Summer b-day -how to invite classmates

[candy0730]

Hi, my son is in Kindergarten and has made quite a few new friends at school that he would like to invite to his birthday party. The problem is that his birthday is in July so we won't be able to hand out invitations at school. I don't have addresses for any of these children. So my question is, do you think it would be ok for me to send a note to school that each child can take home which asks for their address? If you got a note would you provide your address? Of course I would explain why I am asking but I just am not sure how to go about this or what to say. Any thoughts or ideas would be appreciated.

 

[happygirl]

Hi, my son is in Kindergarten and has made quite a few new friends at school that he would like to invite to his birthday party. The problem is that his birthday is in July so we won't be able to hand out invitations at school. I don't have addresses for any of these children. So my question is, do you think it would be ok for me to send a note to school that each child can take home which asks for their address? If you got a note would you provide your address? Of course I would explain why I am asking but I just am not sure how to go about this or what to say. Any thoughts or ideas would be appreciated.

I really have no idea how to handle that. but I hope you have better luck then I did, we invited my son whole class to his b-day party only one kid came,

 

[Minnie*J*]

Hi, my son is in Kindergarten and has made quite a few new friends at school that he would like to invite to his birthday party. The problem is that his birthday is in July so we won't be able to hand out invitations at school. I don't have addresses for any of these children. So my question is, do you think it would be ok for me to send a note to school that each child can take home which asks for their address? If you got a note would you provide your address? Of course I would explain why I am asking but I just am not sure how to go about this or what to say. Any thoughts or ideas would be appreciated.

If I got that note from one of my ds's classmates, I would give you my address.

 

[deedeetoo]

Our schools have never allowed invitations to be handed out during school. We always have to mail them. Our school distributes directories with parents names and addresses and most people are listed in that (people do have to give permission to be in the book). If someone was missing and we didn't know where they lived, we just looked it up in the phone book. Only once could I not find someone. There was only one listing with that last name, and it was not in the right part of town.

Also, we get emailings with everyones e-mail addresses on it that are sent out by the room parents. If you have that, you could e-mail your invites.

 

[happygirl]

Our schools have never allowed invitations to be handed out during school. We always have to mail them. Our school distributes directories with parents names and addresses and most people are listed in that (people do have to give permission to be in the book). If someone was missing and we didn't know where they lived, we just looked it up in the phone book. Only once could I not find someone. There was only one listing with that last name, and it was not in the right part of town.

Also, we get emailings with everyones e-mail addresses on it that are sent out by the room parents. If you have that, you could e-mail your invites.

Our schools don't give out any personal info of other students/parents. I wish they did but I can understand why they don't

 

[cabanafrau]

Maybe you could give the option of address, phone # or e-mail & leave it up to each person what they do or don't care to provide.

I feel for you dealing w/ this summer b-day issue, especially when they are young. Oldest DD has a late June b-day & we always ran into the issue of people bugging out of town for the 4th of July holiday.

 

[Minnie*J*]

I really have no idea how to handle that. but I hope you have better luck then I did, we invited my son whole class to his b-day party only one kid came

That's horrible! My ds loves going to every and any party he is ever invited too.

 

[diznygirl]

We have had a party in June for the kids and handed out the invitations at school. Then another party in July for the actual birthday with family.

As they get older it's easier to get addresses.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My advice would be to invite the kids to your house to play and then that is when you tell the mom you are having a party over the summer and ask for their address.

Have any of these kids been to your house? Do you know the mom's?

The inherent problem that you have is that if the friends have not been over to your house to play, more than likely they will not come to your party.

So, invite kids over to play, then get addresses. You have have a better chance of actually having kids show up.

 

[mom2travel]

Do you have any type of kindergarten graduation/moving up ceremony/party at the end of the year which parents would attend? Our schools do directories but K has a celebration at the end of school too. Then you could either request contact info or hand out invitations directly to the parents. Or give them your phone # and email and ask them to contact you and let them know why

 

[mom2grace]

Have you thought about having the party near the end of the school year instead of summer? I think you will have more luck with attendance.

 

[HM]

My DD has a July birthday. We often started planning her parties well before school got out, so that we could give out invitations to the friends at school while it was still session. This was especially important because so many families were planning vacations and we were unsure of who would even be around for the date of the party if we waited. You might just go ahead a give out invitations (if you are allowed) before school ends. Good luck!

One year we even threw her party in March. She was tired of only having a few kids available in the summer and wanted a big party (middle school age).

 

[tiggger1]

Our schools have never allowed invitations to be handed out during school. We always have to mail them. Our school distributes directories with parents names and addresses and most people are listed in that (people do have to give permission to be in the book). If someone was missing and we didn't know where they lived, we just looked it up in the phone book. Only once could I not find someone. There was only one listing with that last name, and it was not in the right part of town.

Also, we get emailings with everyones e-mail addresses on it that are sent out by the room parents. If you have that, you could e-mail your invites.

we are in mass too and our school does this also. No invitation in class unless you invite all of the kids ( or all of 1 gender, so if you are a girl you need to invite all the kids in the class or all of the girls) but there is a directory that you get at the beginning of the year. you have to fill out the form to get into the book

 

[Mkrop]

Our schools don't give out any personal info of other students/parents. I wish they did but I can understand why they don't

I cant imagine going to a school that does not have directories. We have every child in the school, address, phone number, and email.


I grew up dealing with a July birthday and it stunk royally, no one was ever around to attend a party.


I would have it before school lets out.

 

[golfgal]

Have you thought about having the party near the end of the school year instead of summer? I think you will have more luck with attendance.

This is what I would do as well. Have the party before school gets out so you can hand out invites then. Otherwise I agree, have a playdate with the kids he wants to invite so you get contact info that way.

You could also ask the teacher if you could set up a mailing list. You could send a note home with the kids saying that you are forming a summer mailing list so the kids that want to can get together over the summer. Since it is voluntary and the school isn't officially sponsoring it, I am sure it would be fine. Just have a small form at the bottom with"

Child's Name_____________
Parent(s) name ____________
Address __________________
phone number _______________
email ________________________

Those that want can fill it out and return it to school and you can compile the list in Excel and distribute. I would bet most families would want this too.

 

[Longsx3]

My DD(14) has an early August B-day and we have always been in the same situation. Many years we would have a Birthday Party for her in May or in Sept so that she could invite friends, the ones we have had on her birthday have always been smaller.

For her Sweet 16 next year I plan to have her pass out save the date magnets to her friends at school in June with an email address so that they can email their address for the formal invites.

 

[Ferrante8]

Hi, my son is in Kindergarten and has made quite a few new friends at school that he would like to invite to his birthday party. The problem is that his birthday is in July so we won't be able to hand out invitations at school. I don't have addresses for any of these children. So my question is, do you think it would be ok for me to send a note to school that each child can take home which asks for their address? If you got a note would you provide your address? Of course I would explain why I am asking but I just am not sure how to go about this or what to say. Any thoughts or ideas would be appreciated.

Our schools pass out a class list, you could always request one from the teacher, if she needed to black out other info she can. Maybe next year you could suggest it in the beginning of the year, so you can set up play dates. Ours include phone numbers, addresses, child and parents names. Of corse we have to sign a form every year to allow our child to be added to the class list.

 

[scrapquitler]

Hi, my son is in Kindergarten and has made quite a few new friends at school that he would like to invite to his birthday party. The problem is that his birthday is in July so we won't be able to hand out invitations at school. I don't have addresses for any of these children. So my question is, do you think it would be ok for me to send a note to school that each child can take home which asks for their address? If you got a note would you provide your address? Of course I would explain why I am asking but I just am not sure how to go about this or what to say. Any thoughts or ideas would be appreciated.

How about just having his party early? Nothing says his party has to be within a week of his birthday If you plant he party closer to the end of school, more of his friends will probably be able to come anyway...start planning it for July and he might find that a lot of the friends he wants to invite are away on vacation.

One of my friends has a child with a last week of July birthday. He usually gives out invitations about 1-2 weeks before school ends and has the party in the week or so after the last day of school. It turns into a fun end of the year kind of thing for them that way.