Table Manners....

[canopynut66]

anything concerning the cell phoneitis so many people have. turn it off or better yet leave it in the car until your done eating

 

[DeaverTex]

Picking your teeth at the table with a tooth pick or fork. Excuse yourself and go to the rest room. No one needs to see that hunk of bacteria laden gunk be extracted from your mouth.

With a fork!?

 

[KristaTX]

Buttering an entire piece of bread/roll and eating it, rather than breaking off small pieces and buttering each individually. It absolutely infantilizes the person.

I am not seeing any sign (e.g. this guy ) to indicate that you are joking. Put a bib on me because I must be a big baby in your eyes, as is every other person that I've ever eaten with or in the vicinity of . If I noticed someone breaking their bread into small pieces and then buttering each little piece, I wouldn't think they were "infantilized", but I would think it was bizarre even if it is some kind of ancient bit of dining etiquette. It just strikes me as really strange that that would be anyone's biggest dining pet peeve .

Mine would be undertipping when the service is at least good, and double-dipping in a shared bowl of dip, sauce, oil, etc.

 

[ilovepcot]

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[dapoteete]

Blowing your nose at the table. It is beyond disgusting. Really? You can't excuse yourself and go to the restroom. Also the smacking. I'm tense just thinking about it. OMG, now I will have to do something relaxing or I wont be able to sleep.

 

[HelenaB]

Talking while eating or worse still - eating with your mouth open - YUUUCK!! Disgusting!

 

[ILoveToRun]

I hate it when certain members of my family sit down and start eating before everyone else is seated (particularly the cook!). I think it's beyond rude, and I've said so - but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

Blowing your nose at the table. It is beyond disgusting. Really? You can't excuse yourself and go to the restroom.

Yes and yes!

 

[maslex]

I'm going to have to agree about talking with your mouth open & full of food, making noise when you eat, swallowing hard. My husband does this and I refuse to be in the same room with him while he eats. Seriously. Unless it's a restaurant (then there's a lot of background noise), I'll be in the other room. Can't even look at him while he's eating, it's so gross. He literally shovels it in like he'll never get another bite of food. I just don't get it. He will also put a few forkfuls of fodd in his mouth before chewing. REALLY?? You can start the chewing process after just one forkful of food? And then the food is packed into the sides of his mouth like a chipmunk and then he'll start talking. All you can see is the food all on the sides of his mouth.

And with his mother now living right next to us (they built an inlaw apt) I now know where he gets it from. HER!!! She does the same thing!!!

 

[cornflake]

This thread is kind of fascinating as to what different people name.

Some minor things, some basic etiquette violations, some sortof out there etiquette violations, some things I cannot imagine seeing someone doing - licking fingers?! Fork in one hand bread in the other, eating at once?! And the entirety of the poster above's husband's habits.

I'm just baffled by the husband one really. I can't imagine marrying and remaining married to someone who behaved badly enough you couldn't be in the same room when they ate. What happens if you go to someone's house for dinner? Have you never tried to help him work on his manners?

 

[indimom]

I agree with "seeing" the food while your eating it.

But, an incident a few years ago, really made me realize that we all view manners VERY differntly.
My SIL is very particular about the behavior of her teens. Their language, their dress, their behavior, using titles for adults in the family, their tone of voice, everything. One Thanksgiving, her then 13yo son came into grandma's house with his hat on and she nearly had a seizure and spent 20 minutes lecturing him on how RUDE it was, she shouldn't have to tell him that, and on and on, in front of the entire family.
Dinner was served. We all sat down at the table together and said Grace. And her then 16yo daughter proceeds to whip out her phone and text for the entire meal. Seriously, she only stopped to pick up her fork and take an occasional bite. She didn't say two words during the entire meal. And disappeared with her phone to another room as soon as she finished. And SIL Said NOTHING... Didn't even seem to notice...
Honestly, why come??

This incident made me realize just how differently we all perceive manners. I could have cared less about the hat. Honestly, he could have sat down to the table with it on and I doubt I would have noticed. But, I found the texting during a family Thanksgiving dinner with the grandparents to be incredibly rude.

 

[aprilgail2]

Also burping at the table. Not funny!

I would rather they burped at the table than blow their nose-once someone at the table or nearby table blows their nose while I am eating my meal is done- can't eat anymore!

Picking your teeth at the table with a tooth pick or fork. Excuse yourself and go to the rest room. No one needs to see that hunk of bacteria laden gunk be extracted from your mouth.

A lady I work with sucks her teeth when she is done eating, we are seriously considering buying her a box of toothpicks!! Sh will suck on her teeth for 10 minutes until she gets all her lunch out of there- it's VILE!

I am not seeing any sign (e.g. this guy ) to indicate that you are joking. Put a bib on me because I must be a big baby in your eyes, as is every other person that I've ever eaten with or in the vicinity of . If I noticed someone breaking their bread into small pieces and then buttering each little piece, I wouldn't think they were "infantilized", but I would think it was bizarre even if it is some kind of ancient bit of dining etiquette. It just strikes me as really strange that that would be anyone's biggest dining pet peeve .

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If I saw someone breaking their bread into small pieces and buttering it that way and eating it I would just think they were missing all their teeth and couldn't eat any other way!- we used to have a boss at work that had about 3 teeth in his mouth that would eat that way!

I'm going to have to agree about talking with your mouth open & full of food, making noise when you eat, swallowing hard. My husband does this and I refuse to be in the same room with him while he eats. Seriously. Unless it's a restaurant (then there's a lot of background noise), I'll be in the other room. Can't even look at him while he's eating, it's so gross. He literally shovels it in like he'll never get another bite of food. I just don't get it. He will also put a few forkfuls of fodd in his mouth before chewing. REALLY?? You can start the chewing process after just one forkful of food? And then the food is packed into the sides of his mouth like a chipmunk and then he'll start talking. All you can see is the food all on the sides of his mouth.

Seriously and you married him?!?!?! I wouldn't have gotten past the first date where we ate out together before I was to grossed out to go out with him again!!!

 

[MIGrandma]

Also burping at the table. Not funny!

Burping at the table compliments the cook. Seriously though, how does one suppress a burp at the table? Or do you want them to jump up and leave the room to burp?

Buttering an entire piece of bread/roll and eating it, rather than breaking off small pieces and buttering each individually. It absolutely infantilizes the person.

Do you mean at a fine dining restaurant, or at home? I can see doing small pieces at the fine dining restaurant (and I do that on a cruise too) but at home I would think that would be kind of strange. When I serve dinner rolls they are warm, I would much prefer to split them in two and butter both halves so the butter can melt into the roll. Or we'll have sliced bread and I just can't imagine breaking off little pieces of that and buttering individually.

I hate it when certain members of my family sit down and start eating before everyone else is seated (particularly the cook!). I think it's beyond rude, and I've said so - but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

I feel the opposite, I would prefer guests (or even family members) not wait for me to sit down. Go ahead and get started while the food is hot.

Blowing your nose at the table. It is beyond disgusting. Really? You can't excuse yourself and go to the restroom. Also the smacking. I'm tense just thinking about it. OMG, now I will have to do something relaxing or I wont be able to sleep.

My poor Mother would be getting up 6-8 times during a meal to go to another room to blow her nose. For some reason she gets a drippy nose whenever she eats, so yes she discreetly blows her nose at the table so she doesn't have to constantly be getting up. The family is used to it, and her friends are too.


I think a lot of people's interpretation of etiquette, or things that annoy them at the table, depends on the region they live in, how they were brought up, etc. We are simple farm folk, and most of what people are complaining about here we wouldn't bat an eye over.

I do try to at least get DH to use the proper utensil when we're eating in the dining room on a cruise, but other than that you can't take the country out of the boy.

 

[Janepod]

I am not seeing any sign (e.g. this guy ) to indicate that you are joking. Put a bib on me because I must be a big baby in your eyes, as is every other person that I've ever eaten with or in the vicinity of . If I noticed someone breaking their bread into small pieces and then buttering each little piece, I wouldn't think they were "infantilized", but I would think it was bizarre even if it is some kind of ancient bit of dining etiquette. It just strikes me as really strange that that would be anyone's biggest dining pet peeve .

Why would I be joking? That is how I was brought up. Lots of other people too, apparently. Emily Post is on my side.
A coworker used to butter all his bread at once and it did look like he was making a sandwich.

http://www.chow.com/food-news/54040/butter-me-up/

 

[joviroxx]

I have a pathological neurotic obsession with table manners. DH calls me the table manners nazi LOL. I don't know why, but bad manners grate my nerves.
-elbows on the table
-chewing with your mouth open
-hats at the table
-cutting up ALL your meat before you eat it
-not putting your fork down while you chew
-using silverware correctly

- yes, there are more

Oh, they go on and on LOL! At home I can be more relaxed with SOME of them like the cutting all your meat first, but if we are out, no way! My kids laugh at me but I can tell you , their table manners are pristine!!

 

[kimmar067]

.....wow, some of these horrid table manners are like..........who do you people EAT with anyway??????

 

[brunette8706]

Okay, don't laugh, but I always had a pet peeve on how someone should hold a "fork". Here's the proper way:

http://www.shutterstock.com/pic-797...per-way-to-hold-a-fork-and-knife-concept.html

 

[joviroxx]

Oh! And don't get me started on cutting meat! You cut through it, not rip it apart!!

 

[brunette8706]

I have a pathological neurotic obsession with table manners. DH calls me the table manners nazi LOL. I don't know why, but bad manners grate my nerves.
-elbows on the table
-chewing with your mouth open
-hats at the table
-cutting up ALL your meat before you eat it
-not putting your fork down while you chew
-using silverware correctly

- yes, there are more

Oh, they go on and on LOL! At home I can be more relaxed with SOME of them like the cutting all your meat first, but if we are out, no way! My kids laugh at me but I can tell you , their table manners are pristine!!

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I see a lot of hats on at Disney, while eating at the Table restaurants. That's another one of my pet peeves. lol

 

[kimmar067]

Okay, don't laugh, but I always had a pet peeve on how someone should hold a "fork". Here's the proper way:

http://www.shutterstock.com/pic-797...per-way-to-hold-a-fork-and-knife-concept.html

....hey, at least they don't use their FINGERS!

 

[mjkacmom]

I am not seeing any sign (e.g. this guy ) to indicate that you are joking. Put a bib on me because I must be a big baby in your eyes, as is every other person that I've ever eaten with or in the vicinity of . If I noticed someone breaking their bread into small pieces and then buttering each little piece, I wouldn't think they were "infantilized", but I would think it was bizarre even if it is some kind of ancient bit of dining etiquette. It just strikes me as really strange that that would be anyone's biggest dining pet peeve .

Mine would be undertipping when the service is at least good, and double-dipping in a shared bowl of dip, sauce, oil, etc.

Actually, breaking off a piece of bread and buttering the bread is the proper way to eat a roll. As someone who grew up in a home where, if you broke table manners rules, you were asked to be excused (hiccups were included in the table ban), I'm pretty familiar with table manners.

My kids know not to butter the whole roll, to eat with their mouths closed (they police each other), and to put the napkin on their laps when we're out (or at my parents - lol). And to ask to be excused when they want to leave the table. I do try not to be my father, and only point out a few mistakes, instead of making meals very tense.