Tell me, what makes a man do this?

[dadtoagirl]

I'm going to speak like a 'true' human and agree with dadtoagirl. Did you ever think about accepting the fact that maybe...just maybe...your husband told you he did these thing so you wouldn't get up to do them and he wasn't trying to 'brag'?

Of course had he not told you. I'm sure we'd see you complaining how you lost sleep to get out of bed to do some chores that your husband had already done but he failed to tell you because...men don't know how to communicate!

Bingo, you just hit the nail of the head!

 

[luvmydogs]

There have been plenty of times when I've left the house while dh was still asleep, and had to 'communicate' something to him. I just left notes. I'd never think of waking him up unless it's something he really needed to know immediately--he gets up at 4:30 am and works very hard, and I appreciate that he needs his rest when he can get it.

Ds9 is another story. I don't appreciate it at 6:30 on a Saturday morning when I have his face two inches from mine "whispering", "Mommy, are you awake? MOMMY? MOMMY?!!!

 

[dopeyone]

my wife loves when i wake her up to tell her, " i can't sleep".

 

[daleks]

I'm going to speak like a 'true' human and agree with dadtoagirl. Did you ever think about accepting the fact that maybe...just maybe...your husband told you he did these thing so you wouldn't get up to do them and he wasn't trying to 'brag'?

I think this is it. What time would you have got up if you'd had to deal with the kids? He was only letting you know, to save you getting up so early to do something that was already done.

 

[VickiVM]

Of course had he not told you. I'm sure we'd see you complaining how you lost sleep to get out of bed to do some chores that your husband had already done but he failed to tell you because...men don't know how to communicate!

This statement confuses me: How do you re-do chores that have already been done?? In this case, the pet mess was already cleaned up so mom wouldn't have needed to do anything.

I think the gist of the OP was why wake someone to tell them 'no need to wake - sleep in'.

 

[Chicago526]

I think it's like two year olds who run around yelling "Look at me, mama! Watch me, mama!"

They never really grow out of it!

 

[sweet angel]

I think it's like two year olds who run around yelling "Look at me, mama! Watch me, mama!"

They never really grow out of it!

 

[DWhittles]

I think it's like two year olds who run around yelling "Look at me, mama! Watch me, mama!"

They never really grow out of it!

Do they ALL do this? My mother tells stories of myself and my sister tapping her shoulder saying "mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom" till she couldn't take it anymore.
I'm so not looking forward to that one because I know it will make me clinical!

 

[VickiVM]

Do they ALL do this? My mother tells stories of myself and my sister tapping her shoulder saying "mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom" till she couldn't take it anymore.
I'm so not looking forward to that one because I know it will make me clinical!

Not just clinical...but hard of hearing, too. Actually - become hard of hearing as early as possible...it eases the burden of motherhood!

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Recommendation to minkydog based on the responses by the guys here.

For future reference, I recommend that you thank your dh for the job he did, and tell him that you prefer that he not wake you to tell you non-emergency things, and that you would prefer that he let you sleep uninterrupted. And then let him know how you want him to let you know what he did, i.e., write a note, tell you after you wake up, or call you later... That way he'll know for sure what you want.

 

[oregonmousefan]

I don't understand what there is to complain about The husband wakes up, cleans up puke and gets the kids ready for the bus while she gets to sleep. Seems like he's getting bashed for doing a nice thing. I wonder how he would have been treated if he was the one sleeping and didn't get up to do all those things????

Agree.

 

[Serena]

The guys don't seem to get it.

She's not complaining about all the stuff he did. Only that he had to wake her up to tell her. He could have/should have left a note if he thought she needed to know.

Why did he have to wake her up to tell her he's letting her sleep?

 

[Alicnwondrln]

i hate when dh does this
he rarely does but when it happens i am soo mad
i rarely sleep in so when i do its a big deal in this house

 

[minkydog]

This statement confuses me: How do you re-do chores that have already been done?? In this case, the pet mess was already cleaned up so mom wouldn't have needed to do anything.

I think the gist of the OP was why wake someone to tell them 'no need to wake - sleep in'.

this is it exactly.

He called a little while ago and I casually asked him why he woke me up at 5am to tell me all this. He said he didn't know what to do and didn't want me to have to get up with the kids. Okaaaayyy... He really thought it was a good idea. I suppose he meant well, but I still don't see why he couldn't just deal with the mess, put the kids on the bus and leave me a note? Why wake someone out of a dead sleep?

See, here's the thing: I get up every morning with the kids at 6am. I allow him to sleep in every morning until 7am. I work 3 nights a week until 12mn. Every other weekend I work until 2am. On those Sundays he does allow me to sleep in until about 9am. On my weekends off I always get up with the kids and let him sleep because he needs his rest. I'm usually sleep-deprived, so if there is not a good reason for me to get up early, it is veeeerry nice to be able to get a few hours more shut-eye.

Gentlemen, you will rarely ever see me post a complaint about my DH. That's not my style. (DS19, now that's another story ) I am grateful for every day I have with my DH. If you don't mind, I don't think this is a story of miscommunication or sarcastic put-downs. I am grateful that he cleaned up the mess and took care of the kids; I just really don't understand why it makes sense to wake up a sleeping person to tell them about it.

Now, off i go to Physical Therapy

 

[mtblujeans]

Agree.

I just KNOW you are kidding....right??

 

[jrydberg]

To the OP, honestly, tell him you'd prefer not to be woken up. Men are not complicated. He didn't mean anything by it other than what he said.

Much of the rest of the thread is, quite frankly, unworthy of further comment -- I'll leave it at that.