The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 8

[Tammi67]

That's almost exactly what I told her, and it makes me feel better that really there isn't much more that can be done, given she's already filed a claim with them already (which is what I would have done anyways). Both of our concern was how to ask for a monetary compensation....and I like the "pain and suffering" aspect of what you said.

Sort of like compensation for what should have been a magical vacation turned into a not-so-magical one due to negligence on Disney's part. How's that sound?

 

[bear74]

This will make Paula post!!!!!!!!!!! Paula sent my kids a HUGE, GIGANTIC, ENORMOUS SSP filled with so much it blows my mind. John and I decided to divvy it out a little at a time, and they'll get most of it for their b'day this month from Miss Paula.

But, we gave them one thing this week when Rees went to the hospital. THEY LOVE THEM!!!!!!!!! Look how adorable the pillowcases are. I can't thank Paula enough for her generosity and thoughtfulness. What an awesome woman!

And, no, I did not use a stapler to attach the pillows to the kids...

Denise I can tell the kids really like their SSP pillow cases.
Paula you did a great job as usual.

 

[Tammi67]

You know, that anti-fanny pack "lady" is really getting to me. No self-esteem???? I'd like to tell her that when my husband died way before his time he left very little life insurance, and we had a lot of bills, including a mortgage that I couldn't pay on my own. I had to go bankrupt and start from scratch. I now own my own home - it's a mobile home, so I suppose she'd call me "trailer trash." However, it's got three bedrooms, two full baths, was brand new when I bought it 3-1/2 years go, and it is PAID FOR. I didn't work until my son was 16. I started out as a temp and worked my way up to legal secretary. I took the civil service test and came out number 1 in my county. I ended up as secretary to two different New York State Supreme Court Justices until their respective retirements. I am now a legal assistant in the commercial litigation department of one of the oldest and largest and most respected law firms in the Hudson Valley. I have two wonderful children and three grandchildren. I pay my bills, travel and enjoy my life. Do you think I lack self-esteem because I wear a fanny pack at Disney World? I have never heard anything so absurd. I think perhaps it's the other way around - SHE lacks self esteem and needs material things to make her feel good about herself. I really felt like posting all of this on that thread, but I think it's better to let that one die away. Thanks for letting me vent here.

You go, girl!

 

[tinker1bell]

You know, that anti-fanny pack "lady" is really getting to me. No self-esteem???? I'd like to tell her that when my husband died way before his time he left very little life insurance, and we had a lot of bills, including a mortgage that I couldn't pay on my own. I had to go bankrupt and start from scratch. I now own my own home - it's a mobile home, so I suppose she'd call me "trailer trash." However, it's got three bedrooms, two full baths, was brand new when I bought it 3-1/2 years go, and it is PAID FOR. I didn't work until my son was 16. I started out as a temp and worked my way up to legal secretary. I took the civil service test and came out number 1 in my county. I ended up as secretary to two different New York State Supreme Court Justices until their respective retirements. I am now a legal assistant in the commercial litigation department of one of the oldest and largest and most respected law firms in the Hudson Valley. I have two wonderful children and three grandchildren. I pay my bills, travel and enjoy my life. Do you think I lack self-esteem because I wear a fanny pack at Disney World? I have never heard anything so absurd. I think perhaps it's the other way around - SHE lacks self esteem and needs material things to make her feel good about herself. I really felt like posting all of this on that thread, but I think it's better to let that one die away. Thanks for letting me vent here.

June,

You go girl. Vent anytime.

 

[bear74]

Vicki so glad to hear it is not any real bad stuff for Chuck hopefully the autoimmune disorder will be easy to treat.

 

[tinker1bell]

You go, girl!

Tammi

I didn't know we were sharing the brain. I promise you can have it back tomorrow since I will not need it for the next week

 

[bethbuchall]

Something disturbing happened tonight, and I'm not really sure what I should have done. I just know that I didn't do the right thing.

I was walking home from a very lovely Art Show/Ice Cream Social at the elementary school. Thank goodness my kids weren't with me. This man that I know only a little (though he has become the Scout Master for our Cub Scout pack and is an assistant leader in Miles' den), started screaming horrible things to his older (perhaps 4th grade) son. Something happened between him and the younger son (1st grade), and the 1st grader was bleeding on his face. I didn't see what happened, but I got the sense that it was accidental, not malicious. I just couldn't believe the words that this man was screaming at his son. The mother was doing nothing. I am very embarrassed to say that I also did nothing, though I came home sobbing (and I'm getting teary as I write this). Dh said that I was right to stay out of it, but I just can't help feeling for that little boy. I can't believe this is a one time thing. You don't flip out in public like that. He was truly awful. I can't even write the things he was saying, absolute obscenities and things that must have made that child feel like an absolute nothing. Even if the older one did something on purpose, the man's behavior was totally uncalled for.

Miles will no longer be allowed to be anywhere near that man, but what should I have done for the son? The boys don't know me at all, nor does the mother. I feel like I let a helpless child down completely. And I'm in tears again...

Beth

 

[bear74]

Thank you all for the well wishes and prayers.

I went to see my regular Dr today because I was getting easily fatigued and my heart was racing. she thinks it is an allergic reaction to the Antibotic they put me on at the Hospital Penicillin VK 500mg. she told me to stop taking it. Last time I had it was 10am this morn. I can already tell a difference in my heart rate.
My cough is less productive and it is clear now. my nose is less runny and is also clear now.

 

[legalslave]

June,

You go girl. Vent anytime.

The funny thing is, when I first posted on that thread after reading about her Coach bag, I was only trying to point out in what I thought was a humorous way that she was being ridiculous without saying so or without flaming her. If she hadn't come back with her lack of self-esteem and not caring what you look like, etc. I think the thread would not have taken the turn that it did. Oh, well, that's out of my system now. It's kind of funny in a pathetic way. People at Disney World wearing fanny packs, crocs, and matching shirts are dorks!!! Oh my!! 95% dorks and 5% fashion police.

 

[tinker1bell]

ATTENTION


I will be at the shore starting tomorrow and will be back home next Friday. There is an internet cafe close by, but I don't know if I will get there unless DH goes fishing and lets me have the car. I do have to check out the shops since I told Steffy that we might have to change the location of our yearly shore shopping trip.
I know when someone goes away they ask everyone to keep the posting down to a dull roar. You can see how that works

So I will just say, KEEP POSTING lots and lots

and no I will not post pictures unless I am taking them.
I would scare ya'll, especially if I was wearing a bathing suit which I will not.

 

[Tammi67]

Tammi

I didn't know we were sharing the brain. I promise you can have it back tomorrow since I will not need it for the next week

Ok, we can just take turns.

 

[UP Disney]

The funny thing is, when I first posted on that thread after reading about her Coach bag, I was only trying to point out in what I thought was a humorous way that she was being ridiculous without saying so or without flaming her. If she hadn't come back with her lack of self-esteem and not caring what you look like, etc. I think the thread would not have taken the turn that it did. Oh, well, that's out of my system now. It's kind of funny in a pathetic way. People at Disney World wearing fanny packs, crocs, and matching ****s are dorks!!! Oh my!! 95% dorks and 5% fashion police.

That's funny. You must have mistyped that the first time to get the ****. Boy, you are upset!

 

[legalslave]

Something disturbing happened tonight, and I'm not really sure what I should have done. I just know that I didn't do the right thing.

I was walking home from a very lovely Art Show/Ice Cream Social at the elementary school. Thank goodness my kids weren't with me. This man that I know only a little (though he has become the Scout Master for our Cub Scout pack and is an assistant leader in Miles' den), started screaming horrible things to his older (perhaps 4th grade) son. Something happened between him and the younger son (1st grade), and the 1st grader was bleeding on his face. I didn't see what happened, but I got the sense that it was accidental, not malicious. I just couldn't believe the words that this man was screaming at his son. The mother was doing nothing. I am very embarrassed to say that I also did nothing, though I came home sobbing (and I'm getting teary as I write this). Dh said that I was right to stay out of it, but I just can't help feeling for that little boy. I can't believe this is a one time thing. You don't flip out in public like that. He was truly awful. I can't even write the things he was saying, absolute obscenities and things that must have made that child feel like an absolute nothing. Even if the older one did something on purpose, the man's behavior was totally uncalled for.

Miles will no longer be allowed to be anywhere near that man, but what should I have done for the son? The boys don't know me at all, nor does the mother. I feel like I let a helpless child down completely. And I'm in tears again...

Beth

Beth, you did the right thing. The man could have turned his wrath on you, and since you're an adult, he could have become physically abusive. The thing you can do now is to report this incident to the child protective services in your area. You could be saving a whole family from a lifetime of such abuse. It really sounds as though this man needs help and has no business being around young children.

 

[UP Disney]

ATTENTION


I will be at the shore starting tomorrow and will be back home next Friday. There is an internet cafe close by, but I don't know if I will get there unless DH goes fishing and lets me have the car. I do have to check out the shops since I told Steffy that we might have to change the location of our yearly shore shopping trip.
I know when someone goes away they ask everyone to keep the posting down to a dull roar. You can see how that works

So I will just say, KEEP POSTING lots and lots

and no I will not post pictures unless I am taking them.
I would scare ya'll, especially if I was wearing a bathing suit which I will not.

Have a wonderful, fabulous time! Like I really needed to say that! Get lots of and enjoy hanging out at the We'll keep busy so that you have lots to read when you return!

 

[legalslave]

ATTENTION


I will be at the shore starting tomorrow and will be back home next Friday. There is an internet cafe close by, but I don't know if I will get there unless DH goes fishing and lets me have the car. I do have to check out the shops since I told Steffy that we might have to change the location of our yearly shore shopping trip.
I know when someone goes away they ask everyone to keep the posting down to a dull roar. You can see how that works

So I will just say, KEEP POSTING lots and lots

and no I will not post pictures unless I am taking them.
I would scare ya'll, especially if I was wearing a bathing suit which I will not.

Have a nice relaxing and fun time.

 

[legalslave]

Ok, we can just take turns.

Just hope that she doesn't bruise it like Denise did ours!

 

[tinker1bell]

Something disturbing happened tonight, and I'm not really sure what I should have done. I just know that I didn't do the right thing.

I was walking home from a very lovely Art Show/Ice Cream Social at the elementary school. Thank goodness my kids weren't with me. This man that I know only a little (though he has become the Scout Master for our Cub Scout pack and is an assistant leader in Miles' den), started screaming horrible things to his older (perhaps 4th grade) son. Something happened between him and the younger son (1st grade), and the 1st grader was bleeding on his face. I didn't see what happened, but I got the sense that it was accidental, not malicious. I just couldn't believe the words that this man was screaming at his son. The mother was doing nothing. I am very embarrassed to say that I also did nothing, though I came home sobbing (and I'm getting teary as I write this). Dh said that I was right to stay out of it, but I just can't help feeling for that little boy. I can't believe this is a one time thing. You don't flip out in public like that. He was truly awful. I can't even write the things he was saying, absolute obscenities and things that must have made that child feel like an absolute nothing. Even if the older one did something on purpose, the man's behavior was totally uncalled for.

Miles will no longer be allowed to be anywhere near that man, but what should I have done for the son? The boys don't know me at all, nor does the mother. I feel like I let a helpless child down completely. And I'm in tears again...

Beth

Beth,
Just making sure Miles will not be near that man is all you can do.
I am sure the wife would have gotten an earful if anyone had said anything.
Just keep telling yourself that there was nothing you could do for the child, nothing. But on the good side, it was good that you saw the incident so you were able to make up your own mind about keeping Miles away from him.
Trust me I know your heart is breaking, but sometimes trying to intervene could cause more problems. Even though I would have wanted to do that same thing.

 

[Tammi67]

Something disturbing happened tonight, and I'm not really sure what I should have done. I just know that I didn't do the right thing.

I was walking home from a very lovely Art Show/Ice Cream Social at the elementary school. Thank goodness my kids weren't with me. This man that I know only a little (though he has become the Scout Master for our Cub Scout pack and is an assistant leader in Miles' den), started screaming horrible things to his older (perhaps 4th grade) son. Something happened between him and the younger son (1st grade), and the 1st grader was bleeding on his face. I didn't see what happened, but I got the sense that it was accidental, not malicious. I just couldn't believe the words that this man was screaming at his son. The mother was doing nothing. I am very embarrassed to say that I also did nothing, though I came home sobbing (and I'm getting teary as I write this). Dh said that I was right to stay out of it, but I just can't help feeling for that little boy. I can't believe this is a one time thing. You don't flip out in public like that. He was truly awful. I can't even write the things he was saying, absolute obscenities and things that must have made that child feel like an absolute nothing. Even if the older one did something on purpose, the man's behavior was totally uncalled for.

Miles will no longer be allowed to be anywhere near that man, but what should I have done for the son? The boys don't know me at all, nor does the mother. I feel like I let a helpless child down completely. And I'm in tears again...

Beth

Beth -
I know that you really wish you could help that child. But believe me, there is nothing you could have done in that one instant of time. You are right in guessing it is not a one-time thing. Someone just doesn't do that 'once.' If it will make you feel better, notify the school, social services, etc. But knowing the 'system', they will do a home visit, if that, everyone will put on happy faces and pretend all is well, and a form will get filled out and filed. But there is also that one in a million chance that by just speaking out, to the boy, the mother, the school, that you could change his life. It is truly sad. Good luck with whatever you decide.

 

[legalslave]

That's funny. You must have mistyped that the first time to get the ****. Boy, you are upset!

You read it too fast!!! I noticed it as soon as it came up and fixed it. I'd preview, but the server is too busy. Would you believe I normally can type 85 words per minute quite accurately? Of course, that's not on a laptop. It's on a normal keyboard.

 

[UP Disney]

Beth, you did the right thing. The man could have turned his wrath on you, and since you're an adult, he could have become physically abusive. The thing you can do now is to report this incident to the child protective services in your area. You could be saving a whole family from a lifetime of such abuse. It really sounds as though this man needs help and has no business being around young children.

I would be even more concerned that he might have really laid into the kid when they got home if you had said anything. If he is that abusive in public, can you imagine what he must be like in private? Abusive people tend to get even more mean when confronted and not necessarily with the person that confronted them. I also agree that you did the right thing. However, if you feel that strongly about it, I agree with June and you should report it to child services.