So is this tacky or am I old fashioned ?

[Sorsha]

You need to work on your sarcasm, because your humor's coming across more as being whiny and defensive.

I hate it when that happens.

I hereby promise to work on my use of smileys. When properly sprinkled into a post, smileys can help define one's mood. Since my post was meant to be humorous and sarcastic, I should have used or or . I am often accused of but i really didn't mean to, so perhaps some or are in order.

I am never whiny. If I want to complain about something I will come right out and do so. I am also never defensive, because truth be told, I don't give a furry rodent's hind end how anyone else feels about my opinions. However, in the future, should whining become necessary, I also promise to use the appropriate smileys, which might include or or even .

Hopefully all is well now, and with appropriate smiley usage we cn all understand eachother better!
Peace!

 

[Bluestars]

I don't see a problem with a shower for a 2nd, 3rd, or whatever baby. I look it is a a time to celebrate a new birth and find something nice for the baby. It's done quite often where I live.

The good thing about an invitation is that if you don't want to go, or you think the party is tacky, you can just decline the invitation. That way the people who enjoy celebrating will be there and the people who don't want to participate will not have to endure it.

 

[Evil Genius]

I don't get what is so tacky about having a shower for someone who is expecting another child. If that is what family and friends want to do to celebrate and help the mom get some new things for the new baby so what. I have never heard of giving gifts after the child was born. And because others do it I wouldn't deem the practice tacky.

 

[C.Ann]

It's become so common in recent years, I really don't spend much time thinking about it.. I know there was a time when a second shower was only considered appropriate when the youngest child was at least 5 years old - since all of the baby equipment and clothes were either long gone, outdated, or no longer safe (such as car seats)..

However - someone here called it "gift grabbing".. I fail to see how it could be thought of in such a manner unless the mother-to-be is throwing the baby shower herself.. It could be a suprise - or it could be as simple as having excited, loving, friends and familly that just want to do something very special for this very special occasion.. Wouldn't it also be considered "tacky" for the mom-to-be (assuming the shower is not a surprise) to tell someone else what they can or can't do?

I look at it this way.. For those who feel that these types of showers are tacky, simply don't go.. If you don't think they're tacky - and you want to celebrate with the mom-to-be - then go and have a great time..
At the end of the day, it really doesn't matter what anyone thinks who isn't attending..

 

[aaarcher86]

I think having a second shower depends on the person. My kids were 18 month apart, both girls and I didn't get a second shower. It was totally unneccessary. I received a double stroller as a Christmas present and acquired my cousin's infant furniture (since I needed 2 sets at one time).

My youngest will be 3 in August. If I found out tomorrow that I had a bun in the oven I'd need a shower regardless of sex. Need... maybe that's too strong of a word - but I definitely wouldn't have any clothes in the appropriate sizes or other infant gizmos that are necessary - including a car seat. I'd need an entirely new set of bed room furniture as my kids both broke the 2 cribs they had.

I have 2 girls - I have ONE small tub in the attic of baby clothes that I wanted to keep in case I ever had another girl. I don't know about any one else... but my kids maybe get to wear their clothes 3 times before it has some ungodly chocolate stain on it that doesn't want to come out. I also purge the toys and clothes in our family twice a year and give them to charity or my grandmother to sell in her store if it is still usable and in decent shape.

It would be nice to have a shower to help with some of the clothes, diaper genie and things I would need.

Not that I think anyone should be judging someone else, but I think second showers close together should be 'judged' on a case by case basis.

 

[Feralpeg]

I've said it before and I'll continue to say it. Gifts should never be given unless they are given from the heart. If you don't want to give a gift for a second baby, don't. It amazes me how bent out of shape people get over this type of thing. I've been to many showers for second and third children. I go and take a gift when I want to do so...not out of obligation.

OP, it is only tacky if you feel pressured to send a gift. If you don't, then it shouldn't matter.

 

[LunaLovegood]

Personally, I don't think it's a big deal unless they are registered to receive extravagant gifts. I don't see any reason to be asking for a second car seat if baby number one can't fit into the carrier anymore. There's probably no reason for things like high chairs, bouncy seats, swings, that sort of thing. Of course, I am sure there are extenuating circumstances for some people. But I don't see a problem with buying new clothes and the like. It's almost inevitable that some of baby number one's hand me down clothes have been stained or worn out. I don't have a problem buying gifts like these for anyone and I understand why they might be needed.

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

Well I love babies and I love shopping for baby things so I say a 2nd shower is perfectly ok.