So I Think I'm Weird (Shocker, huh?)

[Maleficent13]

But seriously, I think I was born without the "wedding" gene.

My first wedding: I got engaged. I went home, told Mom, and said: "Here's the date. Knock yourself out."

She did. The only involvement I had in the entire process was addressing the invitations. She picked the caterer, the hall, the florist, the specific arrangements (including my bouquet), the music, the officiant. My bridesmaids picked their own dresses. I did somewhat pick my own dress, but even there I went with what mom liked. And even though I did nothing, I still thought it was all too much fuss.

My second wedding: I called the JOP, set up a time, showed up with $40 and said the vows. My DH was very concerned I would regret the lack of hulabaloo later. No worries; I thought it was perfect.

I don't get weddings. I don't get the minutia. I just passed two girls in my office who are getting married this summer. One was explaining to the other, in GREAT detail, exactly how to string beads on a wire, shape the wire into a heart, make sure all the hearts were exactly the same size, attach the heart to a stick, and somehow make centerpieces. The one who was listening was RAPT. Just passing through made me

I think I have to turn in my girl card or something.

 

[jennyl772003]

I need to turn mine in then too.

While we were still in the Pre-planning stages, I realized it wasn't for me. We went to our travel agent and booked a cruise. The cruise line sent us a check list of our options. My husband did most of the choosing.

For my dress, I took all the girls in the family. I stood in the dressing room while they brought me dresses. Then they kindly informed me that I had on "THE ONE" and that was that.

I showed up late to the wedding site, and got hitched. It was perfect!

 

[In a hurry]

Does this mean you are a newlywed?

If so, congratulations, and many happy returns!

No wedding gene here, either. I'd rather celebrate each day than live for a couple of big'uns!

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Collect my card, too. I had a small civil ceremony at a wedding chapel in town. No planning involved. Didn't miss the hoopla. Happily made a downpayment on my house.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Marry me!!!

Wait, too late, we're both married already Congrats, BTW.

 

[Beth76]

I'll join your club! I don't get weddings either. Unfortunately, I did have the bid "to-do". Well it wasn't really big, but it was definitely more than I wanted. I absolutely hated it and would never do it again. DH and I wanted to get married on the beach, but we weren't "allowed". This was before I knew I didn't have to do everything my parents told me.

 

[Maleficent13]

Thanks.

But you know, Bob, my DD and your DS2 are just a couple weeks apart...maybe in a few years we can get them together!

Of course, she'll probably inherit her grandmother's wedding gene...

 

[MickeysMommy]

Oh, Mal, you crack me up!

 

[happybratpack]

I don't get weddings. I don't get the minutia. I just passed two girls in my office who are getting married this summer. One was explaining to the other, in GREAT detail, exactly how to string beads on a wire, shape the wire into a heart, make sure all the hearts were exactly the same size, attach the heart to a stick, and somehow make centerpieces. The one who was listening was RAPT. Just passing through made me

I think I have to turn in my girl card or something.

Take mine too! Not only do I not *get* all the details, but the amount of $$$$ spent on some weddings is insane. In my humble opinion of course.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Thanks.

But you know, Bob, my DD and your DS2 are just a couple weeks apart...maybe in a few years we can get them together!

Of course, she'll probably inherit her grandmother's wedding gene...

Hey -- no problem, it's the brides side that traditionally pays for that stuff, right?

 

[Crankyshank]

I turned my wedding plans over to my Mother. I figured I'd have to fight tooth and nail for what I want anyhow so why not just let her have at it since I didn't much care anyhow. I just had a couple of things she needed to work around (the month, the wedding party, the songs for the deejay) and that was really it.
I let the bridesmaids have a huge say in the dress.
and mind you - our "wedding" was actually a vow renewal - we eloped months before that.

 

[mickeyboat]

I married when I was 21 and I wanted all the hoopla, but I didn't have the funds for a huge bash. So we had a small but nice wedding. I did stress over the details, and planned most of it myself.

Now, at 35 with two kids, I would choose the elope-and-go-on-vacation-and-save-the-money-for-a-house route. I think it is because I am in a different place in life with different priorities.

Denae

 

[kpm76]

Well, I must have gotten all of your "wedding" genes because I love weddings and LOVE planning them...LOL....I had the best time working out all the little details for our wedding....DH was a huge help too so that was a plus. My parents were great and didn't intrude or make unreasonable suggestions...they respected that it was our wedding. We are also practicing Catholics and so the church and sacramental part of the wedding was most important for us....planning the ceremony was as much work for us as the reception. My sister is getting married this summer and I am trying really hard no to overstep my bounds with suggestions but she knows how I am and has been a good sport about it.....funny how we are all different but the only thing that matters is that everyone is happy and has the wedding of their dreams, big or small

 

[laura001]

When it came time for my DH and I to marry, I wanted to elope, he went along with it but wanted us to let my Dad(my mom had passed away, parents divorced, and I was not close to my Dad) know ahead of time (my Dad was going to florida for 4 months and DH didn't want him to find out I went and got married while he was away). So anyway we did tell him, he flipped and wanted a wedding. Against my better judgement we had the wedding, I was miserable (stepmom a real pain), it was awful and even my DH says it was a mistake. I don't get it either....what a waste of money. I could think of a lot of other things to do with the money and time!

The perfect way of doing it would be to get married perhaps with immediate family there, quietly. Leave right away and then come back and have a party. For our 10th anniversary we had the party that we had wanted if we had eloped and it was fantastic!

I wouldn't want my children to get married without me being there, I guess however and whatever they choose we will go along with.

 

[ReneeA]

They aren't my thing, either. My DH wanted the big "to-do" and I just wanted to run away and get married. He did 90% of the work because it made me want to run screaming from the room whenever it was brought up .

I also don't wantbe involved in anyone else's wedding. I stood up in my sister's wedding, and that is it. Oh, except my DH's brother called me last year and asked what I was doing the next day...I said, "Nothing that I know of." He then asked me to come be a witness at his wedding. Noboady even knew he was seriously dating anyone. He met a girl, they got married a couple weeks later. I said, "Ummmm....sure, I guess." They seem very happy, so I guess all is well.

THAT is the way I would have liked to do it.

ReneeA

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Me either...

Got married at the JOP Dec 21st, it was snowing. We went to Olive Garden after with a few family members.

 

[binny]

I dont think youre weird at all.


our first wedding ( which I barely remember because it was right after my dad had passed) was a medium sized wedding in a church with all the trappings. I didnt care about any of it really. Granted it could have been the circumstances but after I found my dress ( which was done in one morning at one store lol) I just lost interest.



For our 10th dh and I renewed our vows on a beach in Hawaii with just us, the minister, and the photographer.
Wish we would have done it that way from the get go

 

[Missy1961]

I'll admit to being somewhere in the middle of the "big" & "no" hoopla. I like the idea of getting dressed up, having a nice ceremony & a nice evening of dinner & dancing. Exactly what my sisters & brothers did. They did no go overboard, did not go into debt, but they did have beautiful weddings. But I've been to those overdone weddings & I don't get that. I'm still single, but if I ever get married I hope I have weddings like my sisters--beautiful, meaningful & without a stressed out bride. And still have money to put a down payment on a house, like they did.

 

[disykat]

I'm in between with minimal hoopla. I cared about the church ceremony, but couldn't have given a hoot about the reception. We had cake and punch at the church. I wanted a short white dress, but wore a long one for dh. I had my sister stand up with me. We got married at Christmas, so we didn't need any extra flowers or decor. I'd do it exactly the same way again.

I swear I break out in hives if someone says the word centerpiece.

 

[Ava83]

I wanted to elope also. DH and I were in Las Vegas and I said lets just do it and be done with it...he said it wouldn't be fair to the families.

All that money for how many hours just makes me crazy..we did do the whole wedding thing, but to be honest the only thing that changed was that were were now legally required to together. Felt the same the next day.