Taking shoes off at a party??

[princess momma]

People tend to take their shoes off when entering around here, not everybody, but most people. I don't allow my family to wear their shoes in the house and I'd prefer my guests take their shoes off, too. If someone wanted to keep their shoes on I'd be ok with it. Again, it depends on the weather. It would be completely rude to walk around someone's house with wet, dirty shoes. I keep a small throw rug in the foyer and hope people take the hint.

I have a friend who keeps a basket of slippers by her door for guests. She has a zero shoe tolerance policy.

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

I rent and have creme colored carpet. If shoes are muddy or gross, I like them to come off. I dont wear shoes most of the time at home. Otherwise, I dont care. I do provide a nice red rug for shoes and wet boots. I do make a rule, NO SHOES IN MY BEDROOM! EVER!! Thats my nice clean carpeted room (I clean that rug with a floor scubber every two months)

 

[fraggle551]

I can't believe no one has mentioned the Sex and the City episode where Carrie goes to her party and the host require that she moves her shoes, which then get stolen! Her Monolo Blahniks.

If there is a snow storm, rain storm, mud, etc, people either wipe there shoes down or take them off. However if I was all dressed up and had nice heels on, I would hate to take my shoes off. I love love love shoes, and most of the time plan my outfit around my heels. I would feel foolish all dressed up in a party dress and stocking feet. I'm also rather short, and enjoy the extra height my heels give me.

 

[Zandy595]

I never wear shoes in the house. Unless it's cold, I don't wear socks either. I don't require guests to take their shoes off, but I would prefer it. On the other hand, my MIL (germaphobe) does require EVERYONE to take their shoes off at the door. It's kind of awkward when my step-father goes to her house because he ALWAYS wears his shoes and has to be asked to take them off or he won't do it.

 

[mkymouse1928]

I can't believe no one has mentioned the Sex and the City episode where Carrie goes to her party and the host require that she moves her shoes, which then get stolen! Her Monolo Blahniks.

If there is a snow storm, rain storm, mud, etc, people either wipe there shoes down or take them off. However if I was all dressed up and had nice heels on, I would hate to take my shoes off. I love love love shoes, and most of the time plan my outfit around my heels. I would feel foolish all dressed up in a party dress and stocking feet. I'm also rather short, and enjoy the extra height my heels give me.

I'm a lot like you, I looooooooooove shoes and will also plan my outfits around shoes. I mean I go shoe shopping first, find the perfect shoes and then go find the outfit to match them. I'm also short and love heels, especially when standing next to my DH since he is much taller.

 

[bluesaturn]

Hey this is as far north as I ever plan to live. It snowed on Saturday and I don't think I've ever seen snow in December, other than when visiting inlaws in MI. Now it's calling for possible more snow this coming week. That is not the South

It snowed and I called all my family to tell them it snowed here in December because Im only used to seeing it in January or February. It is the little things that amaze me

I will remember to put on some shoes for the next time. Thank you for the tip.

Most of us who live here probably don't remember seeing snow in December either. It normally doesn't snow this early. It normally barely snows at all. Maybe one or two good storms a year, generally in January or February. You just happen to be stationed here during a year of a predicted "harsh winter".

 

[Christine]

Most of us who live here probably don't remember seeing snow in December either. It normally doesn't snow this early. It normally barely snows at all. Maybe one or two good storms a year, generally in January or February. You just happen to be stationed here during a year of a predicted "harsh winter".

I was just going to chime in and say this but you said it nicely. VERY rare to get snow in December. If we get anything in November/December it is generally some sort of slick, icy stuff. We were lucky that two days before the Saturday storm it was 63 degrees. That kept the ground pretty warm.

 

[Piglet843]

So I'm gonna spend all that time, money and effort on that Perfect pair of shoes to go with my Cute Holiday Outfit - Just to take them off when I get to the party?

Down here in the REAL south - a lot of people do remove their shoes when entering someone's house - but I guarantee you it ain't because of Snow!!
It's just a gesture of kindness and respect for your house and floors.

I'll never force anyone to remove their shoes when they come to my house - but 90% of the people that come over do it anyway.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Thanks, ya'll, for the input. I guess I need to have a little mat towards the door just in case and remember to put on some kind of shoes. Granted these people dind't know me very well to know I'm a pretty casual person. I was just a little shocked that people were taking off shoes and not wanting to mess up my floor, which is nice but not necessary.

 

[moon]

I can't believe no one has mentioned the Sex and the City episode where Carrie goes to her party and the host require that she moves her shoes, which then get stolen! Her Monolo Blahniks.

If there is a snow storm, rain storm, mud, etc, people either wipe there shoes down or take them off. However if I was all dressed up and had nice heels on, I would hate to take my shoes off. I love love love shoes, and most of the time plan my outfit around my heels. I would feel foolish all dressed up in a party dress and stocking feet. I'm also rather short, and enjoy the extra height my heels give me.

I remember that episode, and how they all thought the request was odd. I'd never personally heard about the "no shoes in the house" rule until I read it here on the Dis. I can understand it in snowy places, but I'd still feel uncomfortable with it. I did spend a winter in Chicago as a child, and no one I lived with or visited had that rule. Here in Florida -thankfully for me- no one I know has that rule, esp when they are having company.

About not wanting to drag germs in, millions of people never take their shoes off inside a house, and get to live to and old age. People need to build immunity. Children who live in an extremely sterile environment are prone to more disease as they grow older. That's MO, anyway.

 

[dakcp2001]

There was a Sex & the City episode where Carrie had to take her shoes off for a party and someone stole her Manolos. lol.

 

[dakcp2001]

Oops just realized it had been mentioned already. lol Great minds think alike.

 

[mefordis]

Yep, I'm from MI and exact same with us. Here in NJ it's another story. DH's family, I think, sleep in their shoes because I've never seen them off their feet! Once my dmil was reading a story to my daugther and had her shoed foot on her bed! I involuntarily gasped when I saw it!!!

I don't care one way or another but most people I know in Michigan will automatically lose the shoes when they enter a home. And, yes, there's just a big pile of shoes by the door.

When I lived in New Mexico, people tended to keep their shoes on. DD was a little shocked when we moved here and a group of kids came in and immediately kicked their shoes off when they came in the house.

Personally, because I grew up doing this, I'm really uncomfortable wearing shoes in the house. It just feels weird like wearing shoes to bed.

 

[Va-bear]

You know, I'd feel funny asking people to remove their shoes when they come to my house. I don't care if they wear their shoes or not unless of course their feet stink!

I was at a friend's house for a party and she had her DH stand at the staircase telling people arriving to take off their shoes. It was kind of bizarre. Some people aren't comfortable going shoeless all evening!

Thank you!!! MY feet DO stink and trust me, I HATE it!!! But, it makes it 5,000% times more mortifying if asked to remove my shoes. (And my DH, like a lot of folks, is in pain w/out his prescription orthotics....) I wish more people would think like you.

Tina,

I want to stress, this behavior is NOT normal for Virginia. I don't WHO these people are that you're hanging with...

(I think she's hanging w/ Yankees - those are the only people around here who've asked me to remove my shoes in their house! )

 

[NMAmy]

About not wanting to drag germs in, millions of people never take their shoes off inside a house, and get to live to and old age. People need to build immunity. Children who live in an extremely sterile environment are prone to more disease as they grow older. That's MO, anyway.

I'm not a germophobe by any means. The thing is, here in Michigan, you're not just bringing in dirt but slush, snow, mud, and salt. The salt is the worst.

 

[Rora]

I live in Florida so maybe I shouldn't be answering this question but...

at my house, no one is asked to take off their shoes although most do. Hey- we're Floridians!

At my family's homes in Virginia/West Virginia, we usually always take off our shoes and leave them by the front door to spare the carpet from getting wet from snow/mud, etc.

 

[mefordis]

I'm not a germophobe by any means. The thing is, here in Michigan, you're not just bringing in dirt but slush, snow, mud, and salt. The salt is the worst.

Plus I'm uncomfortable because my 1 year old crawls around with her hands on the floor. It really repulses me when people walk around my house with shoes on because of that. But there is nothing I can do about my in laws and their shoes. My FIL's feet are a hot mess!

 

[CdnCarrie]

I'm not a germophobe by any means. The thing is, here in Michigan, you're not just bringing in dirt but slush, snow, mud, and salt. The salt is the worst.

Plus chances are they are not wearing cute little dress shoes but big clunky winter boots. Who wants to wear winter boots all evening?


Personally I think it's gross to wear shoes in the house except maybe dress shoes at a fancy cocktail party.

 

[pipersmom]

About not wanting to drag germs in, millions of people never take their shoes off inside a house, and get to live to and old age. People need to build immunity. Children who live in an extremely sterile environment are prone to more disease as they grow older. That's MO, anyway.

We started doing it because dd is immunocompromised..I never would have thought about it otherwise, though I have to admit, once I started learning about the germs shoes can carry, it did squick me a bit! I do enjoy the side benefit of the clean floors though, lol.

 

[moon]

I'm not a germophobe by any means. The thing is, here in Michigan, you're not just bringing in dirt but slush, snow, mud, and salt. The salt is the worst.

I know. I mentioned in my post that I understood the custom in snowy places, but that I'd still feel uncomfortable because I'm not used to it

We started doing it because dd is immunocompromised..I never would have thought about it otherwise, though I have to admit, once I started learning about the germs shoes can carry, it did squick me a bit! I do enjoy the side benefit of the clean floors though, lol.

I understand that also. You have started due to special circumstances and got used to it. Best wishes for your DD