I don't think I've seen anyone but a small child eat a cupcake (unless it's a teeny cupcake) withOUT a fork,
Ok, this alone explains a lot. I think you are coming from a different place than the overwhelming majority on this board.
I would guess that most here have never seen anyone eat a cupcake with a fork.
Don't misunderstand my statement. I'm not saying anyone is wrong or right, I'm just saying that we all look at things thru the glasses we were brought up with.