The Duggar's

[Disney Ontario]

Hi. Has anyone else noticed that the son's new wife looks like part of the family. I swear that she looks so much like his sisters.

 

[Nancy]

Wow...this shows that you don't really watch the show. Truthfully, their cousin Amy, who they are VERY close to, is about as opposite of them as you could imagine. She openly admits to kissing boys and not having the same lifestyle as her cousins. They all know that they are the minority in their beliefs and lifestyle. I've never heard them say bad things about people who live differently.

The one little boy in the family cracked me up on the one show when he said "she's not like us but we like her anyway"

Someone commented on the brides age, I think they said she was 21 in the engagement show.

Just one other comment. I really think the family is cute, the little ones are adorable and funny as all get out. they seem really nice. I may not get their lifestyle but I don't have to. Now Jim Bob? he just gives me the willies, don't know why but he creeps me out.

 

[ksjayhawks]

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Well my grandmother (on my father's side) had 21 children - she was brought here from Italy at the age of 14 for an "arranged" marriage.. Back then school was "optional".. My dad dropped out at a very young age (in elementary school) to help with the other kids and to work on the farm.. Doesn't appear that he or any of his siblings had problems with social skills or feeling that their entire lives revolved around taking care of the younger kids.. When they became adults, they remained a very, very close knit family..

My late DH had 14 brothers and sisters.. Although not home-schooled, the older kids were expected to help with the younger kids.. Back then it was the "norm" when people had large families.. If anything, it taught the kids how to be responsible from a very early age.. They also helped to take care of their elders (grandparents) when they became ill and had to move into the family home.. Again - it was the "norm"..

I think parents today don't understand it because they have been raised in a different era - where large families are no longer the norm - so it seems foreign to them.. It's basically a return to the way families lived many years ago.. The majority of them grew up just fine - and I think the Duggar kids are a perfect example of how it "can" work today - if a family chooses that type of lifestyle..

I have to agree with you. My mom was the youngest of 10--an older group of 6 and then a younger group of 4. She talks about the older ones helping the younger. She and her sister also helped with the nieces and nephews of the older siblings. It was what they did. My dad was the oldest of 6 and had responsibilities with the younger ones, then when they moved to a bigger city about 7 miles away, he stayed with his uncle and grandpa to help on the farm and help with grandpa.

My grandma on my mom's side was the youngest of 17 that survived and the situation was the same. I grew up with several large (9 to 13) families and they did the same thing. It was what the family did to help out, to run smoothly, to survive. Noone felt like they were being forced to do it.

 

[HunnyPots]

True but those poor kids will never be able to be kids. They are constantly babysitting I'm sure. Also they are home schooled so I wonder how well their social skills are with non family. I also wonders if any of them are Special Needs?

Not that I am a Dugger wanna-be for sure but, do you realize that the concept of kids "just being kids" and not having to shoulder some family responsibility is quite new? My grandfather was the youngest of 14 and all the older kids helped raise the younger ones. That's just how it was. And everybody worked, whether it was tending the fields or in the house. And you know what? My grandfather never had a bad word to say about how he was brought up - he certainly never felt "cheated" out of childhood. Children still played and had fun - they were just not coddled and doted on like they are now. Honestly, I think our elders had the right idea about child-rearing but its gotten lost over the last few generations. JMO...

 

[ilovejack02]

Not that I am a Dugger wanna-be for sure but, do you realize that the concept of kids "just being kids" and not having to shoulder some family responsibility is quite new? My grandfather was the youngest of 14 and all the older kids helped raise the younger ones. That's just how it was. And everybody worked, whether it was tending the fields or in the house. And you know what? My grandfather never had a bad word to say about how he was brought up - he certainly never felt "cheated" out of childhood. Children still played and had fun - they were just not coddled and doted on like they are now. Honestly, I think our elders had the right idea about child-rearing but its gotten lost over the last few generations. JMO...

I agree. This day and age.. our kiddos ( mine included) dont have a ton of responsibility and I think that is a
problem. I grew up in a large Catholic community and big families were the norm. All the kids helped out with everything. Now 18 yrs later I look at all of my friends and am amazed at just how well everyone is doing and I know it has to do with how we were all raised.

I now live in an area that is mainly Baptist .. and have quite a few friends that live somewhat like the Duggars and the Kellers do.
It is not a surprise to me to hear Anna's father mention the authority the man has over the household. I know several families like this and honestly while it is not quite my cup of tea, I dont think it is a bad thing. The couples i know that follow this belief have husbands that are very loving and respectful of their wives and it is really more of looking at their husbands for guidance .. not as someone to rule the roost .. or someone they have to "obey"

The Duggars arent a family that I want to be like, but they are kind and loving and I think we should want that in our lives.

I looked at Josh and Anna's website and I believe it said they are the same age.

 

[bumbershoot]

Not that I am a Dugger wanna-be for sure but, do you realize that the concept of kids "just being kids" and not having to shoulder some family responsibility is quite new?

Absolutely.

My dad is one of 7, and by the time the two youngest were born, the oldest was married with a kid of his own. They all worked for the family (except for my "black sheep" rebel dad) and worked hard.

Hi. Has anyone else noticed that the son's new wife looks like part of the family. I swear that she looks so much like his sisters.

OK. If my SIL ever weighed the same (she's a tiny thing) we'd look quite alike. So?

How do they know they are going to have physical chemistry to last a life time if they haven't ever kissed?

I'm confused but in a different way, b/c I thought that having the same values, plans, thoughts about what life is about, and so on are a better way to judge if you might last a lifetime, rather than chemistry.

 

[Diva of Dragons]

If I were Michelle Duggar's lady bits, I'd go on strike.

The woman must have a uterus of steel.

*shudder*

Actually the popular comparison for her uterus, around the DIS, is that it's more like a clown car.

As far as their lifestyle is concerned, it bothers a bit me when anyone raises their kids to be super sheltered. I don't think it prepares them for the world. On the other hand, to each his own. We all make the choices that work for our lives. Everyone is different. Even the people we think are just like us are so not, behind closed doors.

I don't see what being on TV has to do with Christianity. On the positive side, these shows exist to educate the masses on the diversity of
of our country/world. I'm always fascinated, whether I agree with the subjects or not. In the Duggar's case, I imagine they see it a great way to "witness" to millions of people who would otherwise never come into contact with them.

It also does not bother me that people make money doing this stuff. We live in a free enterprise, capitalist country. As long as someone isn't thieving, extorting, bilking... people out of money, for personal gain, I say more power to 'em.

As long as they aren't hurting anyone, I couldn't care less. I'm going to watch the wedding episode now. I'm prepared to be totally creeped out by the whole wedding advice stuff. It's like Joe Simpson being sooooooo involved in Jessica Simpson's virginity and loss thereof.

OK, my one true objection to Michelle Duggar's perpetual state of prgnancy is that she was warned a long time ago to stop. It would really suck if something happened to her in preg. or labor and she left her mutitudes behind. Jimbo could never handle it.

I'm done...who knew I had so much to say about these peeps? I need more excitment in my life! LOL!!

 

[Diva of Dragons]

yeah, yeah, I'm already back. I just started watching the wedding episode. I would invite all the Duggars to live in my house if I could get those dratted cooking women to take their freaking hands out of the food!!!! (insert spewing smilie)

 

[cap'njack.]

Hiya all.

Just read this thread with much interest. I'm from England and we have recently had a Duggers invasion on one of our lifestyle tv channels. We are massivly behind you guys though (they have just begun buiding thier own house)

I have to say that thier lifestyle isn't for me, but then my lifestyle probbably isn't for them.

I do feel that they are slightly odd, however each to thier own. Large families like that seem to be very, very rare over here nowadays.

I don't understand why people feel the need to bash them on websites though, although as they are in the public eye they obviously recieve the same treatment as everyone else in the public eye in this Celebrity crazed world that we live in these days.

 

[suzimar57]

that scene where the helper woman had her hands in the crab salad - eww! put some gloves on, already!

 

[aprilgail2]

No thanks.

I saw a pic on a previous Duggar thread a pic of the oldest son (Josh) and his bride. The poor girl looked to be maybe 18.... maybe older, but somehow I'm doubting it..... geez.

I was watching the episode last night when he proposed to her and it was just odd- they giggled like two 10 year olds the whole episode they are so young, he still has zits for petes sake! I dont get this whole hugging to the side thing, like you would hug someone you hardly know. Also his whole thing about dating people you are not going to marry cracked me up -the whole, every time you date someone you give them a peice of your heart and if you date a lote of people then you won't have much of your heart to give to the one you are marrying . I guees that is something the parents brainwash them into thinking. Also when Jim Bob said that Michelle had dated a few boys before they married so she brought a lot of baggage into the marraige- oh brother.

 

[dbogen]

I laughed when Jim Bob was giving him "the talk" But some of the things he said about marriage and how men and women are different, I really liked. I think if some couples were given that talk, it might save a few fights.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

What I don't understand, is they are not the only family with 18 kids. My mom and dad had 15 kids, in 17 years! Three babies died as infants, so they raised 12 of us, but there were no reality tv shows paying us and paying FOR everything we needed.

Not that mom and dad would agree to our lives being televised for the whole country to see. Dad was a falling down, mean drunk, and mom could be a raving lunatic when she got mad. Us kids? We were always fighting with someone. Our house was PURE chaos.

 

[pweyl36]

Those parents are just way over the top. Poor kid has to follow whatever his parents desire. I couldnt imagine living by those rules.

Didnt you have rules at your house? If so you survived didnt ya?

 

[pweyl36]

I agree. Their parents are fundamental Christians who have put them on display to make money. The house they have was given to them. They are constantly on TV.

Where did you get your info, They paid for that house them self,Yes they did have some people help them, but they never had anybody give them finanical help. The father makes enough money to support them self.

 

[java]

Where did you get your info, They paid for that house them self,Yes they did have some people help them, but they never had anybody give them finanical help. The father makes enough money to support them self.

Acutally I think I remember the show when they first were going through the house and mentioned that TLC had bought the appliances? does that ring a bell for anyone?
And for the father making enough money. Doesn't the Mom have a business selling clothing? So it's not all the FATHER. Although they certainly like to build up the men in that religion.

And I was giggling when he ripped the train off her dress. In my wedding that would have been a disaster. In that wedding- no problem there are like 20 people capable of fixing it! That I could use!

 

[heartsy77]

Absolutely.

My dad is one of 7, and by the time the two youngest were born, the oldest was married with a kid of his own. They all worked for the family (except for my "black sheep" rebel dad) and worked hard.



OK. If my SIL ever weighed the same (she's a tiny thing) we'd look quite alike. So?



I'm confused but in a different way, b/c I thought that having the same values, plans, thoughts about what life is about, and so on are a better way to judge if you might last a lifetime, rather than chemistry.

I understand your point. My point is their are a multitude of things that will determine if a young couple can make it their whole lifetime together. IMHO physical chemistry is one of them! I was married at age 20 and we have made it to 11 years in June. If we had not even kissed or hugged normally, let alone anything else, how would I have known that we were physically compatible? I heard of many marriages that break up or least end up in counseling because they are not sexually compatible. I am not saying the should have sex before marriage, that is a personal choice, although I think the Druggers brainwash their kids a least to a degree, but no kissing and side hugging? To me it sets an unabtainable expectation of marriage.

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

Youth does not always guarantee a failed marriage

Agreed. I have an aunt who was only 16 when she married DUncle and they've been married forever.
I was only 20 and DH was 23 when we got married..we're about to celebrate our 10th anniversary.

Disney1fan2002--you guys fought because you weren't trusting enough in the Lord to keep your family from fighting. Also were you/your siblings blanket trained? That might have helped.

 

[pbharris4]

I was watching the episode last night when he proposed to her and it was just odd- they giggled like two 10 year olds the whole episode they are so young, he still has zits for petes sake! I dont get this whole hugging to the side thing, like you would hug someone you hardly know. Also his whole thing about dating people you are not going to marry cracked me up -the whole, every time you date someone you give them a peice of your heart and if you date a lote of people then you won't have much of your heart to give to the one you are marrying . I guees that is something the parents brainwash them into thinking. Also when Jim Bob said that Michelle had dated a few boys before they married so she brought a lot of baggage into the marraige- oh brother.

Did you notice that they were intensely holding hands alot? It's like he kept rubbing her hands all the time and kept stroking them. It's like he wanted to just plop a kiss on her, but knew he couldn't. I never seen such intense hand holding in my life. They are free to live their life they way they want, but I just don't get the no kissing clause.

 

[The Princess]

They are just plain wierd!!!!