The Bachelor-Brad Womack Take 2--Monday, Jan. 3 NO SPOILERS!

[robinb]

I really hated (especially in retrospect) how Brad's family had to tell Chantel that Brad said he was going to propose to someone this time. Why in the heck did they do that? It just made her think that it was going to be her.

 

[wilderness01]

I really hated (especially in retrospect) how Brad's family had to tell Chantel that Brad said he was going to propose to someone this time. Why in the heck did they do that? It just made her think that it was going to be her.

Maybe she asked and they edited it out for more effect?

 

[FINFAN]

Not surprising.
Emily is so beautiful and poised, but I'm still incredibly concerned about her emotional baggage over her late boyfriend that she's obviously not over (that or that's the way the show is portraying her).

I personally would have chosen Chantal (sp?)

did the black bracelet with the letters RHJ throw a hint?(Ricky Hendricks Jr) or maybe it was JRH...not sure, but she had it on in every scene last night except the engagement one..and the After the Rose show. Anyway, while I completely get Emily wanting to have him as a part of her DD's life, it is quite apparent that she wants him( past Finace') with her at all times as well. I was cracking up at him on their last date...how he wanted to blow but couldn't, breaking ou tin a sweat. Once that little challenge came his way he suddenly "knew" he was in love? Let's face it, even if he found a way to control Emily, her DD is another story, she will be on the pedestal at all times, poor Brad will not be able to topple that one. His sisters lin law were bugging me with the , "we like that she is already a mom, she gets us". O.K. I'm pretty sure he thought, ooooooh, instant overnight sitters-built-in playmates, allowing him to still have his bachelorhood. He knew he had to put a ring on someones finger this time, and had to go with the one who was most likely to never go thru with it...I will give him credit for finding the one out of 25 that is a sure bet for that. On another note, loved Emily's hair last night, if she would get the longer back stuff cut! When it was hitting her shoulders, looked awesome..they toned down the bleached blonde as well and conditioned/straightened the heck out of it...just like Vienna last season.

 

[Allison]

did the black bracelet with the letters RHJ throw a hint?(Ricky Hendricks Jr) or maybe it was JRH...not sure, but she had it on in every scene last night except the engagement one..and the After the Rose show.

It was JRH and those are her daughter initials also.

 

[shortbun]

I hope Emily is back in Charlotte with Rikki today and putting Brad where he belongs, absent from her world. She doesn't need a man to be happy, no one does. She has her daughter and she has a family both in Charlotte and in W Va. The fact that none of her family cared to appear speaks volumes of their class and style. It won't take her long to realize that Brad is a loose cannon and not the 'nice guy' he was edited to be. If you've ever known an abusive man, he fits the profile...all the while telling us how good he is. The shirtless scenes were telling to me. No grown man with any sort of humility would appear on national tv shirtless unless they were swimming. He's creepy.

 

[themermaidgirl]

did the black bracelet with the letters RHJ throw a hint?(Ricky Hendricks Jr) or maybe it was JRH...not sure, but she had it on in every scene last night except the engagement one..and the After the Rose show.

Yes definitely! While that one poster thought it could be in relation to her daughter's initials, I do know that bracelets like those are also given out at funerals, like a memory bracelet. I got one when a friend of mine passed away from a sports injury two years ago at the age of 16.

Who knows? But she does talk about him so much, that any man, not to mention Brad, is going to have a hard time competing to be that number one man in her life anymore. Of course he should remain in her memory and her daughter's memory, but she's saying she's moved on when she clearly hasn't.

 

[MAGICFOR2]

Just saw Chantal on Regis and Kelly - apparently her dad played for the Seattle Seahawks. I guess that is where the money comes from.

I noticed Emily's bracelet last night - saw those letters for the first time. I was wondering if she will keep wearing it - if she's with Brad she should put it away for Rikki.

 

[Robinrs]

Yes definitely! While that one poster thought it could be in relation to her daughter's initials, I do know that bracelets like those are also given out at funerals, like a memory bracelet. I got one when a friend of mine passed away from a sports injury two years ago at the age of 16.

Who knows? But she does talk about him so much, that any man, not to mention Brad, is going to have a hard time competing to be that number one man in her life anymore. Of course he should remain in her memory and her daughter's memory, but she's saying she's moved on when she clearly hasn't.

I think she has a connection with him as anyone would miss a loved one but she has to continue her life. My issue is they BOTH have unresolved issues and neither can help the other.

 

[lillygator]

chantal is a drama queen....worried about falling in love again? she falls in love at the drop of a hat!
I think Emily is pretty smart and you could sure tell that if there were no cameras there Brad would have been raving mad!

 

[Robinrs]

I'm amazed that everyone is jumping on Brad here and blaming him for the problems. I understand you may not like the guy but he's not the reason they're not getting married (regardless of his temper). It's Emily's fault. She told Brad during they show she would move to Austin. She told Brad she was ready to get married.

At least to me, Emily comes off as incredibly spoiled and selfish and unwilling to bend. Just because you have a child doesn't mean you don't have to make compromises. If she's not willing to give and take, then she can spend the rest of her life single for all I care.

I actually like them both. Separately they are great people but they are both going thru major abandonment issues.

I don't think either of them are at fault. I think they both need time to heal and then, maybe after some full on revelations and growing up, get together with a significant other when they're complete people.

Neither are complete people now. If one were it would have a chance but with TWO, wow. Not good.

 

[DonDraper]

I didn't watch the ATFR show yet so I'm just going on what I noticed during the dates. I couldn't believe how on edge he got when Emily was trying to find out if he was ready to be a father. He seemed to forget that the women have concerns too. I never would have predicted that he would choose Emily simply because I didn't think she would put up with his massive ego. I can't see this working out at all.

No. He got edgy because Emily continued to repeat the same question over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over. Brad went there specifically to tell her that he was ready to be the best father he could and Emily basically discarded that effort. I thought it was quite rude actually.

 

[Wishing on a star]

My issue is they BOTH have unresolved issues

Yes, you are so right!!!!

The HUGE thing that I noticed is the official revelation that Brad has gotten 'volatile' with Emily....

She is the most un-emotional, 'poised', and even according to Brad, 'kind', person... and THAT isn't enough to help control his temper.

That does scare me...

Similar issues to the very troubled Jake Pavelka, who was just the ultimate Mr. Nice Guy, as long as he was in control and a woman NEVER dared to 'question' him.
If I were Emily, and was beginning to suspect this... I can only understand how, as she said... she has her daughter to consider as well... And I could never put my child in that kind of situation.

When I go over all of the little comments and things that seemed so vague and confusing last night (and over the past few episodes) It now all clicks into a very, very, clear and revealing picture.

And, even on Emily's part... I think she had a hard time seeing Brads relationship with Chantal over the last few weeks... And, even for somebody like Emily... She probably handled it in a very 'poised', but also by definition, passive-aggressive way. Which naturally put Brad and his temper on the hot seat....

Robin, you obviously see that there are some very strong issues here, which cause some very deep underlying problems between these two particular individuals. You have some real insight!

 

[DeluxePrincess]

Just finished ATFR. I can't see these 2 sticking together. I can see how Emily might be a little upset after seeing Brad with other girls, but surely she has seen the show before. They HAVE to get footage of Brad enjoying the company of other women. There would be no show if he saw Emily and declared his love for her, sending all the other women home.

As for Brad, he obviously can't handle someone not agreeing with him. If "temper" is one of the main reasons she can't bring herself to marry him yet, then it must be some temper. These 2 are just not good together.

 

[Kirby]

I knew last night that he was picking Emily because his family liked her best. Just a feeling I had.....

I don't see a wedding happening here. Nuff said about that.

Chantal is not over Brad even though she's found someone else.

So, Ashley H. is the next Bachelorette? Boring!!!! Another reality show that I won't watch anymore. That's makes three now. Soon I'll have to find something else to do besides watching tv.

 

[Robinrs]

The shirtless scenes were telling to me. No grown man with any sort of humility would appear on national tv shirtless unless they were swimming. He's creepy.

NOOOOO!! You may not like them but I do. Don't take down the most attractive thing about this guy!!!

Uh, since when is a shirtless man shameful???

 

[Ride Junkie]

chantal is a drama queen....worried about falling in love again? she falls in love at the drop of a hat!
I think Emily is pretty smart and you could sure tell that if there were no cameras there Brad would have been raving mad!

I was thinking the exact same thing. You can tell he was holding himself back. How does he act when the cameras stop rolling?? Emily even admitted they have had knock-down drag-out fights over the phone. After only a few months of dating?? I've been with my husband over 13 years and we've only had one or two fights even worth remembering.

During ATFR, I think I understood where Chantal was coming from. When she asked Brad, "When did you know that it was Emily and not me?", she was REALLY asking, "If you knew it was Emily all along, why did you sleep with me in the fantasy suite?" I can see why she would be hurt.

 

[phorsenuf]

It was JRH and those are her daughter initials also.

Yep. Her daughters name is Josephine "Ricki" Hendrick named after here dad, Joseph Riddick Hendrick IV

 

[Tuffcookie]

Wishing on a star wrote:

The HUGE thing that I noticed is the official revelation that Brad has gotten 'volatile' with Emily....

She is the most un-emotional, 'poised', and even according to Brad, 'kind', person... and THAT isn't enough to help control his temper.

I totally agree! I'm sorry, but for a 38 year old man to have those kind of anger issues...over what? Emily pointing out to him that being a parent is not all fun and games? Is that how he's going to be whenever they have a serious dicussion and she has a different opinion?

I'm glad that Emily is stalling for more time. There is a small child to consider.

I have not watched the entire season of The Bachelor. What is it Brad Womack does and why do they have to live in Texas?

TC

 

[disneychrista]

What is it Brad Womack does and why do they have to live in Texas?

I wondered that too...why can't he move?

 

[Robinrs]

Yes, you are so right!!!!

The HUGE thing that I noticed is the official revelation that Brad has gotten 'volatile' with Emily....

She is the most un-emotional, 'poised', and even according to Brad, 'kind', person... and THAT isn't enough to help control his temper.

That does scare me...

Similar issues to the very troubled Jake Pavelka, who was just the ultimate Mr. Nice Guy, as long as he was in control and a woman NEVER dared to 'question' him.
If I were Emily, and was beginning to suspect this... I can only understand how, as she said... she has her daughter to consider as well... And I could never put my child in that kind of situation.

When I go over all of the little comments and things that seemed so vague and confusing last night (and over the past few episodes) It now all clicks into a very, very, clear and revealing picture.

And, even on Emily's part... I think she had a hard time seeing Brads relationship with Chantal over the last few weeks... And, even for somebody like Emily... She probably handled it in a very 'poised', but also by definition, passive-aggressive way. Which naturally put Brad and his temper on the hot seat....

Robin, you obviously see that there are some very strong issues here, which cause some very deep underlying problems between these two particular individuals. You have some real insight!

I see some very difficult issues, here, you're right!

I guess it's because I've been in and out of LOTS of relationships, and have seen so many go kerplomp due to the same issues.

I think they fell in lust, NOT in love, and now they're trying to play the roles they are expected to play.

I'm glad you brought up Jake. This is another reason these "men" they put up as the Bachelor need to be checked out more deeply than their looks and their bank accounts.

Men with control issues can be quite dangerous, especially to impressive young women (Vienna), passive aggressive women (Emily) and to children (Rikki). Sure, in REAL life we take time to get to know a person, make the right decisions, then get involved. These people don't get the same options. They put people in a competition mode making the bach/bachelorette a "prize". Unfortunately, that prize burps, complains, has opinions and was brought up in a family you never really knew. Now you're expected to ENJOY this "prize" in the real world... No wonder it usually doesn't work!

Well, Brad blows it again. Maybe he should try Eharmony next time!