Melora
Disney Dreaming
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I also have a problem with abusing the system as they give people who really need it a bad name.
I have had to watch my husband's ex abuse the system with her son since I met him 7 years ago. His ex wife has always insisted that thier son is autistic. Even though I have sat in the psychologists office and heard him tell her this was not the case. She had been told repeatedly that he had a few language issues that could be worked out, suggested some early speech therapy and that he would be fine.
She did not want to hear that and searched until she found a therapist who would classify him as autistic. (There is a long story behind why she was doing this but I wont go into the details.)
As soon as she had "the note" she started taking him to amusement parks and getting "special passes" so none of the family had to wait in line. She would tell me how hard it was for him, being autistic to wait in line. He was 3. Now I am the mother of 6 kids and have never seen a 3 year old all that happy about having to wait in line. I tried to explain that my own 3 year old didnt like to wait, but he would never learn if we didnt try to teach him. She told me that her son couldnt even stand for 5 minutes without throwing an autism induced tantrum.
Well needless to say when we took him to an amusement park without his mother he waited in every line, sometimes for as long as half an hour without complaint.
So fast forward 7 years to present day and I am planning another trip to WDW that includes our 4 and 5 year olds. I was telling my step daughter (who is 13) about a game I liked to play with the kids and how it would keep them busy if we had to wait in lines and she said to me "Why dont you just tell them there is something wrong with Jeffy and you can get a pass so you dont have to wait in line. Thats what we do for Kevin, we dont even have to show people the note anymore"
Well we can just go thank her mother for teaching her such lovely problem solving skills. It just makes my blood boil that she is still using her sons "diability" (hes 10 now and nothing at all wrong with him) to take advantage of a system that is put iin place for people with real issues.
I have had to watch my husband's ex abuse the system with her son since I met him 7 years ago. His ex wife has always insisted that thier son is autistic. Even though I have sat in the psychologists office and heard him tell her this was not the case. She had been told repeatedly that he had a few language issues that could be worked out, suggested some early speech therapy and that he would be fine.
She did not want to hear that and searched until she found a therapist who would classify him as autistic. (There is a long story behind why she was doing this but I wont go into the details.)
As soon as she had "the note" she started taking him to amusement parks and getting "special passes" so none of the family had to wait in line. She would tell me how hard it was for him, being autistic to wait in line. He was 3. Now I am the mother of 6 kids and have never seen a 3 year old all that happy about having to wait in line. I tried to explain that my own 3 year old didnt like to wait, but he would never learn if we didnt try to teach him. She told me that her son couldnt even stand for 5 minutes without throwing an autism induced tantrum.
Well needless to say when we took him to an amusement park without his mother he waited in every line, sometimes for as long as half an hour without complaint.
So fast forward 7 years to present day and I am planning another trip to WDW that includes our 4 and 5 year olds. I was telling my step daughter (who is 13) about a game I liked to play with the kids and how it would keep them busy if we had to wait in lines and she said to me "Why dont you just tell them there is something wrong with Jeffy and you can get a pass so you dont have to wait in line. Thats what we do for Kevin, we dont even have to show people the note anymore"
Well we can just go thank her mother for teaching her such lovely problem solving skills. It just makes my blood boil that she is still using her sons "diability" (hes 10 now and nothing at all wrong with him) to take advantage of a system that is put iin place for people with real issues.