The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 7

[itdjbw]

My son Andrew, age 10, needs a little extra pixie dust, if anyone has any to spare. This isn't life threatning, but it is so important to his self-esteem. When he was little, he was a leader in everything he did and exuded self-confidence. Then came his ADHD/dyslexia/verbal expressive disorder/sensory issues, and his self confidence plummeted. (Mostly because of an idiot pre-school teacher who thought he was being bad and disagreeable on purpose!) We've worked for 5 years on his self-confidence and self-esteem. He goes to a special school for bright children who have learning differences -- it's actually the largest of its type in the country, and people come from all around to be trained there. It's a great school, and he is doing well.

My real problem: he loves to play baseball and soccer. In soccer, he's a real star -- fast as lightening and has a real knack for it. In baseball, he's struggled. (I think it's the sensory issues kicking in -- something about a baseball coming at him at 35 miles an hour...) He really would rather play it then soccer, because his cousin plays baseball. I did agree to letting him play both this summer, because I am hoping he will begin to like soccer enough to just play it.

Anyway, tonight is one of the biggest games of the season in baseball -- it's a rival team. He's just coming off of a game where my brother (his coach) told him he'd played the best game of his life. (Of course, maybe he played better because I wasn't there -- I was on a plane back from DC.....rats!) That really helped boost his confidence. If he could have a second good game in a row, I think it would go a long way to helping him gain back some of what he has lost.

So, any spare good wishes or PD would be greatly appreciated being sent his way this afternoon/evening.

Hope it went well

 

[itdjbw]

What a cute idea! My girls and Craig are avid readers. I used to be, but right now I can't tell you the last time I read anything. Too busy.

Me too - catching up on the boards

 

[itdjbw]

Thanks. I feel that my number one priority and job as a mom is to ensure the well being and development of my children. I am to guide, mold, teach, protect, educate, foster, and most of all LOVE them unconditionally. It's the most rewarding job in the world.

 

[mommy2emmersNmo]

I just hit send... and my assignment is winging its way to my tutor

That's two down and two to go

So if there is any spare pixie dust around could someone sprinkle me some?

headed your way!!

 

[mommy2emmersNmo]

Just a quick note to say "HI" to you all.
I haven't had a chance to read everything.

 

[itdjbw]

Sounds yummy!! Wish I lived closer so I could stop in and have some too. Corn on the cob is my favorite summer food. We grill all year round.

Love Corn on the cob with the husk left on, spread some butter in inside and wrap in foil and throw on the BBQ - yummy yummy yummy

 

[UP Disney]

I used to be, but right now I can't tell you the last time I read anything. Too busy.

What do you mean?? We read a novel every day when we read the DDA thread!!

 

[legalslave]

I've always had a love for reading. When I was a child, my mother used to tell me to get my nose out of that book and go outside and get some fresh air - so I took the book with me! When my mother died, my father was in his early eighties and was alone. I got him into reading (he had never just sat and read for pleasure before - my mother didn't like it when he read, because he wasn't paying any attention to her). Anyway, some of the books that he really liked were the Anne of Green Gables series, the "Little House" books by Laura Ingalls Wilder, Sidney Sheldon and Danielle Steel!! Can you tell that I chose his books? He did go and get his first library card at the age of 82, but he wasn't too sure what to choose, and said that I had been doing good, so to keep on choosing for him. Anyway, I would stop by after work and make his dinner and tidy up a bit, and then we'd visit while he ate, and it was nice to chat about the books (kind of a role reversal in a way).

 

[mommy2emmersNmo]

I called our GI doctor and told him I'd sought a 2nd opinion from the surgeon. I'm not going to hide the fact I'm worried about Rees. He agreed that it needs further exploration. So based on the Surgeon's recommendations, he is ordering an Upper GI and an abdominal ultrasound for Rees ASAP. I will let you know when it is scheduled. Thanks for the continued prayers.

Glad to hear that the GI dr is taking the recommendations. and prayers to the Figs.

 

[triplefigs]

John went to a tent sale today for used books. He just pulled out 25 awesome books for the kids for $33! Lots of fun Disney ones too. He's such a good daddy, and how funny he did it (on his own) on the day we're talking about reading!

 

[mommy2emmersNmo]

My son Andrew, age 10, needs a little extra pixie dust, if anyone has any to spare. This isn't life threatning, but it is so important to his self-esteem. When he was little, he was a leader in everything he did and exuded self-confidence. Then came his ADHD/dyslexia/verbal expressive disorder/sensory issues, and his self confidence plummeted. (Mostly because of an idiot pre-school teacher who thought he was being bad and disagreeable on purpose!) We've worked for 5 years on his self-confidence and self-esteem. He goes to a special school for bright children who have learning differences -- it's actually the largest of its type in the country, and people come from all around to be trained there. It's a great school, and he is doing well.

My real problem: he loves to play baseball and soccer. In soccer, he's a real star -- fast as lightening and has a real knack for it. In baseball, he's struggled. (I think it's the sensory issues kicking in -- something about a baseball coming at him at 35 miles an hour...) He really would rather play it then soccer, because his cousin plays baseball. I did agree to letting him play both this summer, because I am hoping he will begin to like soccer enough to just play it.

Anyway, tonight is one of the biggest games of the season in baseball -- it's a rival team. He's just coming off of a game where my brother (his coach) told him he'd played the best game of his life. (Of course, maybe he played better because I wasn't there -- I was on a plane back from DC.....rats!) That really helped boost his confidence. If he could have a second good game in a row, I think it would go a long way to helping him gain back some of what he has lost.

So, any spare good wishes or PD would be greatly appreciated being sent his way this afternoon/evening.

for Andrew. I hope the game was a sucess.

 

[UP Disney]

Love Corn on the cob with the hust left on, spread some butter in inside and wrap in foil and throw on the BBQ - yummy yummy yummy

We soak ours in water in the husk for several hours and then throw it on the grill. When it is done, we drench it in butter! Yummy!!!!!

 

[tmfranlk]

The Peds Surgeon called tonight. He thinks that the Diverticula (area in the Esophagus that has pouched outward) may be the culprit as it can cause the symptoms Rees is having. The GI doc found it during the Endoscopy, but blew it off. I looked up Distal Esophageal Diverticula and it sounds just like Rees. The Surgeon also thinks it might be a hernia (para-esophageal hernia). So, he's calling tomorrow am to schedule some more tests. He too was worried about the weight loss and not eating and said he didn't want to have to put a feeding tube in. So Rees will have to go through more yucky tests. If it is the Diverticula, Rees will need Esophageal surgery to correct it. He said if it is the Fundo, he has a 90% success rate of repeating the surgery laparoscopically (vs open). That was good news.

I'm glad I got a 2nd opinion. And our GI doc sure won't want to see me and John if the Surgeon is right...

I am so glad that you were able to talk to the new doctor. His ideas sound promising. I know Rees won't be a fan of the testing, but it sounds like the the procedure options are better. that things work out for the best and quickly.

 

[ReAnSt]

I used to be, but right now I can't tell you the last time I read anything. Too busy.

What do you mean?? We read a novel every day when we read the DDA thread!!

Maybe she doesn't read at all but she just posts. Sorry I couldn't resist, the rate I have been going this is what it feels like most of the time.

 

[tink2020]

I just got back from the school carnival. I spent some time talking with Katie's teacher about this. She told me that in her experience, 3rd grade is where it really starts with girls. She says that boys get angry with one another, and they physically fight and get over it. Girls are different. They brood, and stew and think about really mean things to say to hurt. For some reason, girls seem to know that verbal assaulting hurts for longer than physical violence. She's seen it happen every year. Luckily, she has a zero tolerance for this kind of bullying, and every time she sees it, that person is sent to the principal's office. He is also wonderful, and has let everyone know that bullying of any kind is inappropriate! In our school, it's 3 trips to the principal and you are out!!!

Unfortunately for Katie, this other girl is in our neighborhood, so confines her bullying to before and after school, when there are not grown ups around. I just found out about it, and have started walking to the bus stop with the kids, and just letting Katie know that I will be there for her forever!

As a mother, it's the hardest thing in the world to see your child going through this, when all they want is to be everyone's friend. Katie just can't understand why this girl is calling her names. I just told her she needs to let it roll off her back, and then she can come home and cry to me.

I'm so sorry to hear this! I can't imagine what would possess girls to be like this! It's totally uncalled for! to your poor Katie!

 

[tink2020]

AMEN!!!!! That was the worst! I never watched it, the whole premise just really disturbed me. It's hard enough to make a marriage work without someone deliberately trying to ruin it on national TV. Those couples that signed up really got what they deserved!

No kidding! I don't even know if I heard about it until it was either in full swing or over, so I definitely "missed out" on seeing it as well!

 

[itdjbw]

I just got back from the school carnival. I spent some time talking with Katie's teacher about this. She told me that in her experience, 3rd grade is where it really starts with girls. She says that boys get angry with one another, and they physically fight and get over it. Girls are different. They brood, and stew and think about really mean things to say to hurt. For some reason, girls seem to know that verbal assaulting hurts for longer than physical violence. She's seen it happen every year. Luckily, she has a zero tolerance for this kind of bullying, and every time she sees it, that person is sent to the principal's office. He is also wonderful, and has let everyone know that bullying of any kind is inappropriate! In our school, it's 3 trips to the principal and you are out!!!

Unfortunately for Katie, this other girl is in our neighborhood, so confines her bullying to before and after school, when there are not grown ups around. I just found out about it, and have started walking to the bus stop with the kids, and just letting Katie know that I will be there for her forever!

As a mother, it's the hardest thing in the world to see your child going through this, when all they want is to be everyone's friend. Katie just can't understand why this girl is calling her names. I just told her she needs to let it roll off her back, and then she can come home and cry to me.

for Katie

Luckily for me and mostly Tarryn she had a most wonderful teacher in 3rd grade, she was new to the school (both Tarryn and the teacher) and they just hit it off on open house, she came to Tarryn's dance recital, moved to Boston and still keeps in touch with Tarryn and me by email, she moved to FL last week and we are meeting up the weekend of the 19th when we are in Weston. Tarryn had one bad incident that year, sadly to say racially motivated but we explained to her how things are and she has put it behind her!!!
I believe that doing gymnastics since she was 4 has helped, it gives the girls great confidence, teaches them there body is important and a lot of the teachers of the little kids are the older girls that are still competing and it keeps them away from the 'bad' influences as they spend so much time in the gym. Tarryn has wanted to stop so many times but I have wanted her to stick with it. She also does Jazz but I don't think that has the same good, positive, respectful influence body wise but she loves it. Both build a lot of self esteem.

 

[mommy2emmersNmo]

What do you all think of the whole David Blaine: Drowned alive thing?

he has said today he is in bad shape and not doing well - why would he go ahead with this stunt - which he has no business doing -

I think what is more upsetting to me is that CBS is willing to air it - what if it goes wrong and he dies - do they really think that is appropriate to show on tv? and what are they teaching kids?

What a nutcase! I do not consider being drowned alive to be magic. Sounds more like stupidity.

 

[tink2020]

I watched one season of that and just to clarify -

none of the couples were ever married - I don't think any of the couples survived it - if you watched none of the couples were in a stable relationship to begin with - so really - they did them all a favor b/c it showed them that they had no future

ETA: in that season they found out that one fo the couples actually had a child together and they IMMEDIATELY pulled them off the island - the host told them that they were not in a position where they should be dating another couple but should be in therapy - they took the couple and put them on a tropical retreat together and got them counseling

Hmm... well that makes it... better? At least different, for sure! Was there another one that was married couples? I seem to remember one... but all reality shows tend to blend together for me

ETA: I found this about season 2, involving married couples only. It also mentions the couple leaving that you had pointed out in Season 1. It appears they tried to have some "sense" with the first season, but the article talks about the second season only being couples married at least 5 years, and that pulling couples with a child together seemed "arbitrary" Did it ever air?

http://www.teevee.org/archive/2001/01/24/index.html

 

[Tammi67]

John went to a tent sale today for used books. He just pulled out 25 awesome books for the kids for $33! Lots of fun Disney ones too. He's such a good daddy, and how funny he did it (on his own) on the day we're talking about reading!

His ears must have been burning. John gets the great daddy award today!