Spousal Pet Peeves...Spout Off Here!

[MoniqueU]

I consider myself pretty lucky because there's really only one thing DH does that drives me crazy and we've found a way to work around it. I don't drink coffee. DH drinks a LOT of coffee. My only issue with that is that it seems to be impossible for him to pour it without spilling it everywhere on the kitchen counter.

After months of complaining and scrubbing coffee stains off the counter, I finally smartened up and bought a plastic placemat to go under the coffee pot. I still roll my eyes when I see the mess but every few months, I toss the old placemat and replace it with a new one.

We haven't found a work around for his issue with me. When I'm cooking, I often leave the fridge open as I'm getting things in and out. We're talking leaving the door open for maybe 30 seconds while I measure milk and then put it back, etc. but it drives him insane. I've banned him from looking into the kitchen when I'm cooking.

My DH was just griping at me to only pour the coffee halfway full because I do this and also spill it on the floor as I am going outside. I have made a real effort this week to clean up my messes and not spill on the floor.

On that note my DH running the coffee pot dry. I like to have a few cups in the morning and then one or two in the afternoon. Well when he is home he drinks more then half of it and there is none left in the afternoon.

Mine about Dh is the stuff he cooks makes me sick. He knows what stuff I can't stand to smell and could make it after i go to bed. I go to bed early. It stinks up the whole house. We have a perfectly good barbecue out back he can grill his stuff out there instead of getting the meat smell all in our house.


For the Brita water people, you can get an in sink water filter for about 200 bucks installed and then pour it from the faucet from now on. That was one of the first things I did when I moved to my new house. It sounds pricey but when it wasn't working I easily spent half that for the time it wasn't working.

 

[cbmstephanie]

I see so many of your rants that are exactly like what goes on at our house!
Here are a couple of new ones:

My husband does not flush the toilet when he pees. He flushes when he poops but he doesn't when he just pees. He says he's conserving water. He also blames it on his mother. He says she made him conserve water when he was growing up. I asked her if she did that and of course her answer was NO! In the middle of the night when he gets up and I hear him pee and then start to walk away, I have to hollar...Flush the toilet!!

He also shaves his head and the hair ends up all over the sink and he doesn't clean it up. Grosses me out! I refuse to clean it up so eventually he does clean it up, but really! Luckily, he only does it in the basement bathroom so no one sees it but him and me when I wonder down there.

He also takes off his shoes and leaves them in front of the door so that the next person that comes in the door actually has to move his shoes to be able to open the door. I've started just throwing them outside.

 

[cm8]

OK, I really can't complain much. My Dh will load and unload the dishwasher, go grocery shopping, cook, etc. The man really is almost an angel.

BUT, it drives me crazy that EVERY TIME I get up to use the powder room at night he wakes up out of a dead sleep to ask "WHERE ARE YOU GOING?". Where the heck do you think I am going at 2 or 3AM? This happens all the time, not just once in a while.

It's so bad that sometimes he actually follows me in his sleep. I almost gave him a heart attack one night - I was in the bathroom and he was leaning on the wall outside. I think he was still asleep, but didn't know. I said "I'll be right out!". Well he screamed like a girl, he didn't seem to realize what was going on, I'm glad I didn't kill him that night

, this had me cracking up till I almost fainted!

 

[mrodgers]

Most of the "complaints" in here by the girls about the husbands are really flipped around at my house. My wife does nearly all of these.

My husband does not flush the toilet when he pees....

You never heard of the saying, "When it's yellow, let it mellow. When it's brown, flush it down?" If you had a septic, you would might appreciate the not flushing. We don't flush every time either. Saves from filling the septic up with water. Not saying that we leave it for days though obviously. Usually someone will go in after another and will flush on the 2nd round.

He also takes off his shoes and leaves them in front of the door so that the next person that comes in the door actually has to move his shoes to be able to open the door. I've started just throwing them outside.

I have 2 girls. Between them and my wife, there are 3 pairs of flipflops, 3 pairs of tennis shoes, and 3 pairs of another kind of shoe. All of them sitting directly in front of the door, not just on one side, but some outside the door in the breezeway and some inside the door in the kitchen.

My wife started back to work a bit more than a year ago. When she cooks, she is a complete slob. The kitchen is a mess as she just uses pans, pots, utensils, whatever and sets them aside. Then, she leaves the dishes from meals everywhere. When I get home from work, I finish cooking dinner as she heads out the door for work. I have to clean up breakfast and lunch before I'm able to do anything about the dinner.

Again, 3 females. 2 girls and the wife. Someone explain to me how 3 people through the course of about 6 hours I am gone (when they wake up to when I get home) how they can use 15 glasses and 10 bowls? All anyone drinks at home is water. Why does one need to get a clean glass every time they want a drink of water? Also, why does one need a clean bowl every half hour when all that was in the previous bowl half an hour ago was goldfish crackers.

Radio and television. We are currently sharing a car because hers is in the body shop. 5 am in the morning, I get in the car half asleep until I turn the key. I am promptly woken up by music blaring at 3/4 volume. It's OK in my car as it's old and has an analog knob for the volume, but in her car it is digital and can't be adjusted until the radio starts up. I listen to the radio quite loud normally as well when I'm driving alone, but I turn the volume down as I pull into the neighborhood. As for the TV, I flip it on in the morning to catch the weather and a bit of news. Sure enough, it's blasting from the night before.

My wife is the one with clothes everywhere. I now do the laundry because she works now. I do laundry, she does the cleaning. For the longest time I could never understand how she did so much laundry, yet I never had any of my clothes clean. Finally figured out that she would pick up all the clothes on the floor, which would be at least 2 loads worth and happened to be all her clothes because mine were in the hamper. By the time she got around to finishing those 2 loads, she had another 2 loads on the floor.

I am slightly OCD about stuff. I fear I get it from my mother who is horrible, but I'm not that bad. But, when I open the cabinet where the pots and pans are because I either have to cook something for dinner or have to unload the dishwasher, it drives me crazy to see the large pots and pans shoved in on top of the smaller ones instead of smaller stacked inside the bigger. She does this with everything, stacks stuff backwards. I will look in the food cupboard and find flat square box stuff stacked on top of round stuff so that it all falls out on top of you when you open the door.

 

[PUZZLDY5]

My husband does not flush the toilet when he pees. He flushes when he poops but he doesn't when he just pees. He says he's conserving water. He also blames it on his mother. He says she made him conserve water when he was growing up. I asked her if she did that and of course her answer was NO! In the middle of the night when he gets up and I hear him pee and then start to walk away, I have to hollar...Flush the toilet!!

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I just thought of something else.

I live in a house with 3 teenage boys and my husband. (See my sig.) NOTHING on Earth ticks me off more than getting up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and sitting in a puddle of pee.

 

[MushyMushy]

My DH does a lot of crazy-making things, but I can tolerate them without going too nuts. The worst is that I cannot -- am not allowed -- to be angry with him for any reason, no matter how justified. No matter what. As soon as I express displeasure, he will turn it around, make himself the victim and me the bad guy, turning what could have been a 5 minute argument into Armageddon.

 

[Tigge50447]

I don't have a DH but do have a DS and it drives me crazy that he has horrible aim in the bathroom. Why am I cleaning up pee off my bathroom moldings in my new house. My DBF for some reason feels the need to pee outside of my house when I have 2 1/2 bathrooms... wish my son would go outside instead, lol.....

 

[Dax]

My DH does a lot of crazy-making things, but I can tolerate them without going too nuts. The worst is that I cannot -- am not allowed -- to be angry with him for any reason, no matter how justified. No matter what. As soon as I express displeasure, he will turn it around, make himself the victim and me the bad guy, turning what could have been a 5 minute argument into Armageddon.

Ya know, mine does this too come to think of it

 

[MichelleVW]

-this one I just cannot understand. He takes a shower at night, right before going to bed, then gets fully dressed again. A few minutes later he gets undressed to go to bed. Why bother getting dressed if you're taking it all off again? Which leads me to my next complaint:



-he sleeps in just his underwear, which is not a big deal in the winter, when he's covered up. But, we have 3 daughters. They really don't need to see dad spread out across the bed in his tighty whities every time they walk in the bedroom. . Some things I really don't need to explain to preschoolers at 5 a.m. Our oldest dd's are 11, you'd think after hearing my mouth for 11 years he'd put a pair of shorts or scrubs on to sleep in.

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I don't understand why the first one bothers you? How does it affect you if he wants to get dressed and undressed? And if he wants to sleep in his undies just shut the door, I don't see that as a big deal. Just teach your kids to knock, we never just walked into our parents bedroom at night. I have to tell my DH to put on shorts when the kids have friends over (or he will walk around in his boxers) but I'm not going to tell him what he can sleep in.


My only valid complaint about DH is that is isn't as careful about watching the dogs when he lets them run the property as I am. But he hasn't lost one yet so he just continues to do it and I continue to be mildly annoyed by it. He knows that if he ever lost one there would be hell to pay!

 

[snapppyd]

I'm going to pull a reverse! I must admit I never let DH finish a sentence.

 

[Irin997]

No DH but I have my DBF. We don't live together but see each other a lot so I'm sure there will be many more to come.

My biggest peeve is when I ask him how work was today (he's works on an equity trading desk - think stocks) he will usually say it was good and then remember something that happened. He'll then go into the absolute longest description of what happened or define some trading/finance term that I'm unsure about so that about 1/2 way through I've zoned out and am thinking about something else and wishing he'd hurry the heck up and finish his story already. He tends to do this with a lot of stories.

Makes himself gag when he brushes his teeth/tongue. Never happens to me!

Incessantly wants to watch golf on TV. I mean, I like to golf, I like to watch the big tourneys, but seriously there is something else on TV more interesting than golf.

Rarely commits to plans in advance. I'm a single mom to DD9 and sometimes I need to know ahead of time what's going. I ask him to do something this upcoming weekend on a Tuesday and he says he needs to wait and see what's up.

When he's in a lecturing mood he'll tell me the same thing over and over again until I finally get irritated enough and tell that I've got the point. Then he gets all huffy at me. haha

Minor things....don't love him any less for these reasons.

 

[Irin997]

I'm going to pull a reverse! I must admit I never let DH finish a sentence.

I can never make a decision about where to go and/or what to do. I'm a single mom and sometimes I don't want to make decisions! I make them all the time with her.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

OK, I really can't complain much. My Dh will load and unload the dishwasher, go grocery shopping, cook, etc. The man really is almost an angel.

BUT, it drives me crazy that EVERY TIME I get up to use the powder room at night he wakes up out of a dead sleep to ask "WHERE ARE YOU GOING?". Where the heck do you think I am going at 2 or 3AM? This happens all the time, not just once in a while.

It's so bad that sometimes he actually follows me in his sleep. I almost gave him a heart attack one night - I was in the bathroom and he was leaning on the wall outside. I think he was still asleep, but didn't know. I said "I'll be right out!". Well he screamed like a girl, he didn't seem to realize what was going on, I'm glad I didn't kill him that night

My husband too. I am super quiet if I have to get up at night and yet before my foot even touches the ground he goes "where are you going?" where do you think I'm going?!

But if he is wide awake and sitting right next to me he didn't hear what I just said.

 

[Brit17]

3. He thinks that everything that comes into our home must first reside on the kitchen island for months.

Yes, my DH does this too and it drives me crazy ...

Here are some other things:

He leaves the newspaper on the kitchen countertop after he's done reading it instead of putting it in the recycling bin two steps away ...

He snores all night long & then says the next morning that he "didn't sleep at all last night" ...

Instead of wiping his shoes on the doormat OUTSIDE the door before coming into the house, he wipes his shoes on the mat INSIDE the house ...

When I tell him his back is starting to look red and he should put on more sunscreen or a shirt, but am ignored, and then guess who's awake all night putting aloe on his sunburned back & listening to him whine ...

When I also tell him to put on a long sleeve shirt while he is clearing weeds in the yard, and yet again, am ignored, and then a few hours later hear the infamous question - "ummm, honey, does this look like poison ivy to you?" ...

oh well, if not for anything else, he is consistent ... and still gotta love him ...

 

[JoiseyMom]

He snores all night long & then says the next morning that he "didn't sleep at all last night" ...

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FYI, he probably isn't sleeping. My DH had the same problem and had a sleep study done. He has sleep apnea, and wasnt getting a full nite sleep. Heck he wasnt getting a full hours sleep that wasn't interuptted! You should convince your DH to get check out!

 

[emer95]

DH and I make each other crazy. It's a good thing he makes me laugh so hard to offset his little quirks!

When he takes off his socks to throw them into the pile of laundry, he connects the pair together by pulling the top of one over the other. I then have to take them apart as I throw them into the washing machine. Does he really think they can be washed like that??

He and my DD both come into the middle of a mundane conversation and say "what? what were you talking about?" If the three of us are in the car it goes something like:

DD: Oh mom, I saw a nail polish I like.

me: That's nice.

DH: What? What did she say?

me: Nothing. She saw a nail polish she likes.

DH: Oh. Whatever. I need to turn at the lights.

DD: What did Dad say?

me: (sigh) He said he needs to turn up at the lights.

The conversation goes on this way until I get fed up and start making up answers. The thing is, why doesn't he ask her what she said. And why doesn't she ask him what he said? Why are they asking me to repeat everything?

Those are things I make fun of to his face. There is one habit that is recent that I can't give him a hard time about but it is totally getting under my skin. He has recently had a medical diagnosis that required him to take medication on a regular basis. Rather than just taking it, it is like a major production complete with an announcement. I sympathize that he isn't feeling well, but just take the medicine already! I really don't need a step by step everytime it is time to medicate!

Oh, and he also has an aversion to throwing away wrappers. So, for instance, I bought a box individually wrapped Twinkies when I was grocery shopping. Today I got up to find a wrapper on the counter next to the fridge and one on the counter right next to the trash can. How hard is it to throw them into the trash?

OK. I feel better now that I have gotten those off of my chest.

Oh! Oh! Oh! I thought that only happened to ME! We just went away for a week, and I swear, my husband and daughters did not speak to each other the entire time, but used me as a go-between for every. single. conversation. WHY, I ask? I must have said a million times, "Talk to each other!!" It's not like they're uncomfortable with each other or anything. It's as if nothing can happen in this family unless I am in the middle of it. I need some peace, man!!

Like many others have said, my husband is a wonderful man and I am blessed to be married to him. However...

He chews his nails and the skin around his nails and it drives me up the wall!

He whistles, and it is a horrible, no-tune kind of tune, and never goes along with whatever song or rhythm that is playing on the radio at the time.

He makes comments about the most obvious things in the world, and if I don't reply to his comments his feelings get hurt. Example: we just took a very long car trip, and he would say things like, "152 miles until Buffalo." Yes, I can read the sign that just said that, dear. Or he'll say, "There's an airport." Mmm Hmm...

 

[stm61]

I don't understand why the first one bothers you? How does it affect you if he wants to get dressed and undressed? And if he wants to sleep in his undies just shut the door, I don't see that as a big deal. Just teach your kids to knock, we never just walked into our parents bedroom at night. I have to tell my DH to put on shorts when the kids have friends over (or he will walk around in his boxers) but I'm not going to tell him what he can sleep in.

he works some strange shifts so he doesn't allows sleep in the bedroom. The kids will find him in the family room or living room. Several times they found him on top of the pool table lol. He said his back was out and it was a nice, flat, hard place that was perfect for his back. As for the putting clothes on, it just bugs me that he'll put on clean clothes for 5 minutes, just to drop them on the floor for me to trip over. I have to laugh at your Dh in his boxers though. When we were kids my father did the same thing. We had one neighbor that would stick her head in the door and yell "put your pants on, I'm comin' in" lol.

 

[MichelleVW]

he works some strange shifts so he doesn't allows sleep in the bedroom. The kids will find him in the family room or living room. Several times they found him on top of the pool table lol. He said his back was out and it was a nice, flat, hard place that was perfect for his back. As for the putting clothes on, it just bugs me that he'll put on clean clothes for 5 minutes, just to drop them on the floor for me to trip over. I have to laugh at your Dh in his boxers though. When we were kids my father did the same thing. We had one neighbor that would stick her head in the door and yell "put your pants on, I'm comin' in" lol.

Lol, that is so funny!!! I can see being annoyed now!! Ok, if he just put on clean clothes for 5 minutes and then threw them on the floor I would be annoyed too!!

 

[Luvchefmic]

I hope there's not a limit on the post length. This may take awhile!

DH complains about everything. Mostly that he is tired. He works a schedule where he works 2 days then off 2, so he doesn't work 5 days a week. So on his days off he lays around and does nothing. On my days off (only 2 every week) I am cleaning and doing laundry, cooking and playing with the kids. He actually complains that he's tired (from his chair).

He picks his feet and/or plays with his toes. This makes me wanna vomit.

Which leads into he has to be told to wash his hands. This man is 40, don't you know when you play with your feet or the dog, before you go into my kitchen you wash your nasty paws?
He kicks his legs all night long and vibrates the bed. If that wasn't bad enough when he turns from one side to another he flips so hard, I go about 3 feet in the air.

When he leaves for work and I am still in bed, he will come to my side of the bed and say, "I'm leaving for work". DO you REALLY have to wake me up to tell me that?????

When he drinks anything he makes that glup glup sound like in cartoons. You'd think he's just ran the Boston Marathon and is dying of thirst. EVERY TIME.

When I am in a conversation with DD13 about school, movies, something funny, he will say "What happened? What are you talking about?" I can't repeat everything I just said!

I have a rocker in my bedroom that has a very expensive doll that my mother gave me. I have told him over and over, do not put your clothes on this chair, because it makes the room messy. Just throw it in the hamper. Guess where he puts his dirty clothes?

When he brushes his teeth, he always ends up gagging himself. So then we have to hear dry heaves for 10 minutes.

Ok I better stop for now! LOL

This whole post had me laughing so hard & loud until my sides hurt and the tears are streaming esp the hand washing/paws

and another pp with the door open peeing DH ! ( do they all do that !)

and the annniversary gift of a pp of a box of Sham Wows !

oh man it could take all night to get through this thread before I even think of telling you about my DH
can't remember when I laughed this hard and I'm only on page 2

 

[dizluvah]

I adore my husband and I am very blessed to have such a wonderful man..... but.....

*apparently he has a drawer closing disability - in spite of informational demonstrations on how drawers work (open...closed!), he just doesn't get it.

*he puts empty things back in fridge.

*rather than empty the trash, he has created an art form for balancing stuff on top! (this seems common) LOL

*the house can be a wreck and he asks it I need help....really? Then, unless I give him a specific job, he goes to the shop/garage to organize his tools. That or he chooses to do something like clean the stove. WTH? Clean something no one can see? Really?

*He leaves the refrigerator door open while he makes a sandwich. I cannont stand for the door to be left open!

The bolding above is added by me - my DH does this too - drives me hoopie crazy...cupboard doors wide open after getting a glass, kitchen drawers open, bedroom dresser drawers open...

I must admit though.....much to DH's dismay I never close the bathroom door when I pee and I will enter the bathroom while he is showering - which sends him over the edge - he doesn't share well