Someone just asked me if I was pregnant!

[Jenvenza]

My co-worker just asked me this question. I am not a twig by any means, but I am not overweight either. I am around 130-135 pounds. I didnt eat lunch today, so I just grabbed a bag of chips from the vending machine - very healthy I know - and as soon as I sat down, she said - You arent pregnant are you? I stopped with a chip halfway to my mouth and said - WHAT? She repeated it and I asked why she would ask something like that? And she then told me because she thought I was eating a lot! That did it for me. I told her that wasnt very nice and you dont go around asking people if they are pregnant. Some might find that rude. She then got defensive and said - Well, lots of people would consider that a blessing and want to have kids and they cant! What the heck?????? Some people really should think before they speak. Unbelievable.

 

[RunningGirl]

Crazy lady. I am not good at snappy responses, but I'm sure other Disers will share some zingers!

 

[Laura]

You never ever ever ask a woman if she's pregnant. Even if she looks like she's about to pop.

When I was 38 weeks pregnant I had a woman ask me if I was having twins. Not only did I not look that large, I had just told her my due date--women having twins aren't walking around at 38 weeks. They're either on bed rest or had the babies already.

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

My co-worker just asked me this question. I am not a twig by any means, but I am not overweight either. I am around 130-135 pounds. I didnt eat lunch today, so I just grabbed a bag of chips from the vending machine - very healthy I know - and as soon as I sat down, she said - You arent pregnant are you? I stopped with a chip halfway to my mouth and said - WHAT? She repeated it and I asked why she would ask something like that? And she then told me because she thought I was eating a lot! That did it for me. I told her that wasnt very nice and you dont go around asking people if they are pregnant. Some might find that rude. She then got defensive and said - Well, lots of people would consider that a blessing and want to have kids and they cant! What the heck?????? Some people really should think before they speak. Unbelievable.

Tomorrow you should ask her if she's constipated.

You can just say "well, you have that look about you..."

 

[BCV513]

Tomorrow you should ask her if she's constipated.

You can just say "well, you have that look about you..."

Seriously, that woman is just rude. One of my coworkers is like that. About once a week she'll act all concerned and say "Are you okay? You look SO tired." Like I'm about to drop on the floor. Other than that, she doesn't speak to me. I might try that constipated thing next time.

 

[Jenvenza]

Tomorrow you should ask her if she's constipated.

You can just say "well, you have that look about you..."

Oh that is a good one!

 

[java]

Or maybe you think she might be pregnant because her butt is getting huge?

 

[kpm76]

That's unreal. I agree, never ever ask a woman if she's pregnant. Similarly, I never ask when people are going to have children, including my own siblings. You never know what fertility problems people are dealing with so it is just insensitive. It's funny she justified her question by telling you she thought you were eating a lot. The dead give away to my co-workers when I was pg with DD was that I was NOT eating anything. Only ginger snaps and saltines.....

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

That woman was definitely rude!!!

I really like the constipated comment. Glad I wasn't drinking water when I read that.

I had a co-worker that wouldn't tell anyone she was pregnant until she was around 7 months. As she was short and probably carried an extra 10 pounds normally NO ONE would comment - not even her boss!! She basically waited until she had about 6 weeks before maternity leave. We always figured she gave us just enough to get excited for her and throw a baby shower.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

When I was 38 weeks pregnant I had a woman ask me if I was having twins. Not only did I not look that large, I had just told her my due date--women having twins aren't walking around at 38 weeks. They're either on bed rest or had the babies already.

That's not true. My SIL was several days late when she had her surprise twins (37 years ago). She was out and about till the end. I think there are a lot of women expecting twins these days who do just fine.

I was just about at my due date when a saleswoman in a store asked if she could help me, and when I turned around to face her, she said "Oh my God! Look at you! You're HUGE! Are you having twins?!" I was absolutely mortified, especially when everyone else looked. I left and walked the length of the mall outside, in blistering heat (August), so that I wouldn't have to face everyone inside the mall. DD weighed 10-5 when she was born. And she was my smallest of 3. And I never stepped foot in that store again.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Oh...I was in a store with my 3 kids when they were 4, 2 and about 3 months old. An old guy asked me "Are they all yours?" And I very proudly said "Yes!" (The girls were dressed in matching clothes...they all looked adorable.) And he said "And you're pregnant again??"

 

[WDWAurora]

Ugh, after my miscarriage, I gained a ton of weight. In the stomach. I got asked daily, as I was dealing with fertility issues. It was all I could do to get through the day. We still haven't managed (hopefully we are now, but we don't know) but I finally lost some weight and don't get asked anymore. TOO RUDE!

 

[Handbag Lady]

What a total cow.

I'd try and get her fired (as in, giving her enough rope, not actually doing anything wrong.)

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

I don't think people mean to be rude when they ask this. Some people just have a hard time carrying on a conversation. Take it with a grain of salt. Would being rude back really make anyone feel better?

What a total cow.

I'd try and get her fired (as in, giving her enough rope, not actually doing anything wrong.)

For real?
Wow.

 

[Hollywoodhaha]

 

[Handbag Lady]

I don't think people mean to be rude when they ask this. Some people just have a hard time carrying on a conversation. Take it with a grain of salt. Would being rude back really make anyone feel better?


For real?
Wow.

I think people DO mean to be rude when they say this. For the OP, the lady even told her she's been eating more than usual. How much more rude should the lady be for you to consider her rude? Is she writing down everything the OP eats? She's rude.

I don't need to work with people like that. I wouldn't fire them, but yes, I would give them enough rope to hang themselves with at work. Stop covering for them if I were, not correcting mistakes I see, that sort of thing. I wouldn't make anything up and I wouldn't actually do anything active.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Kids are a blessing in my world--but you do NOT ask a woman if she is pregnant....EVER!!! Unless you know her very well and you are 100% sure the answer will be yes.

In fact someone whom I hadn't seen in a while I saw for the first time last Monday. She's a thin little pixie typically and the only additional weight on her when I saw her was her very round belly. So I hesitated--but I did ask...I was 99.999999% sure the answer would be yes.

I don't ask simply b/c people eat more.

I won't even ask WTH she was thinking--clearly--her brain left the building.

Heaven forbid she assumed and then said her last comment and you might have been going through serious infertility issues at the moment.

I was only asked once if I was pregnant and it was while I was walking my new baby in the neighborhood. The neighborhood--questionable person of questionable character and blood alcohol level--made some crass comment about me having babies so close together. I told the butthead that I wasn't pregnant and he kind of shut up at that point.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

I think people DO mean to be rude when they say this. For the OP, the lady even told her she's been eating more than usual. How much more rude should the lady be for you to consider her rude? Is she writing down everything the OP eats? She's rude.

I don't need to work with people like that. I wouldn't fire them, but yes, I would give them enough rope to hang themselves with at work. Stop covering for them if I were, not correcting mistakes I see, that sort of thing. I wouldn't make anything up and I wouldn't actually do anything active.

I think frequently people (especially coworkers) think they're closer to each other than they really are. And I didn't say she wasn't being rude. I said she might not be TRYING to be rude.

Trying to get someone fired over something so relatively innocuous boggles my mind. You must work with some gems if you're spending so much time covering for them and correcting their mistakes. That would bother me a lot more than a comment that could be blown off.

If the OP was offended, that's her right. But I think the best advice is to let it go.

 

[lovetoscrap]

I had a situation today where I didn't ask! We were up at the school and ran into DD's counselor. She had a bit of a bump and was doing the typical pregnant woman rest your hands on your belly and rub the top of it thing, but no way on God's green earth was I asking!

I waited until she went back into her office and then asked the other counselor if she was pregnant. She is!

 

[Angelhalo]

I think people DO mean to be rude when they say this. For the OP, the lady even told her she's been eating more than usual. How much more rude should the lady be for you to consider her rude? Is she writing down everything the OP eats? She's rude.

I don't need to work with people like that. I wouldn't fire them, but yes, I would give them enough rope to hang themselves with at work. Stop covering for them if I were, not correcting mistakes I see, that sort of thing. I wouldn't make anything up and I wouldn't actually do anything active.

Agreed. I think this person's comment was purposefully malicious! I think that is why she mentioned the OP eating more food. No one but a jerk would say something like that to a coworker. I work with a girl who eats like a hog. We are friendly at work, and have even done a few things outside of work together, but I would NEVER say something to her about how much she eats unless I was TRYING to be rude.