I was wondering if anyone here knows of a Miss Dis or the like? I tried a search and came up with too many possibilities.
Reason being is that I lent my backpack to a friend a couple of weeks ago for her trip to WDW. The pack has my DIS name and LGMH's on it, a Miss Dis(?) saw it and said to say "hi", so I was just wondering if she is around.
Thanks for the help.
Ah, she mentioned it! You're the mystery DISer!
Yes, it's Miz Diz, and she hangs out on this thread! Hi!
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Good morning, all!
I ended up reading last night instead of TV or the computer...
I have a family vent, though - and y'all know me - I'm long winded.
I won't be TOO offended if you don't read!
AND it's possible that it will all be OK and all this worry is for nothing... Here goes:
Background: D's mom & dad divorced when he was 12, and his mom remarried right away to an older man who has 6 older kids, 5 DD's and 1 DS. The youngest DD was 16 at the time, so she & D actually lived in the house together for two years (her mom is, um, we'll say clingy and nuts, so she chose her dad to live with...)
However, the others are enough older that the oldest - whom this story is about, we'll call her
R- is in fact, is about 10 years younger than D's mom and more like 16 years older than D, if you get my drift. When D's mom and step-dad (her dad) married, she was already married with two young kids.
She, her DH, and now 3 kids lived in the DC area all this time, whilst most of the others stayed in the Chicago suburbs where they grew up.
So, the oldest of R's kids graduated maybe 3 years ago from a college up in Maine. D was working, but it was close, so I took the boys up for a lunch before her "formal" graduation events. It was nice.
I got an e-mail from R back in Dec. or Jan. that the second kid is graduating from college in Boston this coming Monday. She only sent the message to me, her dad & D's mom, her BIL (her DH's bro) in CT, and said that she was concentrating on those of us in the family with the nearness or moolah to get here easily. I responded back that we'd not be able to go to graduation itself, being on a school day, but if there were any family meals planned, we'd be happy to see them all.
Months go by, no info. D's mom was here in April, and I said, "Oh, we'll see you fairly soon for J's graduation" and she, whilst having a PhD, is very flaky when it comes to geography & time zones, and kind of forgot that we're close to Boston. Even though I've taken her there many times.
So I asked if they were staying here, and she hadn't even considered it, but oh well. She then says they're coming for the weekend and leaving Monday morning. I correct her that the graduation IS Monday morning. (I feel sure that her DH knew this and had arranged all accordingly - she is very, very bad about details...)
At any rate, I still haven't heard anything. I e-mailed R last week as I was trying to make my weekend plans, and haven't heard a thing back (unusual.) That message said, "We'd love to see you, but if everything planned is too late or too fancy, no worries."
So, I finally called my MIL's house last night to see what they knew. D's stepdad answered, and informed me that he & MIL aren't arriving until very late Sunday night. I said, "Well, then we probably won't see you, the boys have school, etc." MIL wasn't home, but he had the info I needed, done and done.
MIL calls me later last night, very worked up. She had told her DH, who told R, that we knew what was going on, we were in, no need to be in touch with us. WHAT????
I said, "No, I told R back in Jan. that we weren't going to graduation, and that we'd love to see everyone IF it worked out. We can't be at dinners in Boston too late on school nights, but if something like a lunch or a Saturday dinner would work, we might be able to do that. And, when I tried to check in with R last week, I said we were totally fine if the dinners planned were too fancy or too late for 6 year olds. I didn't know you weren't coming until late Sunday."
Well, MIL says "nothing is too fancy for my boys." Ummm, NO. Not fun for me trying to corral them for a two hour fancy dinner. Not happening.
"Well, I don't know that anything's planned between the ceremony and dinner, you could come down and we could visit a park or something." And that's fine, IF the graduate doesn't have plans. This weekend is NOT about MIL seeing her biological grandkids, it's about DNeph. Period.
So, she left it that she was going to call R this morning, try to get an actual schedule of planned events, then call me.
I immediately called D because I KNOW in my heart that MIL will ask R to change reservations, etc. if they are planned later in the evening. She tends to want things the way she wants them, but then try to say, "Well, because of the boys," or "CE says..." And I don't want that - this isn't about us. D said to do what I had immediately thought of, which was to e-mail R again and do a preemptive "We know how MIL gets, please know that WE don't want things upset because of us."
But I don't know if R is reading e-mails, as it was so weird she didn't respond to me last week. :0
And I'm trying to walk a fine line between reassuring R that she shouldn't change stuff for us, and making it sound like I have NO interest in seeing her or her kids, which isn't true.
I did suggest that the boys and I could see them at lunch or something on Sunday, even though MIL won't be there yet.
I just feel like I can't win, because even if R reads my e-mail before MIL calls her today, what's she going to say? "CE says you're wrong." Which is true, but will hurt MIL's feelings. I really do try to be nice. So does R, which is why I'm afraid that she'll believe MIL that I want them to accomodate us, where really we should be SO low on the priority list. DNeph's got a serious girlfriend, and her parents are in the plans, too, so coordinating all this can't be easy, and we shouldn't be the priority.
Anyway, hopefully the dinner reservations are at 5:00
and, aside from having to miss the boys' tennis, it won't be an issue. It would have been nice to know that, still, but it's the best case scenario. And I'll feel stupid for making a big deal out of it if that happens.
I think more what's upsetting to me is that D's mom SO tends to almost favor us and our kids over her other 6 step-grandkids, and it shows up in stuff like this (planning her day around us rather than the graduating one) and it makes me SO, SO uncomfortable. I don't expect it, but it reflects badly.
Thanks for listening.
they're experts at that. I'm so behind on Lost and Desperate Housewives and Brothers and Sisters. I have to devote a day to catching up on them.
she's full blooded cuban and speaks fluent spanish. i'm trying to get her to teach me bc i just can't seem to learn it from a book !! i'm too old to learn , i guess!! 
I was born and raised in Colorado and then we moved to Miami in '92 and I'm still missing Colorado. Some other parts of FL aren't as bad, but I wouldn't recommend moving to Miami. Sure the weather's nice and Disney is just 3 1/2 hrs away but there are lots of people that suck. 
TTFN 
) and it is only going up to 57. I think our crayon factory tour is going to wait until Jimmy is done school for the summer, but Katt I showed him that video last night and he was fascinated...thanks for the link
