DIS Dads The DIS Dad's Club VI - Man's Room

[stopher1]

Honestly, the thread doesn't automatically close at 250... we still have 2 more days before this baby gets shut down. I hope Don is ready with the next Chapter.

Well, the mods have been getting more proactive with lengthy threads too. Over on the VGC thread (version 1), we got a notice from mods when we hit 235 that it was time to gear up a new thread if we wanted to keep the discussion going. They indicated that they will shut them down sooner vs. later. And if we all recall, that happened last time much sooner than the time before, and the time before. My guess is that Don needs to be getting the next one ready now...

 

[prattpak]

Well, the mods have been getting more proactive with lengthy threads too. Over on the VGC thread (version 1), we got a notice from mods when we hit 235 that it was time to gear up a new thread if we wanted to keep the discussion going. They indicated that they will shut them down sooner vs. later. And if we all recall, that happened last time much sooner than the time before, and the time before. My guess is that Don needs to be getting the next one ready now...

Hey Don...just thought I would throw this out there....It's time sir, its time.

 

[that's nice]

Hey guys. Just popping in to say thanks all for the prayers - for both my FIL first, and more recently for my grandmother. Both are in interesting situations, certainly, but the most pressing right now is my grandmother.

Again, thanks for the prayers. Personally I'm praying that her pain and struggles will end, and she can be in peace. She's suffered from dementia the past few years, and this latest episode has seemed to rob her of everything she had left, and that's just no fun for anyone. She's had a good life, and is ready for its conclusion.

Stopher....

We will continue to pray for your family. Your grandmother has lived a very impressive and full life. My grandmother had alzheimer's and it was horrible to see her go out like that. She always had pep and loved gardening, cooking, knitting, reading, and spending time with her family. For a few years at the end she didn't know anybody and couldn't do anything for herself. It was heart breaking to see someone so active living like this.

I hope your grandmothers pain goes away and once again, continue praying for her.

 

[DisneyFed]

Does it always have to be a contest with you guys?

I mean come really?



am I there yet?

Easy answer.... YES!

First response nails it.....

I think it was FreezinRafiki who said something along the lines of..."I apologize to all the new guys for what's about to happen around here"




Plus, I had an advantage last time, I was 8 hours ahead of everyone else

Well, the mods have been getting more proactive with lengthy threads too. Over on the VGC thread (version 1), we got a notice from mods when we hit 235 that it was time to gear up a new thread if we wanted to keep the discussion going. They indicated that they will shut them down sooner vs. later. And if we all recall, that happened last time much sooner than the time before, and the time before. My guess is that Don needs to be getting the next one ready now...

Gentlemen....START. YOUR. ENGINES.

 

[DisneyFed]

Hey Don...just thought I would throw this out there....It's time sir, its time.

And who appears to be gearing up??

Stopher....

We will continue to pray for your family. Your grandmother has lived a very impressive and full life. My grandmother had alzheimer's and it was horrible to see her go out like that. She always had pep and loved gardening, cooking, knitting, reading, and spending time with her family. For a few years at the end she didn't know anybody and couldn't do anything for herself. It was heart breaking to see someone so active living like this.

I hope your grandmothers pain goes away and once again, continue praying for her.

Yes, this goes for me as well...

 

[carlnix30]

StopherAgain, thanks for the prayers. Personally I'm praying that her pain and struggles will end, and she can be in peace. She's suffered from dementia the past few years, and this latest episode has seemed to rob her of everything she had left, and that's just no fun for anyone. She's had a good life, and is ready for its conclusion.

Stopher,
That is a great way to look at it. May her and your pain and suffering be ended soon!

Dementia is a slow sneaky thief and One of my biggest fears is for that to happen to me!

 

[dvczerfs]

STOPHER, keeping you guys in the prayers.

 

[tutter99]

My moneys on a certain Dr who managed to change his login and get up over 200 posts in a single afternoon.

 

[prattpak]

My moneys on a certain Dr who managed to change his login and get up over 200 posts in a single afternoon.

What kind of sneaky, underhanded, cheatin,,,
,
,
wait that sounds like it might work!

 

[DisDadDoc]

Again, thanks for the prayers. Personally I'm praying that her pain and struggles will end, and she can be in peace. She's suffered from dementia the past few years, and this latest episode has seemed to rob her of everything she had left, and that's just no fun for anyone. She's had a good life, and is ready for its conclusion.

I'll pray for that too. There are many things that we can do "to" patients, but it is important to realize when you've crossed that line from doing something "for" your grandmother to doing something "to" your grandmother.

But it sounds like you are starting to come to acceptance and peace, which puts you miles ahead of many families. There aren't any "good" deaths, but a peaceful one surrounded by your family and friends is how I want to go when my time comes. God bless you and your family doing this difficult time.

 

[prattpak]

Hey guys. Just popping in to say thanks all for the prayers - for both my FIL first, and more recently for my grandmother. Both are in interesting situations, certainly, but the most pressing right now is my grandmother.

It has been an extremely crazy, frustrating, dreery kind of weekend/few days. My dad arrived in So Cal last night (he lives in San Francisco) and texted me an update about my grandmother. She didn't recognize her own son, which is sad, but not unexpected either. He last saw her about 2 weeks ago. His sister is due in from Washington state tonight. Their brother (my uncle, who is dealing with heart troubles himself) lives 10 minutes away from the assisted living home that my grandmother lives in - so he and my aunt have been her primary family caregivers for the past 4 years or so.

My dad said that she is still in lots of pain, but was responding a bit more pleasantly to the nurses trying to help her, rather than barking at them. She is refusing food, liquids and medication. Everyone is preparing for the eventual reality, but of course no one knows when that time will come - whether its now or still weeks or even months from now. The doctors told my uncle and dad that they estimate given her current condition, worst case in the next 36 hours or so, but probably a week or two, maybe, though not likely, a month. She has basically given up, and doesn't want to live anymore.

At her age, she has lived a long full life. She outlived my grandfather by 32 years, remarried a couple of years later, and then outlived her second husband as well. She's got a beau in the home, but told me a couple of years back that she didn't think she'd marry again... but was just enjoying the courtship She and my grandfather both were teachers, and spent many years working in elementary & secondary education. They spent their summers working with youth in summer camps, and in their 50's and 60's went on the mission field for 6 months at a time 6 different times to Alaska, where my grandfather died of a massive heart attack. With her second husband, a carpenter, they used their age and wisdom to influence young people in their church as Sunday School teachers for years, among other leadership roles, and made two trips to Israel once as participants, and the other time as the leaders/hosts. She was the 3rd of 6 children. She has 3 children of her own. She was married 62 years between both marriages, and has 7 grandchildren from her first marriage, another 8 from her second marriage, and 9 great grandchildren from both marriages combined. She's a diminuitive woman, towering over the youngest generations at 4'9". It has been a wonderful rite of passage for each generation when someone surpassed her. My wife, kids and I were blessed to be able to have lunch with her and spend a couple of precious hours with her in December. It was the first time we'd all been together with her in about 3 years... so these great-grands have some pleasant memories of her - especially since she was, like many years past, giving my middle son grief for having become "taller than grandma". Naturally she's been a primary topic of conversation in our house for the past several days.

Again, thanks for the prayers. Personally I'm praying that her pain and struggles will end, and she can be in peace. She's suffered from dementia the past few years, and this latest episode has seemed to rob her of everything she had left, and that's just no fun for anyone. She's had a good life, and is ready for its conclusion.

Stopher, dementia is a sad thing for families to go through. Im sorry yours is in this predicament. Prayers are with you brother. Keep your faith strong and it will help your family be stronger as a result.

 

[DisDadDoc]

Not to change the subject,

My moneys on a certain Dr who managed to change his login and get up over 200 posts in a single afternoon.

My engines are revved up!

 

[prattpak]

KING OF THE PAGE!!!!!

 

[afwdwfan]

Stopher, I completely understand what you're saying. My grandmother passed away on my 21st birthday. She had alzheimers and had suffered a couple of strokes over the years. It was painful to even visit her. I have no idea if she knew who we were, of if she even knew we were there when we visited her the last couple of years. It is always hard to lose someone you're close to, but you have to understand as hard as it is to see them like that, they probably aren't any happier to be living that way. Again, keeping you and your family in my prayers.

 

[GoHerd1028]

Christopher, we are still praying for you guys here as well....She sounds like a wonderful lady who gave as much love as she received in life! It reminds me of when my own Grandmother passed a few years ago. We were all together on Christmas Eve and Lauren had just been born so pictures were being taken everyhwere...then on New Years Eve her heart began to faail and then on Jan 3 she passed...at her funeral the minister said that there was really nothing he could say because she preached her own funeral with the life that she lived and all the people she touched throughout it. I feel that is the same of your Grandmother...Hang in there buddy!

 

[GoHerd1028]

Time to start cranking things up to see who gets the last word in!!

 

[afwdwfan]

Time to start cranking things up to see who gets the last word in!!

Guess I'd better post again then...

 

[GoHerd1028]

Guess I'd better post again then...

Yes, yes you should

 

[stopher1]

Stopher, I completely understand what you're saying. My grandmother passed away on my 21st birthday. She had alzheimers and had suffered a couple of strokes over the years. It was painful to even visit her. I have no idea if she knew who we were, of if she even knew we were there when we visited her the last couple of years. It is always hard to lose someone you're close to, but you have to understand as hard as it is to see them like that, they probably aren't any happier to be living that way. Again, keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Oh wow. My maternal grandmother died the day after my 21st birthday. I had been her primary caregiver for the family (outside of the convalescent hospital folks, of course) - and was there with her when she died. I'd been with her throughout the day prior (my birthday), and finally left to go home for some rest around 2am - after watching her inch ever closer to death. That last morning, while I was getting ready to go spend more time with her when the nurses called telling me that she had been calling out my name. I jumped in the car and got there quickly (no speeding though Fed ) , and was blessed to be there for the last two and a half hours of her life.

That won't be the case this time, but whenever the time comes, it'll be okay.

 

[stopher1]

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