Taking children shopping

[kejoda]

Couldn't of said it better myself FreshTressa!!!

And grlpwrd lol about the pattern store. How boring was that? Showing what a brat I was they really didn't like you playing with the fabric did they?

Course now i like fabric stores, just don't drag my boys there that much

 

[FreshTressa]

I remember hiding in the center of a fabric round when I was a little kid and refusing to come out and my mom grabbing my braid to get me out and then I screamed bloody murder.

My poor mom! It was in a small town too!

 

[Planogirl]

Oh my, I had forgotten about fabric stores. My mother always made me go and then she would go to Sears and look at ugly clothes for what seemed like hours. Blech!

DS always did like to shop, at least in the stores I enjoy. You know, the electronics stores, video, Disney Store and such places. I also like home stores but I just tell him to hush now that he's 12 if he starts to grumble.

I never did use a cloth diaper though. I'm lazy and proud of it!

 

[kejoda]

LOL planogirl. I admit I loved going to Sears. Loved that escalator!!!

I didn't use cloth either. I always thought you were lazy when you didnt change at the first smell.

As for taking the boys shopping they are gerenally ok esp. if they bring the gameboys.

 

[JerryMoCricketsGal]

LOL planogirl. I admit I loved going to Sears. Loved that escalator!!!

I didn't use cloth either. I always thought you were lazy when you didnt change at the first smell.

As for taking the boys shopping they are gerenally ok esp. if they bring the gameboys.

Your posts do nothing but further my study...please continue!!

People like you make the polls on how to parent in the media look like a joke, as all they need to do to know how to ignore their kids is just follow you huh??????

 

[DisneyMomOK]

I am hoping that I just misread the previous post, since it appeared to be unnecessarily rude. If I misinterpreted the post, my apologies.

Sharon

 

[DisneyMomOK]

Read the prior posts and ROFL over the "ugly clothes at Sears" and hiding in the middle of the cloth racks. Nice to know other thought/did that also.

As far as the cloth diaper, my kids are now 20 and 18 and my PEDIATRICIAN told me to use disposables because the kids would be less likely to develop diaper rash. His opinion was that no matter how quickly you changed a cloth diaper, you could never change it fast enough for their delicate skin. And that was back in the dark ages of diapers.

Sharon

PS I am going to pay for this insomnia tomorrow.

 

[Marseeya]

I'm just curious for those of you who believe that removing a child from a store gives in to them, or rewards them for bad behavior -- what exactly do you do or think happens when you take them out of the store?

When I removed my kids from a store, it wasn't play time. They sat in their car seats, or sat in the car until they settled down. No radio, no yelling from me, just sitting there quietly in our seats.

It wasn't necessarily a punishment, but it sure wasn't fun either. Sometimes all they needed was a quiet place to unwind from the overstimulation (mostly that would have been DS). DS had a big problem getting overstimulated in crowded stores or public places, so if I had no choice but to take him with me when we went shopping, I made sure to be aware of the signs when he couldn't take much more. Sometimes they just needed me to let them know their behavior wasn't okay, and that our shopping trip just got lengthened a good bit by having to sit in the car, then go back and finish shopping.

It was a huge inconvenience to me to have to do that, and fortunately I didn't have to do it on every shopping trip. I'm sorry, but it's OUR responsibility as parents to have to inconvenience ourselves when our kids need us to.

For those who inevitably bring up a disability, this works wonders for kids with disabilities. I don't mean to sound insensitive, but it's just no excuse to let your kid have a complete and total meltdown (I'm not talking whining, I'm talking full-blown tantrum or screaming meltdown). Whether or not you think it's inconsiderate of other shoppers/patrons, it's just not good for the child either.

 

[JerryMoCricketsGal]

I'm just curious for those of you who believe that removing a child from a store gives in to them, or rewards them for bad behavior -- what exactly do you do or think happens when you take them out of the store?

When I removed my kids from a store, it wasn't play time. They sat in their car seats, or sat in the car until they settled down. No radio, no yelling from me, just sitting there quietly in our seats.

It wasn't necessarily a punishment, but it sure wasn't fun either. Sometimes all they needed was a quiet place to unwind from the overstimulation (mostly that would have been DS). DS had a big problem getting overstimulated in crowded stores or public places, so if I had no choice but to take him with me when we went shopping, I made sure to be aware of the signs when he couldn't take much more. Sometimes they just needed me to let them know their behavior wasn't okay, and that our shopping trip just got lengthened a good bit by having to sit in the car, then go back and finish shopping.

It was a huge inconvenience to me to have to do that, and fortunately I didn't have to do it on every shopping trip. I'm sorry, but it's OUR responsibility as parents to have to inconvenience ourselves when our kids need us to.

For those who inevitably bring up a disability, this works wonders for kids with disabilities. I don't mean to sound insensitive, but it's just no excuse to let your kid have a complete and total meltdown (I'm not talking whining, I'm talking full-blown tantrum or screaming meltdown). Whether or not you think it's inconsiderate of other shoppers/patrons, it's just not good for the child either.

 

[chobie]

I think being disturbed by normal childhood behavior....like a little whining (I"m not talking out of control) is like being disturbed by older people.

Like me saying....I hate being in line behind the old lady who has to chat all day to the cashier.

Truth is, we share the earth with lots of other people in many different stages of their lives, and the more tolerant we are, and the less we let things bother us, the happier we will be.

Thank you.

 

[Mskanga]

ok..I have a 13 year old...was she an angel in every store we went to? HECKKKKKKKKKKKK NOOOOOOOOOO...would i remove myself and her if she had a fit? HECKKKKKKKKKKKK YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

I CANNOT fathom how anyone would think it's ok for their child to act up in a store. Perhaps I was a bad mother that never had to run out for diapers because I chose to use CLOTH diapers? So I don't want to hear that you HAD to run to the store for ANY reason.

If your kid is acting up...REMOVE THEM..

I was a single mother, no baby sitters when i needed to 'go to the store', I just simply made sure that if i needed formula, i STOCKED UP..i didn't say 'i need diapers' because I did the cloth diaper thing..sorry..it's lazy not to...

On my way home from work I would buy formula or what I needed for the house to MAKE SURE i did not bring a baby to the store. There are wayyy too many germs to be exposed to, wayyy to many people, and wayyyyyyyyy too much noise. I was a SINGLE MOTHER and accomplished this.

so all you people that say they need to take their screaming heathens to a store to shop..get over it...leave them at home or don't get mad when people sneeze on them. If you don't want the parents that can control their children and can teach them manners (like a two year old having a pacifier..what is THAT???that's bad parenting is what it is)then I would suggest using the same credit card you use to pay the internet to pay for a grocery store that delivers. There are many of them.

I don't want to see your out of control kids and have it blamed on ADD or some other crap...swat the kids butt...pay attention to them, get off the computer, and then maybe they will respect you.

Are you for real???
Good for you if you want to use cloth diapers , you may think those of us who chose not to do that are lazy , I think that you are just plain cheap and disgusting to be handling feces and then say that you don't take the baby into a store because there are way too many germs, as if there wasn't germs in the cloth diapers with pee and feces that you handle. And I wouldn't want to be with you when you change that baby in someone else's house or somewhere public , I would hope you take the crap with you and not leave it for someone else to clean.
BTW and for the record , I must be a damn good mother , my kids never took pacifiers , or is that bad parenting also because I deprived them from something?
BTW, if there was a store that delivered in my town , believe me I would use it.....so lady please stop assuming what other people are unless you know the facts.

 

[mom2boys]

Kids are smart. I never dropped everything and left because my kid(s) weren't happy. I am the adult. My kids don't run the show. If my youngest had thought a tantrum would have gotten him out of the grocery store, discount store, Church, school... his behavior would have been unmanagable. I don't think it teaches kids to behave if they get their way when they misbehave. There were always consequences if they didn't behave appropriately - still are. You may would not have witnessed the consequences while we were shopping. I also never believed in buying my kids something everytime we went to the store. I have no problem telling them no.
That said, if I knew the bad behavior was because we'd been doing a lot of running and truly felt my kid(s) were worn out, I would expediete my shopping & perhaps leave off an errand that could possibly wait a day.

 

[allie&mattsmom]

ok..I have a 13 year old...was she an angel in every store we went to? HECKKKKKKKKKKKK NOOOOOOOOOO...would i remove myself and her if she had a fit? HECKKKKKKKKKKKK YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

I CANNOT fathom how anyone would think it's ok for their child to act up in a store. Perhaps I was a bad mother that never had to run out for diapers because I chose to use CLOTH diapers? So I don't want to hear that you HAD to run to the store for ANY reason.

If your kid is acting up...REMOVE THEM..

I was a single mother, no baby sitters when i needed to 'go to the store', I just simply made sure that if i needed formula, i STOCKED UP..i didn't say 'i need diapers' because I did the cloth diaper thing..sorry..it's lazy not to...

On my way home from work I would buy formula or what I needed for the house to MAKE SURE i did not bring a baby to the store. There are wayyy too many germs to be exposed to, wayyy to many people, and wayyyyyyyyy too much noise. I was a SINGLE MOTHER and accomplished this.

so all you people that say they need to take their screaming heathens to a store to shop..get over it...leave them at home or don't get mad when people sneeze on them. If you don't want the parents that can control their children and can teach them manners (like a two year old having a pacifier..what is THAT???that's bad parenting is what it is)then I would suggest using the same credit card you use to pay the internet to pay for a grocery store that delivers. There are many of them.

I don't want to see your out of control kids and have it blamed on ADD or some other crap...swat the kids butt...pay attention to them, get off the computer, and then maybe they will respect you.

Wow. I am speechless. Scary, very very scary.

 

[Mari annie]

I have kids my own, watch kids, also.

If there is an emergency to get something, but if your child is tired or hungry and there is a big difference-
It angers me that some moms or dad's will continue to shop for bargains, when certainly they can do that at another time.

When my kids were very young, I didn't have anyone to watch the kids, so I had to take them with me, too.

Why would any rational parent want their child to continue to scream or cry if they were thristy or hungry, at least parents should buy them a snack or a bottle of water, not keep saying "okay hunny okay hunny were leaving in a few minutes as the child is telling them I am hungry".
There's a difference between being hungry and thristy and wanting toys and having a tantrum!

I was in Target last week with my husband we both had the day off and were getting last minute things for our FL trip and a mom was totally ignoring her (about 4 year old). That what ticks me off. She was looking for sales, and talking on her cell phone. It's the "me attitude" that is wrong, on the mom's part!!!!


2 weeks and counting................

 

[skiwee1]

Maybe not an emergency, but neither is it an "experience" that people should expect to never see children behaving less then perfectly and get freaked out and judgmental when they do.

You must really have whining screaming kids. You seem to be defensive at every post. I am no intolerant of kids. Considering I have 3, that is pretty funny. What I don't find funny is listening to someone's kid scream and cry for more then a minute or two. If you can't control your kids let it be your problem, not the entire store.

 

[Mskanga]

Yesterday while I was in walmart there was a couple shopping with a little girl , she looked like approx 3 years old , maybe 4 and she was screaming from isle to isle, and I mean screaming. People kept looking at them , usually kids crying don't bother me but after hearing this kid from isles away for like 10 minutes it did. I cannot understand why ( if they had to go shopping ) one of the parents didn't take this kid outside and wait until the other one was done shopping , BTW neither one of them was trying to calm this kid down either they were just letting her have her tantrum.
Thank God my shopping was fast and I got out of there.

 

[marlasmom]

It's funny looking back as my kids are grown. I don't ever remember tantrums in stores or restaurants. I have taken my grandchildren out of restaurants when they were very small (less than 1 year old) until they calmed down. I'd hate for someone to be paying for a babysitter to listen to my kids cry. After that age, they never acted up.

FWIW I used cloth diapers until the last one. I don't know if they even had good disposables for the first 2. However, once I discovered that the disposables actually kept the kids drier and more comfortable I was a convert. I bought my daughter cloth diapers when she was expecting her baby, but with the thought that they were for emergency use and/or burp cloths.

IMO it's just wrong to be so judgmental. I HATE to hear kids screaming in a store. (I have less and less patience as I age.) However, I can certainly appreciate that sometimes one just has to get their errands done.

And for someone who derides others for posting a lot, you are sure doing your share on this thread.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Some people do enjoy grocery shopping. My mother absolutely loved it! You just never know.

I'm sure that some people do enjoy it, but in that case the person can move over an aisle or at least know that the store will be there the next time she shops.

Very often when I see a fussy child I will talk to that child and try to distract them for a moment. It's easy to get a quick read on the child to know if a minute of my time will get their mind off of whatever is bugging them and actually help out the parent even briefly. I'm not talking a school aged child, of course, but a bored baby/toddler can respond well to a stranger giving them a little attention. Again, depends on the situation and I don't always do it (depends on my mood and the vibes from the other people).

 

[chobie]

You must really have whining screaming kids. You seem to be defensive at every post. I am no intolerant of kids. Considering I have 3, that is pretty funny. What I don't find funny is listening to someone's kid scream and cry for more then a minute or two. If you can't control your kids let it be your problem, not the entire store.

No, I'll keep lettting them scream, taking joy in that fact that there are people who can't stand it.

Actaully my kids were perfect angels, but I realize that people like you have kids that may not be and I just thank God for having been blessed and won't pass judgment on you should you not be able to flee the store in a timely manner.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

As I already explained, it was my method of teaching him and it worked quite nicely. I didn't like his screaming and I didn't expect others to. I wanted to teach him that it was wrong and I can say that my mission was accomplished.

This worked for me, it might not for others.

My youngest, at 13mo started the ear piercing screaming, which was very unpleasant. For a long time I left him at home when I was going grocery shopping. With a work at home husband I could sometimes escape the house when Jake was down for a nap. Or by then my DD was old enough to babysit him and I could usually go without him.

So I do understand the screaming that some kids do--believe me, I had all the answers when I had my first 3 kids, but there were many holes shot in my parenting when I had Jake. I did try not to subject people to his loudness when I could avoid it.