The Good Ole Freap Chat ~ Sequel Part III ~

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

happy Birthday Marna

I also tend to back away from some of the thread on the CB. If I post on some of them you would never see me around anymore

I love the pictures. The puppy is so cute as are the kids.

Maggie I am glad you are feeling ok. Just rest when ever you can. Are you guys going to find out what the baby is or are you going to wait?

 

[Maggimus]

happy Birthday Marna

I also tend to back away from some of the thread on the CB. If I post on some of them you would never see me around anymore

I love the pictures. The puppy is so cute as are the kids.

Maggie I am glad you are feeling ok. Just rest when ever you can. Are you guys going to find out what the baby is or are you going to wait?

Thank you!! We will definitely be finding out in about 10 weeks. There is no way I could wait-- I'm eager to know what to prepare for, and ready to start collecting all the cute gender related stuff.

Marna I love your photos. The snow covered scenery is beautiful- but I must admit, I hate cold weather so I really feel for you. Your home is so gorgeous- LOVE the wood!

 

[It's A Happy Day]

ITS A GIRL!

Then again, I'm only guessing Girls rule Boys drool!

 

[Alesia]

ITS A GIRL!

Then again, I'm only guessing Girls rule Boys drool!

Well, I hope it is. I have the cutest hat ready for her.

If it's a boy...well, back to the drawing board, I guess.

 

[Maggimus]

ITS A GIRL!

Then again, I'm only guessing Girls rule Boys drool!

Well, I hope it is. I have the cutest hat ready for her.

If it's a boy...well, back to the drawing board, I guess.

You guys are cracking me up!!

I don't know whether most pregnant people get in their head what they think it is going to be or not. For some reason DH and I both *think* it will be a girl. We've been having that *thought* for a while now! Although my neighbor swore she was having a boy and went last week and they said she was having a girl. I think they were disappointed because its her second and she already has a girl. Honestly, Ive never had any boy siblings so having a boy would be really fun. And DH would have a pal to roughhouse. So I would be happy either way (so would DH) But we both have this feeling that its a girl. I'll know for sure in a few more weeks. I hope these weeks go by fast because I'm so excited to know!! Either way!! I just want to start putting together the nursery and stuff. Since its our first, we will be overjoyed with a happy baby period

 

[Alesia]

You guys are cracking me up!!

I don't know whether most pregnant people get in their head what they think it is going to be or not. For some reason DH and I both *think* it will be a girl. We've been having that *thought* for a while now! Although my neighbor swore she was having a boy and went last week and they said she was having a girl. I think they were disappointed because its her second and she already has a girl. Honestly, Ive never had any boy siblings so having a boy would be really fun. And DH would have a pal to roughhouse. So I would be happy either way (so would DH) But we both have this feeling that its a girl. I'll know for sure in a few more weeks. I hope these weeks go by fast because I'm so excited to know!! Either way!! I just want to start putting together the nursery and stuff. Since its our first, we will be overjoyed with a happy baby period

I'm sure that you will be thrilled no matter what you get. I know what you mean about what wanting to get things ready. I went to Gymboree the day I found out I was pregnant. I didn't buy anything, but I just couldn't stop myself from going in there to see the tiny clothes.

Chris and I knew we were having a girl (although, when you think about it, there's a 50% chance, so it hardly takes any real psychic ability.)

I think on his part, it was wishful thinking. He really wanted a girl. Occasionally, when someone finds out that she's an only child (and that we have no intention of changing that fact) they will actually ask me why I don't want to give my husband a son. I always say, "When were you born? 1683?"

OK, rant over.

 

[maddhatir]

For some reason DH and I both *think* it will be a girl.

When you first told us, "girl" popped into my head too.

Has anyone seen the movie, The Wrestler?

DH and I going to see it tonight. I like Mickey's voice. So sexy.

 

[Alesia]

When you first told us, "girl" popped into my head too.

Has anyone seen the movie, The Wrestler?

DH and I going to see it tonight. I like Mickey's voice. So sexy.

I want to see it. It looks really good.

We went to see Twilight the other day. It was better than I thought it would be. Robert Pattinson is so dreamy. I thought he was really cute as Cedric Diggory in Harry Potter and I felt kind of skeevy drooling over a teenage wizard. Yet, somehow, drooling over a teenage vampire seems less depraved. Weird

 

[Maggimus]

I'm sure that you will be thrilled no matter what you get. I know what you mean about what wanting to get things ready. I went to Gymboree the day I found out I was pregnant. I didn't buy anything, but I just couldn't stop myself from going in there to see the tiny clothes.

Chris and I knew we were having a girl (although, when you think about it, there's a 50% chance, so it hardly takes any real psychic ability.)

I think on his part, it was wishful thinking. He really wanted a girl. Occasionally, when someone finds out that she's an only child (and that we have no intention of changing that fact) they will actually ask me why I don't want to give my husband a son. I always say, "When were you born? 1683?"

OK, rant over.

"Give him a son"... sheesh- thats what's wrong with the world today. People popping out children by the dozens just because they can... or until they get the one they want.

When you first told us, "girl" popped into my head too.

Has anyone seen the movie, The Wrestler?

DH and I going to see it tonight. I like Mickey's voice. So sexy.

I dont know why we have the feeling of a girl but we do. However, even though Dh says he thinks its a girl, and tells people that- when we are in deep conversation he says "he" about the baby. SO its kind of confusing. Maybe he doesn't know what he thinks it is. Or "he" comes more naturally to him. lol

My mom saw The Wrestler and she said even though she cant stand Mickey Rourke and didn't follow wrestling she thought it was really good.

 

[maddhatir]

"Give him a son"... sheesh- thats what's wrong with the world today. People popping out children by the dozens just because they can... or until they get the one they want.

Imagine the lectures we child-free (by choice) get from people. (hey ShyVi!) I feel like I am not part of the human race But that's OK- I like it that way!

I dont know why we have the feeling of a girl but we do. However, even though Dh says he thinks its a girl, and tells people that- when we are in deep conversation he says "he" about the baby. SO its kind of confusing. Maybe he doesn't know what he thinks it is. Or "he" comes more naturally to him. lol

My mom saw The Wrestler and she said even though she cant stand Mickey Rourke and didn't follow wrestling she thought it was really good.

Thanks Maggie- I am glad we are going to see it. I will let you know what we think.

Get this- my cousin and his wife just had their first baby (he is in his 40s and never wanted kids, blah blah- it happened) anyway, he calls the poor little girl "it"! She is 4 months old now, you think he would get used to saying "she" by now!

 

[Maggimus]

Imagine the lectures we child-free (by choice) get from people. (hey ShyVi!) I feel like I am not part of the human race But that's OK- I like it that way!



Thanks Maggie- I am glad we are going to see it. I will let you know what we think.

Get this- my cousin and his wife just had their first baby (he is in his 40s and never wanted kids, blah blah- it happened) anyway, he calls the poor little girl "it"! She is 4 months old now, you think he would get used to saying "she" by now!

The lectures! Im sure you get a lot! Ive already had a chosen few from some people in my life as well. DH's 2nd cousins wife (I know- why would we even have contact with them- unfortunately he built our house so we see them often) asked me why id even want kids. How she regretted having the one she has (who is now in her late 20s). I suppose her annimosity is because she has raised her grandson in her home. Regardless, she gives me the lecture about how maybe I dont want kids (uhh... little to late now don't ya think?- not that it would change my mind at all), and how breastfeeding will make my ****s look like flap jacks (she knows im going to do it as long as im able)-- and that ill be a "cow" (feeding on demand). She literally said 'so you want to be a cow?'. LOL. I swear. This was like a 15 minute conversation with someone and by the end i just wanted to stand up and yank her hair out. You know those awkward situations where you just agree or sit quiet to get them to get it all out of their system and shut up. Yeah- it was one of those. Then I really don't know if i want an epidural... so that brought up a whole other can of worms. Ofcourse Dh doesn't see the controversy in these things so he brings them up without warning.... but me, i keep my trap shut so i dont have to hear it from other people. Since deciding no epidural I have a feeling I will be getting it. Ill take the class on it and sign the form regardless. I wanted to try and go natural- but the more and more i hear about it, and since my hospital isnt the most 'natural friendly' hospital, i'd say there will be a big needle in my back. Ill probably appreciate it then... but the thought of it now makes me cringe.

I had a good friend who was in her early 30s with absolutely no interest at all to be a mom. I thought it was great. She is the perfect aunt and honestly, kids aren't made for everyone (hence- some people who even have them regret them-- like Dh's second cousins wife). So no harm feelings from over here!!

Let me know about The Wrestler. I'd be interested in seeing it as well if I hear enough good things about it.

Anyone seen Gran Torino yet? Dh saw it, and so did some of our cousins but I fell asleep. When i woke up Dhs cousin was crying, her husband was just silent, and DH kept saying "wow what a good movie". LOL I didnt fall asleep because it was bad-- its just hard for me to stay up late at night. Insomnia, uncomfortable stomach=no sleep at night and no energy during the day. So i doze when I can. lol Im dying to see it though. I think ill do that soon..

 

[maddhatir]

The lectures! Im sure you get a lot! Ive already had a chosen few from some people in my life as well. DH's 2nd cousins wife (I know- why would we even have contact with them- unfortunately he built our house so we see them often) asked me why id even want kids. How she regretted having the one she has (who is now in her late 20s). I suppose her annimosity is because she has raised her grandson in her home. Regardless, she gives me the lecture about how maybe I dont want kids (uhh... little to late now don't ya think?- not that it would change my mind at all), and how breastfeeding will make my ****s look like flap jacks (she knows im going to do it as long as im able)-- and that ill be a "cow" (feeding on demand). She literally said 'so you want to be a cow?'. LOL. I swear. This was like a 15 minute conversation with someone and by the end i just wanted to stand up and yank her hair out. You know those awkward situations where you just agree or sit quiet to get them to get it all out of their system and shut up. Yeah- it was one of those. Then I really don't know if i want an epidural... so that brought up a whole other can of worms. Ofcourse Dh doesn't see the controversy in these things so he brings them up without warning.... but me, i keep my trap shut so i dont have to hear it from other people. Since deciding no epidural I have a feeling I will be getting it. Ill take the class on it and sign the form regardless. I wanted to try and go natural- but the more and more i hear about it, and since my hospital isnt the most 'natural friendly' hospital, i'd say there will be a big needle in my back. Ill probably appreciate it then... but the thought of it now makes me cringe.

I had a good friend who was in her early 30s with absolutely no interest at all to be a mom. I thought it was great. She is the perfect aunt and honestly, kids aren't made for everyone (hence- some people who even have them regret them-- like Dh's second cousins wife). So no harm feelings from over here!!

Let me know about The Wrestler. I'd be interested in seeing it as well if I hear enough good things about it.

Anyone seen Gran Torino yet? Dh saw it, and so did some of our cousins but I fell asleep. When i woke up Dhs cousin was crying, her husband was just silent, and DH kept saying "wow what a good movie". LOL I didnt fall asleep because it was bad-- its just hard for me to stay up late at night. Insomnia, uncomfortable stomach=no sleep at night and no energy during the day. So i doze when I can. lol Im dying to see it though. I think ill do that soon..

I guess the lectures come from all sides, for and against! I think the 2nd cousins wife crossed the line though. She should keep her mouth shut or just smile and say congrats.

I saw Gran Torino. I am not a Eastwood fan, so I did not care for the movie. I thought it was boring.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Imagine the lectures we child-free (by choice) get from people. (hey ShyVi!) I feel like I am not part of the human race But that's OK- I like it that way!

yup yup...I decided to finally pop in. Oh my all the baby talk...it seems EVERYONE is pregnant right now! So I'm just gonna sit back and be happy in my childfree life and look forward to all the concerts we're going to in the next few months!!

btw...we still really want to see The Wrestler as well, it's been at our theater for quite a while now, but things keep coming up and we haven't made it yet...let us know how it is if you see if before me Madd!

 

[maddhatir]

yup yup...I decided to finally pop in.

I will check in about the movie.

 

[It's A Happy Day]

Maggie ~ not sure why but thinking girl - have since you said your pg W/2 high risk pregnancies you learn to appreciate what you get although we really didn't care 1 way or the other girl or boy, just healthy. A friend who was pregnant at the time was really disappointed when she found out she was having a she instead of a he and that just didn't make any sense to me. That same friend has been dealing with that daughter having a brain tumor since she was 3 (she'll be 8) Puts things in perspective of what you wish for I am in no way saying she shouldn't have felt what she did but it makes the gender role seem so insignifant when you look at other things out there. As far as parenting ~ from conception on do what works and feels right for your & DH. That includes your birth plan ~ I went in with a try it w/o meds 1st but ended up with the epidural - no regrets. Short of beating your child(ren) there are no bad parenting techniques, just those that are not endorsed by everyone with an opinion There is no manual and you will pull your hair out, get grays from the experience...but it is also greatly rewarding as well. Enjoy it, sit quietly and laugh at them, and just have a conversation later about what a hoot __________ is to think It's all you can do short of beating them! We're here for ya to vent, whine, cry, cheer you on

 

[Maggimus]

Maggie ~ not sure why but thinking girl - have since you said your pg W/2 high risk pregnancies you learn to appreciate what you get although we really didn't care 1 way or the other girl or boy, just healthy. A friend who was pregnant at the time was really disappointed when she found out she was having a she instead of a he and that just didn't make any sense to me. That same friend has been dealing with that daughter having a brain tumor since she was 3 (she'll be 8) Puts things in perspective of what you wish for I am in no way saying she shouldn't have felt what she did but it makes the gender role seem so insignifant when you look at other things out there. As far as parenting ~ from conception on do what works and feels right for your & DH. That includes your birth plan ~ I went in with a try it w/o meds 1st but ended up with the epidural - no regrets. Short of beating your child(ren) there are no bad parenting techniques, just those that are not endorsed by everyone with an opinion There is no manual and you will pull your hair out, get grays from the experience...but it is also greatly rewarding as well. Enjoy it, sit quietly and laugh at them, and just have a conversation later about what a hoot __________ is to think It's all you can do short of beating them! We're here for ya to vent, whine, cry, cheer you on

That was really sweet. Im highly emotional right now anyway. I really appreciate everything you said!!

 

[jeankeri]

Maggie- love the additions in your siggy!!
For me- I think I would have been quite happy child-free. That said, I really 'took' to being a mom. My boys are the focus of my life, and while they are at the point of being separate from me (first trip out of the country-or anywhere- without Mom for DS13) I really feel obligated to put them first until my responsibility to raise them is over. I honestly don't get why people get guilted for not having kids, having too few kids, or too many (I won't get into the - that's just beyond this conversation). Life gives you what it gives you, especially when it comes to parenting. When they are grown with lives of their own, I will really enjoy going back to pre-kiddo things! A few concerts, travel with friends, etc sounds pretty good to me .
For some reason I always believed I was having boys, and I was. Doesn't mean I wouldn't have loved having girls, just never thought of girls once I knew I was pregnant. So, who knows? I do know that you have wanted this for awhile Maggie, and your baby will be very lucky to have you both as parents.

 

[Maggimus]

Maggie- love the additions in your siggy!!
For me- I think I would have been quite happy child-free. That said, I really 'took' to being a mom. My boys are the focus of my life, and while they are at the point of being separate from me (first trip out of the country-or anywhere- without Mom for DS13) I really feel obligated to put them first until my responsibility to raise them is over. I honestly don't get why people get guilted for not having kids, having too few kids, or too many (I won't get into the - that's just beyond this conversation). Life gives you what it gives you, especially when it comes to parenting. When they are grown with lives of their own, I will really enjoy going back to pre-kiddo things! A few concerts, travel with friends, etc sounds pretty good to me .
For some reason I always believed I was having boys, and I was. Doesn't mean I wouldn't have loved having girls, just never thought of girls once I knew I was pregnant. So, who knows? I do know that you have wanted this for awhile Maggie, and your baby will be very lucky to have you both as parents.

TY very much. Everyone is getting all sappy on me today. And here I am popping a Dorito in my mouth- lol. Dh and I have definitely wanted this, so no one will ever be able to say this was a mistake. It was planned on our part. I have been collecting baby stuff for a while now and reading a ton of pregnancy mags (thanks to the freebie thread!). However, its been weird because since ive been pregnant, i haven't really picked up any of the pregnancy reading material that I have. I guess reading about being pregnant is fun and all, but when you start experiencing the heartburn and indigestion, lack of sleep and upset stomach- reading about it doesnt appear as fun anymore. LOL.

 

[Maggimus]

I did want to add that I have no idea how someone can be pregnant and also raise a child (people with 2 more kids). Because for the past 6 weeks or so Ive barely been able to feed myself and DH- let alone a dependant child, and take care of them. Especially those that have feel cruddy- i dont know how they do it with another child. So I admire those people for the strength and patience..

 

[Alesia]

As far as labor and delivery go, I think its a good idea to have some idea of what you want, but realize that almost nothing will go according to plan. Be prepared for your expectations to be thrown out the window.

I went in planning on an epidural. As it turned out, my labor progressed much more quickly than I thought (not that I'm complaining.) I had one big contraction and then it was time to push. seriously. I say that I was in labor for about 2 hours, but the first hour and a half consisted of me watching the people's court and having a tiny contraction every few minutes.

easy peasy lemon squeezy.