland. Exciting stuff.

Ribs are in the oven. I need to go get the rest of whatever I am making started.

We had ribs, too! And leftover pasta from the restaurant last night.

I bought some cream of wheat the day it was brought up here. .had some this morning w/brown sugar. But I do like my grits, too.


We just gto back from the Golden Corral (the Trough) for dinner. As I sat there looking at my plate with about 12 different items touching each other, mixing into each other, laying on top of each other...I thought of you, Lara.

We call Golden Corral 'The Trough', too! Used to be the nicest restaurant (other than Applebees) that we had in Warner Robins--we went there a lot when the kids ate free.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

The Hatchet project sounds cool.

The librbarian at school went over plagiarism the other day so now DS10 is all worried and this religion porject said to write it on your "own fourth grade lanuguage"

I was thinking of you and your project the other day. After you mentioned barracudas, I couldnt get the Heart song out of my head, then I turned on AI Gives Back and Heart was performing the song with Fergie. Then the next day I heard it on a Toyata commercial.

Heart's "Barracuda" has been running through my mind the entire week!" I wish my DS10 was as worried about plagerism as yours. I would have him read a paragraph and then tell me (can you believe his teacher told me I can type it for him? I LOVE her!) in his own words what it meant. He would leave out a couple of words, but everything else was verbatim. I had to help him find his words on this a bit..no meds today .

We had ribs, too! And leftover pasta from the restaurant last night.

We call Golden Corral 'The Trough', too! Used to be the nicest restaurant (other than Applebees) that we had in Warner Robins--we went there a lot when the kids ate free.

The boys love the Trough, DH doesn't like it because he eats too much. My boys are very picky, so we go there once in a while to watch them eat.. I like all the veggies, since all I usually do is open a can of green beans and corn with my meals..that's all my kids like at home. I AM STUFFED... My kids eat pretty cheap there, $3.99 and $4.99. Not much more than a happy meal!

Listen to how I am talking up Golden Corral..can you tell I don't get out much?

 

[LaraK]

Well, I'm ready to explode...had pork roast (italian style), Au Gratin potatos and green beans...I ate enough to puke for a week and still be full.

 

[mdrob214]

Well, I'm ready to explode...had pork roast (italian style), Au Gratin potatos and green beans...I ate enough to puke for a week and still be full.

That is a lovely image....

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

That is a lovely image....

Thank you for sharing that.

 

[Thats_for_Shore]

Ew, Lara, thanks for that.

I put away three loads of laundry, and cleaned the living room and dining room. Started even more laundry, threw a pizza in the oven (hey the kids love it), threw the kids in the tub, got the crabbers checks ready (easy -- there was only 1 crabber this week), got my stuff together for tomorrow that I'll need.

I now have errands to run tomorrow after work (bank, and renewing our license plates), so I won't be home as early as I wanted to be.

At least I feel like I got something done today.