Stupid Pet Peeve

[CarolAnn856]

Happily married people with wonderful families who still have to find random things to complain about.

Sorry, you asked.

I obviously don't know your situation, so I have no idea whether your comment stems from deep disappointment or a bit of holier-than-thou attitude, or maybe you just came across in a way you didn't intend. But, do you really think that people who have good things in their lives can never complain?

First, it's perfectly normal to feel frustration and be annoyed at times, no matter how good they have it. That's human nature. And second, the thread title is "stupid pet peeve." That right there should tell you that the poster acknowledges that, in the grand scheme of life, this is a small blip.

 

[DisneyOma]

Happily married people with wonderful families who still have to find random things to complain about.

Sorry, you asked.

Having worked with children who are fighting (successfully!) to have their gender issues acknowledged, I don't find the gender stereotyping in the OP's post to be random at all.

 

[Lilacs4Me]

I have three girls. My youngest was a surprise Everyone kept saying "it's a boy". I also had a sister who had 2 girls, so it was girls everywhere Nope, another girl and we are all just as happy I also used to get " all these girls yours?" Yep! just the 3 of them. Like 3 girls was the end of the world and I should be pitied! Also, people reacted like 5 total was a large family. I was like, its just one more then most people

People think of the weirdest things to comment on. I had a boy first, in 2000, and was due to have my 2nd child 4 years later in 2004 on the same due date (july 4th) as our oldest. My great grandmother passed away in mid-june of that year, and we saw a lot of family we hadn't seen in a while.

My uncle, whose kids were only about 6 and 8 years old at the time (my mom is the oldest of 7 and he is #6, so he isn't that much older than me) takes one look at my huge stomach and says "Geesh, ANOTHER one already??!!" Like I had already popped out 5 kids in 6 years or something.

I was like ummm....the first one will be 4 years old in a couple weeks, how many more years should I have spaced them out?! lol

After DD13 was born, everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, kept telling me that now that I had one of each, I could stop.

I (surprise!) found out I was pregnant with DS12 the day before DD turned one. They were to be 20 months apart (he was born a couple weeks early so they are about 19 months apart). When I told my grandma, who had seven kids, and my mother (who also had 7 kids) that I was pregnant, my grandma says "You know, you don't have to have as many kids as your mother and I had".

No kidding, Grandma! I was having 3 kids in 5 1/2, almost 6 years. I'm pretty sure I wasn't trying to keep a family tradition alive for another generation! I just responded - "oh, don't worry about that. I decided I was getting my tubes tied about 10 seconds after I found out I was pregnant with this little surprise, so 3 is it for us!" She kind of walked away after that and went to talk to someone else lol

 

[Julie's Haircut]

I can’t stand it when paper towels don’t rip off straight along the perforation and there’s a little tail of paper hanging from one side.

The same with rolls of aluminum foil or waxed paper, when that last inch fails to make contact with the blade and rips will-nilly.


A pet peeve is the unnecessary overuse of plastic bags in the supermarket produce section. Do you really HAVE to put a cantaloupe (or something else with a hard rind) into a plastic bag? I once saw a woman struggling to get a personal sized watermelon into a plastic bag before giving up.

Same for things that are already bagged, like a pound of carrots, celery hearts, or a mesh bag of onions or lemons.

 

[MamaBelle4]

Do you really HAVE to put a cantaloupe (or something else with a hard rind) into a plastic bag? I once saw a woman struggling to get a personal sized watermelon into a plastic bag before giving up.

That makes no sense! I always bag my exposed fruit and veggies, you never know what is in those carts or on those conveyor belts (like raw chicken germs) but if it's already bagged, WHY?!

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

People cracking chewing gum, I just want to slap them. I have a pretty distinctive name and I've heard every single joke that can be made about it, it irritates the hound out of me when people either laugh or make a joke, like they are the first people to have noticed it.

I am a gum cracker. I know it irritates people...yes I have been told. It’s like I cannot help myself. There is something so satisfying about it that I cannot resist the urge to do it. The “ice cubes” are the best for it. I chew two cubes at a time, it is amazing. I really wish I would quit.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Two things pregnancy related:

1. When people ask if you were trying to get pregnant. When I was pregnant with my last I was walking in the hallway with an older male professor (but not old enough to forgive him!) and he asked if my husband and I were trying to get pregnant. I wanted to answer, "Every night and twice on Saturday!"

2. When people look at the size of your belly and say, "Are you sure it's not twins?!" For one thing, it's just plain rude. For another, my pregnancy started out as a twin pregnancy and we lost one at 13.5 weeks. Besides the pain of losing one baby, I had the worry that the other one wasn't going to make it, too. And it was painful when people made the "you sure it's not twins" comment. I know they didn't know any better, but it hurt, nonetheless.

 

[Liberty Belle]

My friend and work and I were just talking about this the other day. My name is Joy and people think it is clever when they sing "I've got the Joy, Joy, Joy, Joy down in my heart" at me. My friends name is Rhonda and she said she gets tired of the "Help me Rhonda" jokes.

I know a Jolene. She's been sung to more times than she can count.

 

[bethwc101]

I think your 'pet peeve' is a pretty serious issue, actually. Hopefully these dumb people don't say this crap in front of the kids? What a way to make a kid feel bad because of gender. I have two girls. Sure, a boy would have been fine, too. I'm guilty of having stupid gender issues back when I was pregnant. I wanted to 'give my husband a son' and felt like I hadn't done my job (even though I know gender is all on the male!) but guess what? I have two daughters who are absolutely amazing, and have done everything and anything they set their minds on doing. I've wised up about the limiting stereotypes some people put on gender, and don't feel a bit of regret that I don't have a male offspring. About the only thing I missed out on is getting peed in the face while changing a diaper!

I have jokingly told DH that if/when we have kids we would have all girls, just because he wants a boy more than anything. I don't know if it's silly or not, but it makes me sad that he genuinely wants one gender more than the other. It makes me feel like if we did have a girl, I would feel like he was just disappointed and wouldn't love her as much.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I have jokingly told DH that if/when we have kids we would have all girls, just because he wants a boy more than anything. I don't know if it's silly or not, but it makes me sad that he genuinely wants one gender more than the other. It makes me feel like if we did have a girl, I would feel like he was just disappointed and wouldn't love her as much.

He may be disappointed initially, but I bet you anything he'd love her just as much as he would a boy.

 

[MamaBelle4]

I have jokingly told DH that if/when we have kids we would have all girls, just because he wants a boy more than anything. I don't know if it's silly or not, but it makes me sad that he genuinely wants one gender more than the other. It makes me feel like if we did have a girl, I would feel like he was just disappointed and wouldn't love her as much.

We both wanted a boy with our first. I dread puberty and little girl eye rolls.

We weren't disappointed when she was born. She and her sisters (and now brother) are our whole world. We wouldn't trade them for absolutely anything.

 

[Cubbiecakes]

Women who wear heels and then complain about their feet hurting.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

My friend and work and I were just talking about this the other day. My name is Joy and people think it is clever when they sing "I've got the Joy, Joy, Joy, Joy down in my heart" at me. My friends name is Rhonda and she said she gets tired of the "Help me Rhonda" jokes.

I got a lot of "what's your phone number? 867-5309?" as a teen (that's when the song came out, btw). UGH

 

[goofyernmost]

My wife and I never really discussed gender and that was back in the day when pretty much the only way you could reliably know was to wait until they were born. When my first daughter was born, just after when we had just found out she was a girl, my wife turned to me and said... "I'm sorry, I know you wanted a boy". I had never said any such thing although I didn't pursue the point right then, I did correct her later. When my second daughter was born she didn't say it the same way, but, later asked me if I was disappointed that I didn't have a son. I wasn't, I loved my girls and never longed for a son. I have two grandsons now and that's close enough, but, my two granddaughters are cuter.

 

[Squirlz]

My friend and work and I were just talking about this the other day. My name is Joy and people think it is clever when they sing "I've got the Joy, Joy, Joy, Joy down in my heart" at me. My friends name is Rhonda and she said she gets tired of the "Help me Rhonda" jokes.

You think that's bad. When I lived in Atlanta my Wife worked with an attractive young lady named Dixie. Guess what the good ol' boys sang around her.

 

[china mom]

When people found out I was in the process of adopting and assured me that "Now you will get pregnant - that always happens" Guess what. It didn't.

Now so much now that she is older but people telling the one bit of trivia that they know about China, and in front of my daughter, no less "they throw away girls in China" or some variant of that.

In general, people who see my biological son and adopted daughter and think they are entitled to some sort of explanation.

And my all time favorite "Why didn't you adopt an American baby, there are so many who need homes" My answer usually involves me asking them how many they adopted. BTW, I didn't add our daughter to our family to "save a child" from an orphanage. I did it to add a daughter to our family and international was the best way for me to accomplish that. But if someone else wants to save a child, they are free to do that.

 

[jaiminee krikit]

Most of mine are driving related:

• Not using turn signals. Or turning on turn signals after you started turning.
• Changing lanes when the line is solid.
• Not stopping for pedestrians in crosswalks.
• Not getting up to speed in merge lanes.
• Not going when the light turns green.

Other:

• People talking during concerts, shows, or plays.
• People coming late to meetings.
• Use of the phrase "drink the Kool-Aid"
• Using more than three periods for ellipses or using them in the wrong context.
• Using double quotes to emphasize words.
• Not using the Oxford comma.

Yes to all of these! Especially the driving. I'm convinced that the town I live in, everyone was taught that you don't turn on your blinker until you've slammed on your brakes to turn. I've finally re-taught DH! And it's called an acceleration lane for a reason!
DH and I saw Wicked a few years ago. It was my first time seeing it, and there were two women sitting next to DH that sang along to every song. And they were not good singers. I gave them the stink eye half a dozen times, and they just ignored me. Now concerts, though, I will sing at. Sorry!
And I'm glad I'm not the only one that is annoyed by the lack of the Oxford comma. That's how I was taught and when it isn't there it bugs me so much!

When posters don't research the boards to see if their same question hasn't already been previously posted (exception for repeat questions when the answers have changed due to adjustments in procedure Disney has implemented) or when they post a question on a thread without reading through some of it first. So many times the answer they are looking for is merely a few posts or one page back from their post.

YES!! When I create a post, I search probably too much to make sure no one else has posted what I want to post. But usually I find what I'm looking for!

I live across the street from a fire station out in the boonies. I think every firefighter that is off duty honks at the station when they drive by. Drive me nuts! Just happened, that's why I'm posting it lol.
People who leave their shopping cart at the end of an aisle and walk down the aisle to get something. People who shouldn't use self check-outs but do anyway. People who go to the 10 items or less lane, with a lot more than 10 items.
People who answer text messages while I'm talking to them. Unless it's DD calling or texting me, I don't touch my phone if someone is talking to me. I also won't answer the phone if I'm in the middle of a conversation. DH will, oh it makes me so mad! We could be in the middle of an important conversation and if the phone rings, he jumps up. I've told him so many times that if it's important they will leave a message. We are not anyone's first phone call in an emergency.
People who don't say thank you. Whether it be holding a door, or something even more. If I hold a door and the person doesn't thank me, I will loudly say "You're welcome". So rude.
I better stop now, I'll be here all night.

 

[mmouse37]

Be glad neither of you were named Eileen in the mid 1980's.

Come on....

MJ

 

[LSUmiss]

Two things pregnancy related:

1. When people ask if you were trying to get pregnant. When I was pregnant with my last I was walking in the hallway with an older male professor (but not old enough to forgive him!) and he asked if my husband and I were trying to get pregnant. I wanted to answer, "Every night and twice on Saturday!"

2. When people look at the size of your belly and say, "Are you sure it's not twins?!" For one thing, it's just plain rude. For another, my pregnancy started out as a twin pregnancy and we lost one at 13.5 weeks. Besides the pain of losing one baby, I had the worry that the other one wasn't going to make it, too. And it was painful when people made the "you sure it's not twins" comment. I know they didn't know any better, but it hurt, nonetheless.

#2! I’m currently pregnant. What ppl ask me is “how far along are you again” or “when are you due?” As if there must be some error b/c of my size! Well, I have a giant fibroid that’s basically the size of the baby right now, but, of course, who wants to get into all of that! Ppl are so rude!

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Now concerts, though, I will sing at. Sorry!

Oh, no, me too. I mean like high school concerts, not rock bands or whatever.