Taking children shopping

[kristen821]

Um, ok, you are a psych major. We get it. Wow. Hooray!

You can throw your passive aggressive "Sweeties" around as much as you want, you can try to make us believe that you can psycho-analyze all you want, but please don't LIE and say you do it with respect. You are still an undergrad, I totally understand your over-enthusiasm. I was like that when I was 18 and in college.

But "Sweetie", you haven't even got into the meat of psychology yet, so calm down. You just come off as ignorant

She is still in school for this? To be a psychologist I really think you should know how to talk to people Of course i am not near as smart as her, but correct me if I am wrong maybe a psychologist isn't the profession she should be getting into.

 

[DisneyPhD]

are you feeling inadequate for your inability to be a good wife/mother?

you seem to post alot, with no point...

no disrespect..just curious dear

Perhaps you may want to read some Freud, not that his philosophy applies to you, I picture you as more of a Jungian or perhaps A. Freud...she was able to watch children of neurosis in process....

you are truly a Psych Major's dream dear...keep it up!!! Your posts will someday relate to my honors thesis!!! LOL

Oh wait..that's only a semester away..post another 2000 times so I can show How TRULY dillusional people act on the internet

That was so rude. As a professional who honestly tries to use my degrees to help others I hope you are just fibbing about it and are not studing psychology because it was way out of line. Keep you unsolicicted and under educated advice to yourself.

 

[RobinMarie]

Ya know, insulting someone who you believe has insulted others isn't really solving anything nor is it on the topic. I can't stand the pack mentality.

And it doesn't sound very educated either, though it's a great way to have this thread closed.

 

[ChristmasElf]

ok..I have a 13 year old...was she an angel in every store we went to? HECKKKKKKKKKKKK NOOOOOOOOOO...would i remove myself and her if she had a fit? HECKKKKKKKKKKKK YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

I CANNOT fathom how anyone would think it's ok for their child to act up in a store. Perhaps I was a bad mother that never had to run out for diapers because I chose to use CLOTH diapers? So I don't want to hear that you HAD to run to the store for ANY reason.

If your kid is acting up...REMOVE THEM..

I was a single mother, no baby sitters when i needed to 'go to the store', I just simply made sure that if i needed formula, i STOCKED UP..i didn't say 'i need diapers' because I did the cloth diaper thing..sorry..it's lazy not to...

On my way home from work I would buy formula or what I needed for the house to MAKE SURE i did not bring a baby to the store. There are wayyy too many germs to be exposed to, wayyy to many people, and wayyyyyyyyy too much noise. I was a SINGLE MOTHER and accomplished this.

so all you people that say they need to take their screaming heathens to a store to shop..get over it...leave them at home or don't get mad when people sneeze on them. If you don't want the parents that can control their children and can teach them manners (like a two year old having a pacifier..what is THAT???that's bad parenting is what it is)then I would suggest using the same credit card you use to pay the internet to pay for a grocery store that delivers. There are many of them.

I don't want to see your out of control kids and have it blamed on ADD or some other crap...swat the kids butt...pay attention to them, get off the computer, and then maybe they will respect you.

Wow. Amazing that someone that has 173 posts here can have so much to say all in one mouthful.

Saying that people that don't use cloth diapers are lazy is ridiculous. In these days and times, how many people do you know that have time for washing, drying and folding cloth diapers? Not to mention the diaper rash problems that accompany the cloth diapers.
You really shouldn't be so judgemental.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'm sure you do sweetie..

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As far as my other posts, i have been EXTREMELY respective, and I don't appreciate your attitude.

I state my opinion on here, you state yours.

Calling other posters "sweetie" is extremely disrespectful and condescending.

You may have your opinion--but there are rules to which how that opinion may be expressed. You don't seem to be following them very well which is why your other thread got closed.

 

[Mskanga]

you are truly a Psych Major's dream dear...keep it up!!! Your posts will someday relate to my honors thesis!!! LOL

Don't forget to use your posts for your thesis too , I am sure they will make one heck of an impact.

In these days and times, how many people do you know that have time for washing, drying and folding cloth diapers?

I don't know any I always used disposable because I had more fun playing with my kids than washing dirty diapers.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

That was so rude. As a professional who honestly tries to use my degrees to help others I hope you are just fibbing about it and are not studing psychology because it was way out of line. Keep you unsolicicted and under educated advice to yourself.

Please don't hold back--you really need to tell us what you're thinking.

 

[justhat]

I wasn't going to get involved in this thread, but I thought I'd share my "Don't have any kids" experience. We were in WDW when I was 20 weeks pregnant and were on a bus to Epcot. A family sitting across from us had 3 young kids, all of whom fell asleep on the way there (no, they weren't bad parents forcing their kids out late, it was around 10am so not really 'naptime' either). When they went to get off the bus it was clear they were going to have trouble setting up their double stroller and carrying off 3 sleeping kids. So my husband took off their stroller and set it up and I carried one of their sleeping kids off the bus. While the parents were loading the other 2 into the stroller, 1 kid woke up and started crying, which woke up the 1 I was holding, who then freaked out to see a stranger holding him. While the mom took him back she thanked us and said "Don't ever have kids!" Then she looked at my belly and said "oh, it's too late!" We both laughed and that was that. I didn't find it insulting at all, I knew she was kidding, she in no way seriously meant for me to never have kids, and I'm sure she could care less how many kids I or any other stranger has. She was having a rough moment and was trying to lighten the situation, which she did. I wouldn't read any more into it other than it's meant to be a joke.

Oh, and while I have never said that to someone personally, I've been so sick with this 2nd pregnancy that if someone asked me how many kids I think is a good number, I'd definitely say only 1!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Ya know, insulting someone who you believe has insulted others isn't really solving anything nor is it on the topic. I can't stand the pack mentality.

And it doesn't sound very educated either, though it's a great way to have this thread closed.

Good point!


The report a post is there for a reason.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I think that the age of the children really does make a difference. Under 2 is a whole nother story compared to over 2 years old (who can understand consequnces better.)

When I talking about screaming children, I mean before they were 2 years old. If my 4 year old through a fit she would be out of the store so fast her head would spin (or other punishment, loss of privages.)

However my youngest is just getting to that screaming when unhappy phase.

Anyone who read my trip reports remembers my tale about the rude women next to me in LTT that was complaining about everyone under the sun (her child, my children ect...) Baby started screaming about sitting in her high chair. I ended up holding her to quiet her. The lady next to me started going on how "she never had to hold her child in a resturant."

It was only our 2nd meal of the trip and I found out if I just keep her strapped in she screams for all of 5 min (less and less each time) and then gets over it. However because I didn't want to expose others to her screams I did the wrong thing and held her to quiet her.

I hate how other parents are so critical of parents. We should support and encourage each other. Different things work for differnt children. If parents 2nd guess themsevles because they fear what others will think, they can not be the best parent then could be.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Please don't hold back--you really need to tell us what you're thinking.

Oh belive me, I was holding back.

 

[Zurealsoon]

You won't see me posting on here when MY child is up and home...can we say the same for YOU? I think not...get over yourself

So only Mothers with sleeping infants should post here?

 

[kbkids]

So only Mothers with sleeping infants should post here?

You hadn't read that rule??

 

[Mskanga]

Holly crap , hold on.....my kids are both up and I am here on my pc.....BAD BAD mommy!!!! Oh wait, they are on their computers too and playing, should I go join them? LOL

 

[hentob]

Ya know, insulting someone who you believe has insulted others isn't really solving anything nor is it on the topic. I can't stand the pack mentality.

Ah, but perhaps she will realize that the "pack" agrees she is very, very wrong. And then perhaps she will take a second look at herself and realize what she is posting is outright lies.

Furthermore, if she is insulted by her own words....so be it. It is very scary that she may be put in a position to help others one day

 

[DisneyPhD]

I didn't read all the responses, but for me, the answer to your question is that I have guardianship of my niece (3) and I am raising her by myself. I have no other choice than to take her with me when I do my errands and I cannot always predict her mood. Last night we were in Target and she was just awful. I did not know going in that it was going to turn into a whine fest. But I had stuff I had to get and so I did. Believe me, there's nothing I would have rather done than to crawl into a hole. And I hardly strolled. I whipped through there as fast as I could.

Anyway, as you can see, the question you posed does not have a black and white answer.

KatelynnsAuntie, I want to appaud you for rasing your niece alone. What a wonderful act of love.

It isn't an easy job. good luck to you both.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Ah, but perhaps she will realize that the "pack" agrees she is very, very wrong. And then perhaps she will take a second look at herself and realize what she is posting is outright lies.

Furthermore, if I am insulting her with her own words, than so be it. It is very scary that she may be put in a position to help others one day

She says she wants to be in a postion. From what I have seen, she won't. I take exception to that myself (as a therapist.) but I also know she won't go far, she might get the degree, but she will never be a sucsessful professional that way. Let's just hope she changes a lot or stops pursusing this field.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Oh, and while I have never said that to someone personally, I've been so sick with this 2nd pregnancy that if someone asked me how many kids I think is a good number, I'd definitely say only 1!

Sorry your so sick! Maybe once the morning sickness is better we can plan another get together. What does Madison think about having a little brother or sister?

 

[justhat]

Yes, we'll definitely have to plan another meet-and more DCers better show up this time! Madison has no idea what major change she is in store for yet! She's okay with me holding other babies right now, but I'm sure once this one actually moves in it will be a different story. As bad as the sickness is, it has actually helped in a way cause Madison has realized Daddy is much more fun to play with than Mommy who spends a lot of time laying on her side. She also learned Daddy is a perfectly competent cook, bather, dresser, and diaper changer-all areas which she used to consider him subpar. Who knows, maybe if I feigned illness 2 years ago she would have learned those things long ago! Of course, then I might be labeled lazy....

 

[DisneyPhD]

Yes, we'll definitely have to plan another meet-and more DCers better show up this time! Madison has no idea what major change she is in store for yet! She's okay with me holding other babies right now, but I'm sure once this one actually moves in it will be a different story. As bad as the sickness is, it has actually helped in a way cause Madison has realized Daddy is much more fun to play with than Mommy who spends a lot of time laying on her side. She also learned Daddy is a perfectly competent cook, bather, dresser, and diaper changer-all areas which she used to consider him subpar. Who knows, maybe if I feigned illness 2 years ago she would have learned those things long ago! Of course, then I might be labeled lazy....

Thank God for small blessings. I guess there is silver lining to every cloud. I was really sick with my 2nd (and 1st). I felt like such a bad mommy. It doesn't last forever. DH also steped up to the plate and did a lot more (like yours has). However when we talk about having a 3rd baby he says he couldn't handel me being pregnant again.