Imzadi
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aaaaaaaaaaaaah no! Why didnt they announce the next bachelorette? grrrrrrr
After that trainwreck? So not the time.
Maybe they are still waiting for Emily?

aaaaaaaaaaaaah no! Why didnt they announce the next bachelorette? grrrrrrr
After that trainwreck? So not the time.
Maybe they are still waiting for Emily?
I know who the next Bachelorette is if you guys want it spoiled.
Still timeshifted. Emily: "Watching it, I don't know what's reality TV and what's reality."
Yeah ... that's the main problem with this show. Call me silly, but I do believe that that people involved actually fall in love. I just think that love is so shallow it can't stand the rigors of real life. It's the love that is forged on "absence makes the heart go fonder" controlled meetings, champagne toasts and helicopter rides. It's not based on living in the real world. Once they go back to the boring 24/7 lives that they lead instead of the Jet-Setting lifestyle that the show provides little things start to get in the way. Like kids and careers and family and real personalities. I'm not surprised that this show has such a low success level.
Yes, this is what I meant about going slowly. Doing the day-to-day work of building a relationship, getting to know each other, getting the child adjusted. Not uprooting Ricki, so that she'd be uprooted and brought back to Charlotte if the relationship doesn't work out. Like Ricki needs that?
They have problems they need to work through.
Brad wanted the ATFR to be their wedding show. He's still thinking in terms of himself and the show and trying to prove to everyone he has changed and now has a happy ending. He wanted it all tidily wrapped up.
I think Emily is smart to wait. I also think she knows this isn't the one for her. That's part of it. Maybe watching the show, she's been having her eyes opened to how much of a narcissist he is.
Someone asked earlier if Emily has family. Callie mentioned a few weeks back that Emily's parents are in W. VA, and her would-have-been FIL & MIL, (Ricki's grandparents,) are still in Charlotte. So she stayed in Charlotte to help them forge a relationship with their granddaughter.
He sounds like this is about him trying to prove himself.
That he wants to prove everyone wrong.
And that he can win the girl who won't let him in.
Why would what she's saying be such a surprise to everyone in the audience? She has a child to think of.
There's more to this story. I wonder if her daughter doesn't like Brad anymore or is refusing to move to Austin? Does anyone know if Emily has family other than her daughter? I know we didn't see any on the hometown date. This is just plain weird. Brad looks smitten and ready to marry her right now but she's holding back about something.
To me, he looks like a narcissist who wants to win what he hasn't been able to get. She'd be the cherry on his sundae. And he can't let her get away.
I hate to say this, but I have a feeling this relationship will not make it to marriage. I had a feeling after their last one on one date when she was making sure he was ready for the responsibility of fatherhood, he got very upset. Basically mad! I knew right then he had a temper. I think if it wasn't for the camera's in his face he would've threw a temper tantrum. I think its more to the story and Emily is being classy and not saying. Just my opinion.
Random thoughts...
* There is no way Emily will end up marrying this guy. I'm betting all the money I have on this one.
* Emily is stunning...truly beautiful.
* Chantal looked like she was dressed for a funeral. I hate the feathers and jewelry. The dress was way too tight for her.
* If Brad has a huge temper, Emily should run away fast.
* Why, oh why, don't they have kleenex in the limo???? Poor Chantal....
I'm amazed that everyone is jumping on Brad here and blaming him for the problems. I understand you may not like the guy but he's not the reason they're not getting married (regardless of his temper). It's Emily's fault. She told Brad during they show she would move to Austin. She told Brad she was ready to get married.
At least to me, Emily comes off as incredibly spoiled and selfish and unwilling to bend. Just because you have a child doesn't mean you don't have to make compromises. If she's not willing to give and take, then she can spend the rest of her life single for all I care.
I think Emily is having a hard time because her first love was at such a young age and it never had the time to grow with all of the day to day life, so she has a "fantasy" about what love is. I like Emily and I feel horrible for what she went through, but I never thought she would marry Brad.
And I don't know if Brad really loves her or if he just picked her because he wasn't ready (again) and knew she would not go through with a relationship.![]()
I totally agree. I think this is the "bear" that she's had to deal with over and over. He wants what HE wants, and he gets mad that she won't give it to him.
Ok, had Emily never watched a season of the Bachelor? Does she not get editing? She seems to think it was the Brad and Emily show with incidental other women edited in for color...Emily, wake up girl, you need to get real. Ohhhhh, "he's got a bit of a temper." "Has she poked the bear yet?"
Yeah, we could tell he had anger issues, he was always clearing his throat to stay in control, he got mad when you asked him to be sure about your daughter-how DARE you challenge him? And - "There should be some things that were saved for just me."
He told you he was taking you to meet his parents. He told you he was giving you a rose. He had the other girls saying 'it's the Emily show.' Melissa knew it was Emily, she said so early on. Emily, have you SEEN this show before?
The Bachelor get carte blanche before he proposes; that's what this show is all about.
You joined a TV reality show with 25 other women strutting their stuff, getting nearly naked. Your 'man' ran around nearly naked the whole show and yet you wonder why certain things were not 'saved' for you? You got the ring. You got the guy, God help you. Quit whining.
i can see both sides. i do think that Brad has strong feelings for her. now, whether wanting to "win" or prove America wrong wraps into that, i can't honestly say. but i do think he truly cares for Emily.
i think Emily cares for him too. but i think there seem to be things that she's seen that have her worried. and i wouldn't want to uproot my daughter and move so far away from family if i wasn't 150% sure that i was going to marry the guy. She had to be aware of this before she signed on the dotted line with a reality show. If not, she is immature and didn't think out her decision.
and for Chantal, i don't think she needs to worry about being able to fall in love. she seems to fall in love REALLY easily. however, being like that causes her to be hurt really easily too. she still seemed upset by everything.
and if SHE thought that he was going to propose to her, imagine how Emily felt watching it play out. Again, has she never seen the show? I just do not think in the end Emily is ready or willing to really let someone in. It is sad because she is so young. To be cautious is great. To be alone may be ok too. I wonder how fair it is to her daughter though? I'm not saying she should rush into anything, but if she had that great of concerns, the best thing would have been to stay off a reality show and do this the old fashioned way. Really, what the heck was she thinking?
i can see how that would be hard. she basically said that, as she was watching the show that she would've proposed to Chantal. but, that's the nature of reality TV. she's still a regular person though, with feelings of jealousy and insecurity.
and i am analyzing this WAY too much.![]()
I don't think Em will ever marry Brad. I don't think she will marry anyone. I think she has her dead financee so high up on a pedastol that no one will every measure up. She says she is ready to move on, but she's really not. She's to afraid of losing someone again. It's sad, really.