Suppose some friends are coming for a visit from the other side of the country....

[PoppyGirl]

and suppose they would really like to get together with the old gang but maybe only have one day that fits in with their travel plans.
(by the way, this visit is being planned several months in advance and the group that lives in the same area has not seen the visiting family for several years)

Do you

a. skip a weekly event in order to be with the visitors for the time they can meet?

b. attend your weekly event and miss being with your friends?

 

[Christine]

and suppose they would really like to get together with the old gang but maybe only have one day that fits in with their travel plans.
(by the way, this visit is being planned several months in advance and the group that lives in the same area has not seen the visiting family for several years)

Do you

a. skip a weekly event in order to be with the visitors for the time they can meet?

b. attend your weekly event and miss being with your friends?

If I really liked them, I would chose "A".

 

[krcit]

I would skip the weekly event in order to see my other friends. I know my local friends would understand and if they didn't well then too bad, lol

 

[dislaney]

This seems so simple. Of course I would change my schedule to see my friends.

 

[PixieTopaz]

So I'm guessing one of the Gang wont skip their weekly event?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

What is the weekly event? What are the consequences of not going to the event?

For example, if you are in the running for the championship and you are the ringer, probably not a good idea to skip.

 

[daisyduck123]

Answer "A", unless I don't like the family & am looking for an excuse to NOT see them...then I'd go with "B".

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Answer "A", unless I don't like the family & am looking for an excuse to NOT see them...then I'd go with "B".

yeah this!

 

[PoppyGirl]

The weekly event is a church service. Note that there is an early church service that the friend could attend and still make it to the get together.

For me this is a no-brainer. If my friends came clear across the country (and these are really "important in my life friends"), I would totally skip church for one Sunday to be with them. Or at LEAST go to the early service for one Sunday. I totally don't get the one friend's attitude.... When this friend (or any of the group of friends) comes to my side of the country all of us who still live on this coast make the drive down to D.C. to see him. Because of course he does not have transportation when he's in the city--I get that! I wouldn't rent a car in D.C. either!

This friend also wants the gang to meet in downtown L.A. I don't mind driving--after all, it's in Southern CA...you have to drive. To meet in downtown LA means that the family who is traveling from the east to the west coast will have to drive 3 hours to meet while all the other friends will have to drive about an hour.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

So you have a friend that won't see you because they have to go to church? Not sure I am following this.

For me, I would just say sorry we missed you and move on.

 

[PoppyGirl]

So you have a friend that won't see you because they have to go to church? Not sure I am following this.

For me, I would just say sorry we missed you and move on.

That pretty much sums it up. And that's pretty much what we're going to be saying. The rest of the group is planning to get together for brunch. Oh well.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

That pretty much sums it up. And that's pretty much what we're going to be saying. The rest of the group is planning to get together for brunch. Oh well.

 

[PoppyGirl]

Actually, now that I've had my evening walk with the dog....I think what was bugging me was that this friend sort of implied that EVERYONE should wait until he was able to meet. The other friends were all willing to be flexible with our timetable.

 

[bumbershoot]

The weekly event is a church service. Note that there is an early church service that the friend could attend and still make it to the get together.

For me this is a no-brainer. If my friends came clear across the country (and these are really "important in my life friends"), I would totally skip church for one Sunday to be with them. Or at LEAST go to the early service for one Sunday. I totally don't get the one friend's attitude....

My stepdad and his then brand new wife (my mom having died 3 years earlier) skipped our wedding rehearsal dinner so that they could go *find* a church to attend the following morning.

I will *never* understand his/their decision on that, not ever...but I guess for some people, going into a building to talk with their Person is more important than seeing people that they rarely see.

I'm fairly certain that stepdad didn't mean that he didn't care about me...but it sure did feel that way!

 

[PoppyGirl]

My stepdad and his then brand new wife (my mom having died 3 years earlier) skipped our wedding rehearsal dinner so that they could go *find* a church to attend the following morning.

I will *never* understand his/their decision on that, not ever...but I guess for some people, going into a building to talk with their Person is more important than seeing people that they rarely see.

I'm fairly certain that stepdad didn't mean that he didn't care about me...but it sure did feel that way!

Ouch! Wow....my situation is not that big of a deal, but I cannot imagine how I would have felt if it were something as important as my marriage--a once in a lifetime event. So sorry that happened for you.