The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 7

[babytrees]

Whatever, and whenever you need it if questions arise! (anyone!)

ETA: I should clarify, though, in my parents defense (althoguh they'll never read this... ) --- they were as supportive as possible when I was growing up. It was them who eventually helped me get help, so I hope it never came across that they weren't! Mine stemmed from several other things, so that's why I mentioned that support systems help but aren't surefire answers. Just had to clarify, so my parents got some credit

Your parents didn't need defending-there are always lots of factors going into any food problem, enviroment, genetics, peers, etc....

I only mentioned that these girls have single daddies because the daddies seem to be overwhelmed with having girls. But they are awesome!! One was our cookie dad and the troop sold enough cookies to be super troop sellers. Which means a free day at Six Flags for all of them!!

 

[Glynis]

I'm so glad she has that teacher for support (and obviously a fantastic family support!). I wish I knew the answer to why....

I just got back from the school carnival. I spent some time talking with Katie's teacher about this. She told me that in her experience, 3rd grade is where it really starts with girls. She says that boys get angry with one another, and they physically fight and get over it. Girls are different. They brood, and stew and think about really mean things to say to hurt. For some reason, girls seem to know that verbal assaulting hurts for longer than physical violence. She's seen it happen every year. Luckily, she has a zero tolerance for this kind of bullying, and every time she sees it, that person is sent to the principal's office. He is also wonderful, and has let everyone know that bullying of any kind is inappropriate! In our school, it's 3 trips to the principal and you are out!!!

Unfortunately for Katie, this other girl is in our neighborhood, so confines her bullying to before and after school, when there are not grown ups around. I just found out about it, and have started walking to the bus stop with the kids, and just letting Katie know that I will be there for her forever!

As a mother, it's the hardest thing in the world to see your child going through this, when all they want is to be everyone's friend. Katie just can't understand why this girl is calling her names. I just told her she needs to let it roll off her back, and then she can come home and cry to me.

 

[Glynis]

Now, I'm a great multi-tasker but reading multiple books at one time the way you are is not something I think I could do!!!! I agree with Alan.

Yes, but you see, I don't store all my old locker combinations, kids social security numbers, etc. I've got a lot of spare room in the old noggin! Got to fill it with something!

 

[Glynis]

Different station I think, but Temptation Island comes to mind. That one bothered me SO much.... deliberately trying to ruin marriages? I was horrified!

AMEN!!!!! That was the worst! I never watched it, the whole premise just really disturbed me. It's hard enough to make a marriage work without someone deliberately trying to ruin it on national TV. Those couples that signed up really got what they deserved!

 

[babytrees]

Unfortunately for Katie, this other girl is in our neighborhood, so confines her bullying to before and after school, when there are not grown ups around. I just found out about it, and have started walking to the bus stop with the kids, and just letting Katie know that I will be there for her forever!

As a mother, it's the hardest thing in the world to see your child going through this, when all they want is to be everyone's friend. Katie just can't understand why this girl is calling her names. I just told her she needs to let it roll off her back, and then she can come home and cry to me.

It is roughest that kids, espescially girls, but I also was teased by boys, learn that what's said when no grown up is around usually doesn't get back to any grown up.

Really truly what we say at home sticks with them longer than any of their peers. I can't really remember what those little snots teased me about but I do remember my mom was always lifting me up. My biggest defense mechanism was ignoring them, when the bullies can't get a reaction they move on.

Cassidy's favorite saying is "I like who I am and my style" . I wish I could say the bullying gets easier as they get older but I think girls just find meaner and slicker ways to be mean to each other.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

Different station I think, but Temptation Island comes to mind. That one bothered me SO much.... deliberately trying to ruin marriages? I was horrified!

I watched one season of that and just to clarify -

none of the couples were ever married - I don't think any of the couples survived it - if you watched none of the couples were in a stable relationship to begin with - so really - they did them all a favor b/c it showed them that they had no future

ETA: in that season they found out that one fo the couples actually had a child together and they IMMEDIATELY pulled them off the island - the host told them that they were not in a position where they should be dating another couple but should be in therapy - they took the couple and put them on a tropical retreat together and got them counseling

 

[itdjbw]

The Peds Surgeon called tonight. He thinks that the Diverticula (area in the Esophagus that has pouched outward) may be the culprit as it can cause the symptoms Rees is having. The GI doc found it during the Endoscopy, but blew it off. I looked up Distal Esophageal Diverticula and it sounds just like Rees. The Surgeon also thinks it might be a hernia (para-esophageal hernia). So, he's calling tomorrow am to schedule some more tests. He too was worried about the weight loss and not eating and said he didn't want to have to put a feeding tube in. So Rees will have to go through more yucky tests. If it is the Diverticula, Rees will need Esophageal surgery to correct it. He said if it is the Fundo, he has a 90% success rate of repeating the surgery laparoscopically (vs open). That was good news.

I'm glad I got a 2nd opinion. And our GI doc sure won't want to see me and John if the Surgeon is right...

for you all

 

[Glynis]

Cassidy's favorite saying is "I like who I am and my style" . I wish I could say the bullying gets easier as they get older but I think girls just find meaner and slicker ways to be mean to each other.

I think Cassidy had the right idea. That's exactly why the home is so important. It's up to the parent to show that unconditional love so that kids feel comfortable talking about what's bothering them.

I just hope that I grow thicker skin as my kids get older and go through this. As it is, the mother bear in me comes out and I just want to tear this little girl to pieces.

 

[Tammi67]

I watched one season of that and just to clarify -

none of the couples were ever married - I don't think any of the couples survived it - if you watched none of the couples were in a stable relationship to begin with - so really - they did them all a favor b/c it showed them that they had no future

ETA: in that season they found out that one fo the couples actually had a child together and they IMMEDIATELY pulled them off the island - the host told them that they were not in a position where they should be dating another couple but should be in therapy - they took the couple and put them on a tropical retreat together and got them counseling

I have to admit that I watched the first season too. If people were in stable relationships, I don't think they would go on a show like this. The weirdest one was that psycho girl with the orange hair.

 

[itdjbw]

Now I'm thinking about it... what do y'all think a french accent sounds like as I don't sound anything like a french person... that's why I struggled in my french speaking classes at school

I sound nothing like 'French' as I know you don't
Don't know what planet he was from
I am normally asked if it an English or Australian accent

 

[babytrees]

I think Cassidy had the right idea. That's exactly why the home is so important. It's up to the parent to show that unconditional love so that kids feel comfortable talking about what's bothering them.

I just hope that I grow thicker skin as my kids get older and go through this. As it is, the mother bear in me comes out and I just want to tear this little girl to pieces.

Oh believe me with a couple of Cassidy's "friends" I have had to excuse myself from the room so I wouldn't throttle them. There is one that is not allowed back in my house because of what she has said to what she thought was Cassidy(I didn't sign out of Cassidy's IM fast enough). Keep the mama bear alive. I think our kids need to see that unconditional Mama bear love.

 

[itdjbw]

Here is an updated picture of our grandson Nathan...he is growing like a weed!!!

Kristine

Too Cute

 

[Blueeyes101817]

My opinion is that it is all hype, just to get people to watch it.

thats what i thought too

 

[mommykds]

That David Blaine guy freaks me out. My DH was at a meeting over there today & he said there was a huge crowd of onlookers..he just walked by & could care less (typical NY'er! ) I didn't even hear about this til today. I am not watching it on tv however I hope the guy doesn't kill himself or have brain damage...Yea, as someone posted he must be friends with Tom Cruise!

The redo of our home office & tv/playroom is going well. The walls are so bad in the office that I had to order wall liner to put up before we could paint. Hope that will cover the bumps well enough.

Denise,
Glad you got the surgeon's opinion. Sounds like that Dr. is testing more options than the original Dr. I'll keep you all in my thoughts & prayers.

The last full book I read (other than an over a 4th grade level for my kids) was Mouse Wars..about the history of the Disney company & all the feuds that went on behind the scenes..very interesting.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

hope andrew has a great game!

 

[mommy2emmersNmo]

Here is an updated picture of our grandson Nathan...he is growing like a weed!!!

Kristine

What a cutie! All these little boys and I want one sooo bad!!!

 

[mommy2emmersNmo]

Hello everyone! I wish I had the time to read through the 100's or is it 1000's of posts I have missed, but I just don't have the time right now. I hope you are all doing well - I include you all in my daily prayers and ask for the Lord's blessing on each of your lives. Even though I may not know each of you're particular needs right now, I know the good Lord does! Just a quick update on why I have "dropped off" - I have lived on our family farm all of my life. My parents, my sister and her family, and my grandmother all live on the farm property as well (each in their own homes). Well, due to some health complications with my dad and his severe diabetes, he has had to make the heart-breaking decision to sell the family farm . As if this isn't diffult enough to deal with, it also means we are all losing our homes. We just finished moving my sister to a town 25 miles from here (I am used to her being next door - so this feels like thousands of miles!). My grandmother will be moving to Florida on the 25th (that IS thousands of miles!). My parents are building a new home (only a mile away). And we are well... soon to be homeless. But I have complete faith and trust in the Lord that he will see us through and provide for our needs. Sometimes it's just so hard to "let go, and let God", you know? I want the answers NOW, and it's hard to wait for His timing and His will. So, as you might imagine, our lives have been turned upside down. It is all happening so fast, and so unexpectedly. I am just trying to take a day at a time, and especially to get through this year's homeschooling (I am hoping to finish on Friday! ) Please keep our family in your prayers and I will try to update and catch up with you all as I can! THANK YOU for letting me get that all out!
Miss You Guys!
Shana

Shana, Your family is in my prayers. I can only imagine the stress of the entire situation. again.

 

[UP Disney]

Shana

 

[UP Disney]

Denise, that the tests are as painless as possible and give you some definitive answers.

 

[mommy2emmersNmo]

Well I'm finally all caught up after this weekend. I would have been done sooner, but my computer kept shutting itself off last night. I finally took it as a sign that I needed to spend more time reading to my kids.

I've been reading a book called "The Read-Aloud Handbook" for one of my classes, and it's really fascinating. It's inspired me to spend some time with each of my kids, one on one, reading out loud to them. We've done it for a week, now, and I've come to enjoy that time so much! With the twins we are going through the complete Curious George series, with Jacob it's Peter and the Starcatchers, and Katie and I are reading Anne of Green Gables. It is so much fun! I wish I could get Alan involved more, but he's so busy with his work that I don't dare ask him to do too much more.

My grandmother got me hooked on Anne of Green Gables. I cannot wait until Emma is old enough to read it with me. I think I will have to read it once I finish the one I started in Reno, Wicked, the Life and Times of the Wicked Witch of the West. It started out really slow but I am now right in the middle and it is rather good. I told DH I wanted tickets to the Broadway show when it tours here in Jan 07. We love books here as well. My DH makes me so crazy as he has read each Harry Potter book about 5 or 6 times. And he remembers every detail, I mean the really obscure things and I just want to throw the book at him.