Christine
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Hi everyone! I need some viewpoints today. Sorry if I ramble, I just have a tough time organizing my thoughts.
Okay, I have a 14 year old DD who is in 9th grade. And, well, she's getting on my nerves.
I guess I'm just really irritated at how materialistic she is and how she seems to have no concept of money or responsibility. As her mother, I know that this is totally my fault, yet, I'm not sure how we got here.
She is incredibly lazy and only "helps" around the house when she is forced to and, even then, her efforts are just pitiful. Money has never, ever been a motivating factor for her and I tried to make it such at an early age. Yet, my friends daughter (who is only 9 is an absolute "hound" for money) has several hundred dollars hoarded around the house.
I've never even been the type to spoil my kids. I'd get them a lot of toys for Christmas but very little in between and only a few things for birthdays.
My DD seems totally clueless when it comes to minimal cooking skills (her 11 year old brother is much better than her), she seems like a complete ditz at times, and she doesn't really seem to have a lot of inner drive. This is really nothing new--it probably started in 4th or 5th grade. She just doesn't seem to care much about doing her best, she doesn't realize the need to carry her weight around the house, etc. I've taken stuff away, added things for motivation, restricted her, etc. Nothing quite seems to effect her.
Anyone have a child like this?
Okay, I have a 14 year old DD who is in 9th grade. And, well, she's getting on my nerves.

She is incredibly lazy and only "helps" around the house when she is forced to and, even then, her efforts are just pitiful. Money has never, ever been a motivating factor for her and I tried to make it such at an early age. Yet, my friends daughter (who is only 9 is an absolute "hound" for money) has several hundred dollars hoarded around the house.
I've never even been the type to spoil my kids. I'd get them a lot of toys for Christmas but very little in between and only a few things for birthdays.
My DD seems totally clueless when it comes to minimal cooking skills (her 11 year old brother is much better than her), she seems like a complete ditz at times, and she doesn't really seem to have a lot of inner drive. This is really nothing new--it probably started in 4th or 5th grade. She just doesn't seem to care much about doing her best, she doesn't realize the need to carry her weight around the house, etc. I've taken stuff away, added things for motivation, restricted her, etc. Nothing quite seems to effect her.
Anyone have a child like this?