The Chatterbox Hyena Thread

[staley7580]

Heartbreaking!

I read a thread awhile back where a woman had one twin die in utero, very early on. (Staley, stop me if this upsets you...)

She wanted to know when it would be appropriate to tell her child that s/he was a twin, and the other twin died.

I was wondering why she felt it necessary to say anything at all. The other fetus died either in the 1st trimester, or maybe it was early in the 2nd. The child was born solo, and has always lived as an only. Why do you need to tell him/her about an unborn twin?

I SAW that! its a very common syndrome.. Vanishing twin syndrome, and happens a lot. I would never tell my kid something like that! I think it would just freak them out. Like telling them about a miscarriage. Why would they even care?

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Hey Pix.. I was wondering why you were leaving before you had even gotten here.

So what happened with Dizzy's thread? It looks like most of the posts got wiped out. I hope it didn't turn ugly!

 

[staley7580]

Alright - I am off to pick up the kiddos and then off to work. I will yap with you all later

Adios!!!

 

[staley7580]

So what happened with Dizzy's thread? It looks like most of the posts got wiped out. I hope it didn't turn ugly!

They did??? OOOOOOHHH Dizzy! You little trouble maker!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I SAW that! its a very common syndrome.. Vanishing twin syndrome, and happens a lot. I would never tell my kid something like that! I think it would just freak them out. Like telling them about a miscarriage. Why would they even care?

I know! I wouldn't say a word. Maybe it might come up in conversation with a grown child.

But almost everyone who posted on that thread either said:
a) Tell your child right away (I think the child was maybe 6yo?) and/or
b) Don't be surprised if the child is angry at you for not telling him/her sooner, and/or
c) You should have told the child from the get-go.

WHAT?! Why?

I would never ever tell a child, let alone a young child, something like that! But of course I've never been a twin, and never been the mother of twins, so I thought maybe there was more to it than I knew.

 

[staley7580]

I know! I wouldn't say a word. Maybe it might come up in conversation with a grown child.

But almost everyone who posted on that thread either said:
a) Tell your child right away (I think the child was maybe 6yo?) and/or
b) Don't be surprised if the child is angry at you for not telling him/her sooner, and/or
c) You should have told the child from the get-go.

WHAT?! Why?

I would never ever tell a child, let alone a young child, something like that! But of course I've never been a twin, and never been the mother of twins, so I thought maybe there was more to it than I knew.

If I GOD FORBID lost one.. Unless it was loosing one at birth or something... would probably just keep it to myself.

 

[sameyeyam]

So this accountant thing was just a cover - now we REALLY know what your job is

Sure why do you think I got a convertible...Huggy Bear wanted my customer's to see the ware's a little better!

OMG! for the first time they are offering a package with free dining AND a discounted room rate during most of our stay. I dont have a disney visa to take advantage of it but I'm assuming since this comes out tomorrow that this means they have VERY low occupancy these dates since this has NEVER been done!!!

When I was there at the end of September last year it was SSSSSSLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW! We won those dream fastpasses and didn't even need them. We did use one of them at Soarin so we didn't have to wait 15 minutes during peak time.

Oops, my phone posted an old message. Stupid no internet rule!

So perhaps tomorrow you should call the cable company and have them install your own personal internet connection to your computer. You pay the bill, the company has no idea, everyone's happy!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

If I GOD FORBID lost one.. Unless it was loosing one at birth or something... would probably just keep it to myself.

I can totally understand the mother feeling a sense of loss, but why put that on the child? She felt she NEEDED to tell the child, and everyone else was telling her "Yes, you do, and you should have already!" I didn't get it.

I remember hearing that one of my aunt/uncles had several miscarriages (lots!) and they wound up having 4 kids in all who survived.

Maybe it's not so weird after all, but it just seemed really weird to me. Like it would hurt the child to know that, add burden to their life. How would it help the child?

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Sure why do you think I got a convertible...Huggy Bear wanted my customer's to see the ware's a little better!

OMG!

So... how many hyenas do you think are wondering right now who "Huggy Bear" is?

OK, kids, I need to run again. We are off to "sim cass" in a few... Catch ya later!

 

[sameyeyam]

I would tell the twin and probably at an early age. But that's just the way I am, go ahead and tell everything up front. Then you don't have to sweat it and deal with it coming out later on. I've always had a saying "knowledge is power". I just don't see the value of hiding something, even if it's not pleasant. If everyone knows about it, then they can deal with it. Odds are some idiot cousin will spit it out when the kid is 10 years old or something. You just can't hide some things in a family.

My mother went to her grave with some secrets. There were some that her and I discussed as I got older, but some things that both my sister and I still wonder about and have questions. Now we can't ask her. I have a feeling she may not have told us the truth on a couple of them anyway. But it would have been nicer if she would have just told us about them when we were younger.

Anyway, probably that has a lot to do with the way I feel.

 

[staley7580]

I can totally understand the mother feeling a sense of loss, but why put that on the child? She felt she NEEDED to tell the child, and everyone else was telling her "Yes, you do, and you should have already!" I didn't get it.

I remember hearing that one of my aunt/uncles had several miscarriages (lots!) and they wound up having 4 kids in all who survived.

Maybe it's not so weird after all, but it just seemed really weird to me. Like it would hurt the child to know that, add burden to their life. How would it help the child?

I dont think the kid would need to know... I mean.. anymore then Alex and Mikalah would need to know about me having a couple of miscarriages. They knew we were having a baby.. then mommy got sick. Mommy got better.. and is now having 2 babies. They are 3 and 6. They dont need all the details of what happened.

 

[sameyeyam]

OMG!

So... how many hyenas do you think are wondering right now who "Huggy Bear" is?

OK, kids, I need to run again. We are off to "sim cass" in a few... Catch ya later!

See ya later Alex. And once again I have inadvertently "dated" myself!

 

[sameyeyam]

I dont think the kid would need to know... I mean.. anymore then Alex and Mikalah would need to know about me having a couple of miscarriages. They knew we were having a baby.. then mommy got sick. Mommy got better.. and is now having 2 babies. They are 3 and 6. They dont need all the details of what happened.

Yeah, I agree they don't need to know the details. I know my mother had an ectopic pregnancy once, so it was just something that I always kept in the back of my mind. So many things are hereditary that it always helps to know family history, esp. when you are contemplating pregnancy.

 

[sameyeyam]

So what am I doing back on here if I have work to do? I have no idea! Other than I guess I work better under stress. So tomorrow I will have twice the work to get done and things will be hectic I guess!

 

[sameyeyam]

I can't believe Dizzy left and hasn't put those poor people on the DL thread out of their misery!

 

[sameyeyam]

Quick someone, talk to me, let's converse. Otherwise I just might go back to working!

 

[staley7580]

Yeah, I agree they don't need to know the details. I know my mother had an ectopic pregnancy once, so it was just something that I always kept in the back of my mind. So many things are hereditary that it always helps to know family history, esp. when you are contemplating pregnancy.

Oh yeah. I was never concerned with it, until we were having trouble with #3... Then started asking about family history.. Apparently, I was just to fat.

 

[staley7580]

SORRY!!! I was reading this thing about formula companies giving out free cases of formula to moms with multiples.

 

[sameyeyam]

SORRY!!! I was reading this thing about formula companies giving out free cases of formula to moms with multiples.

When I had the kids I signed everyone in the office up for formula coupons. Mind you I worked with 1 other lady and 4 men. They got the coupons at their home address and would bring them in to me. I signed up for every single brand!

Obviously I would end up using one particular brand, but I found that I could mix a pitcher full (say, 7 scoops of my regular formula and 1 scoop of the different brand formula). So feel free to use my name and address and sign me up. I'm assuming that the formula companies still do that?? Anyway, if you do I will be happy to forward the coupons to you.

Bernice would be so very proud of me!

 

[staley7580]

When I had the kids I signed everyone in the office up for formula coupons. Mind you I worked with 1 other lady and 4 men. They got the coupons at their home address and would bring them in to me. I signed up for every single brand!

Obviously I would end up using one particular brand, but I found that I could mix a pitcher full (say, 7 scoops of my regular formula and 1 scoop of the different brand formula). So feel free to use my name and address and sign me up. I'm assuming that the formula companies still do that?? Anyway, if you do I will be happy to forward the coupons to you.

Bernice would be so very proud of me!

They totally still do! Thanks!