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[Lisa loves Pooh]

I"m offended that I coudln't find this thread yesterday. I thought it disappeared. And someone says the title changed.

I'm offended I tell you. Just plain offended.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

Having vomit in your mouth is just gross but the VURP is what does me in because your not expecting it.

And as for the pet siggies I should mention I have a severe flea allergy and while some posts make me scratch my head I'd rather avoid the whole red puffy inflammed look while reading the boards Thank you very much!

 

[kejoda]

Tigger&Belle I want a kitty that looks like yours so I am offended by your siggy. Please remove it so that we don't have to hash this out in nasty PMs

Hey, you think maybe I should remove my wedding ticker and the pic of me and my DF to be sensitive to those going through divorces?

no you should removed it because of those that couldn't get married in DW cause they didn't allow it then.

 

[TDC Nala]

What I don't get is why people put their signatures with pictures of their smiling happy babies or sonograms on a miscarriage thread. Or why do people leave their pet-filled signature turned on when someone posts about having to put down their favorite pet? Or have a happy family picture in a thread where someone's child has been in a serious accident? Think how you'd feel if you were in that person's place.

Okay. I am unmarried. I will always be unmarried. Yes, that's by choice, but pretty much everybody else on this board has "happy family" signatures, and yes, it points out pretty heavily how different I am. I've even been told by some posters on this board that they're sad for me...and they don't need to be, but they can't imagine why someone would not try to get what they have and treasure. But you know what? They're entitled to rejoice in their marriage and their family. They're entitled to their healthy babies and lively pets even if someone else has had a tragedy. I think to deny such facts of life in order to spare feelings is oversensitive. If we followed such rules, no one would be able to post anything personal on a public board because it would surely, if unwittingly, hurt the feelings of someone else.

 

[Planogirl]

I would NEVER expect anyone to hide their family or pets because I might have lost a family member or a pet. Them hiding this doesn't make my loss any less so it just wouldn't make any sense.

I can't agree with the OP and if that offends, I'm truly sorry.

 

[C.Ann]

I have mine set so I don't see anyone's signatures.. Not because I find anything upsetting about them - just because on this old computer of mine the pages take too long to load with all of the photos and what not.. Sometimes I set it so it will show the signatures - especially if someone remarks on how cute someones child is or about a beautiful home in a signature or something of that nature.. Most of the time they're off though so I don't have to resort to this LOL

I don't think people are intentionally being insensitive and as some have already said, if it were real life, what would you expect people to do in some of the circumstances that have been mentioned?

A year ago January I lost my DH after almost 28 years of marriage (30 years together).. The support I received on these boards was overwhelming and not once did I feel hurt because someone mentioned their DH in a post to me or how long they were married or anything else that had to do with husbands.. Never even occured to me that people "shouldn't" talk about their DH's or include photos of them in their signatures (if I'd had them turned on)..

 

[Buckalew11]

Several years ago I lost my FIL. There was a thread done for support for me and my family from DISsers and Dan Murphy printed those kind words and thoughts out and bond them for me in a booklet. Even though I was grieving, all the photos, cute sayings, smilies etc. were in the posts. So many of them I recognize from their siggies even before I read the names.

 

[Marseeya]

I don't know why I feel the need to add my 2 cents, but I just do.

How are our sigs any different than the clothing we wear? What if we run into a friend who'd just had a miscarriage and we were wearing a tee shirt with a picture of our kids on it? Or what if we were talking to a recently widowed friend -- should we hide our wedding rings?

I just think this whole thing is rather bizarre.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I don't know why I feel the need to add my 2 cents, but I just do.

Yeah, we all feel the need.

It's true that we can't hide everything about ourselves, nor should people expect us to.

The thing is, we're talking about posting on support threads, so I'd like to think that it would be viewed as support.

 

[L107ANGEL]

To the OP lets agree to disagree. I didnt know that I could do this. Big shock!!
A forum. you will not always agree with, you just simply need to agree to with the fact that you want to remain posting!
Does that make sense?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Does that make sense?

No

But I'm not the OP, so that's ok.

 

[Stitchfans]

I agree with what everyone else is saying. I only pay attention to what the person had said to my not their signature.

 

[tiggersmom2]

To the OP lets agree to disagree. I didnt know that I could do this. Big shock!!
A forum. you will not always agree with, you just simply need to agree to with the fact that you want to remain posting!
Does that make sense?

Not really...but I know how you feel sweetie.

 

[Shugardrawers]

To the OP lets agree to disagree. I didnt know that I could do this. Big shock!!
A forum. you will not always agree with, you just simply need to agree to with the fact that you want to remain posting!
Does that make sense?

Nah, but why start now? (I'm kidding, really I am, )