slo’s FRIDAY 1/24 poll - Hugging

[hertamaniac]

No huggie for me. Now if the question was phrased about hugging my dog, then it changes to over hug.

 

[MIGrandma]

I grew up in a hugging family and am definitely a hugger, family, friends, meeting someone for the first time (if they are huggers too), etc.

 

[disneychrista]

I am not a hugger. There are a couple people that I do hug when they initiate but I never initiate.

 

[lovin'fl]

Both the hubby and I grew up in non hugging households, therefore we also had a non hugging household. So, we aren't huggers but will do so when necessary. I feel uncomfortable when my personal space is invaded at all.

 

[_19disnA]

Generally not a hugger except with close family members. Even for them during covid we avoided hugging and no one got upset. In a professional/business setting, I think it is inappropriate to hug someone you are dealing with and barely know.

About the only place I can recall it being common to hug someone who isn't a close family member might be at a wedding or funeral.

 

[TiggerTrigger]

NOT A HUGGER!!!

I'm also another one that doesn't really like people even touching me unless you know me well enough to be in my personal space. It is for this reason that things like the following (but not limited to) have zero appeal, to the point of being full on cringeworthy.

- Manicures
- Pedicures
- Massages
- Physical Therapy
- Chiropractic care
- Professional Hair Care
- Pro lashes/brow work
- Facials
- Pro make up session

I'm sure there's more, but this is what's immediately coming to mind that makes my skin crawl.

 

[evilmommie]

Yes, I’m a hugger…within reason and I’m also very aware of personal space. That said, my husband, my kids and several dear friends have jobs that put them in harms way. I always take the opportunity when I see them, to hug them and tell them how much I love them.

 

[slo]

Yes, we are a hugging family, all of us., Marie, me, Vince, Natalie, the grandkids. One of the grandkids is a little more hesitant, but still is a hugger, maybe between a 2 and 3 for him. I'm between a 1 and a 2, leaning to 1. Marie the same

Looking above, I know I've given at least once, and got one back from @slo, @Kitty 34 and @luvmarypoppins. Maybe more than once? How about you Ron @Micca there at the Hyatt, a hug, a bro hug, a fist bump or a handshake? Nancy @Meriweather? @Minnesota!, if I see you on one of your Chicago trips here, I'll steer clear, a wave from across the street?

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Thank you for the Thank you!
I definitely remember that you and I exchanged hugs 3 times.
Those DIS Meets were fun

 

[Kooks and Bay Bay]

I'm a big hugger but not with just anyone.
Hugs are my love language and what makes me feel better even when something devastating has happened.
A solid long hug from my mom or my sister is the best.
Ever since we saw hugging for at least 20 seconds releases happy hormones my sister and I will just randomly hug each other lol.
It may sound odd to some people but it really does help especially if you have someone you feel comfortable hugging.

 

[leebee]

NOT A HUGGER!!!

I'm also another one that doesn't really like people even touching me unless you know me well enough to be in my personal space. It is for this reason that things like the following (but not limited to) have zero appeal, to the point of being full on cringeworthy.

- Manicures
- Pedicures
- Massages
- Physical Therapy
- Chiropractic care
- Professional Hair Care
- Pro lashes/brow work
- Facials
- Pro make up session

I'm sure there's more, but this is what's immediately coming to mind that makes my skin crawl.

Oh, @TiggerTrigger , I think we are soul mates here!

Do I hug? Sure, but it depends on who it is and where we are. Family is fine- DH, DD, the 8 year old, my sisters and nieces, in-laws, cousins, etc. I have a couple of friends that I hug, but I see these folks maybe once or twice a year, and we are close friends. NEVER co-workers, and not really even my friends. I never know how to initiate it without it being awkward, and also don't really know how to deflect hugs without it being awkward, so I will let someone hug me, but I'm not crazy about it, if they aren't family.

Here's something that DH doesn't understand: I don't let him hug me at work. We work in the same department at the same University, and unless we are in one of our offices, I don't hug him. I just don't feel that it's professional. This is work, not home. I don't hug the other faculty and staff (and one of them is one of my very best, first friends here... like we were the emergency contact for each other's kids), and I'm not comfortable when DH tries to hug me when we are in the hallway or one of the labs/classrooms. It's not a point of contention, and he respects my feelings, but I know he wishes I didn't feel that way... but I do.

 

[tvguy]

I am hesitant to hug anyone these days. Sat through Harassment Seminars at work where you were told to ask before you try to hug someone.
To me hugs are a spontaneous act. I really didn't think too much about it until my mom passed away 12 years ago. A neighbor of my mom, asked me if she could give me a hug. This is someone who I had known at that time for about 40 years, gone to high school and college with, dated briefly, she was at my wedding I was at her wedding. Just was odd. I got hugs from other women at work at that at that time without being asked, they ignored the seminars clearly. But of all the people who did hug me, the one with the most personal connection asked.

 

[fla4fun]

For me, it depends on the hug-ee. I am a hugger for immediate family and very, very close friends. I am not a hugger for extended family, casual friends, coworkers, or acquaintances. I need to feel safe and that I won’t be judged before I am comfortable hugging someone.

 

[design_mom]

I'm not a hugger. I will hug family members if they seem like they want one, but I would feel weird about hugging most people (even good friends). Like Kathryn said, no trauma, but just not my thing.

 

[Micca]

How about you Ron @Micca there at the Hyatt, a hug, a bro hug, a fist bump or a handshake?

Probably a handshake, was fist bumping a thing back then??? I will say I would happily hug many Dis friends that I've never met in IRL.

 

[Kitty 34]

Yes, we are a hugging family, all of us., Marie, me, Vince, Natalie, the grandkids. One of the grandkids is a little more hesitant, but still is a hugger, maybe between a 2 and 3 for him. I'm between a 1 and a 2, leaning to 1. Marie the same

Looking above, I know I've given at least once, and got one back from @slo, @Kitty 34 and @luvmarypoppins. Maybe more than once? How about you Ron @Micca there at the Hyatt, a hug, a bro hug, a fist bump or a handshake? Nancy @Meriweather? @Minnesota!, if I see you on one of your Chicago trips here, I'll steer clear, a wave from across the street?

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I'm sure we hugged Dan at our two Meets, being the hugger I am. You were tall but I'm so use to that with my sons being over 6 ft.

I just got back from my birthday celebration so I was in big hug mode. I do have to change my shirt as unfortunately cologne and perfume affects my lungs.

 

[The Mayor]

Wife, kids, grandkids all get hugs. Other than that not much of a hugger.

 

[CynBeth]

I am a huge hugger!

 

[jo-jo]

Family family, church family, yes. When my dr left practice, gave him a hug. Not going to hug the Walmart person bringing my groceries nor the Amazon guy delivering my new air fryer. Hugging strangers at a funeral, maybe.

Does this include Mickey, goofy, etc? Funny now that I think of it, I’d be more inclined to hug Donald Duck, than Cinderella.

 

[LoveSpringsteen]

I’m a hugger. #1 on the hug scale. I am mindful of personal space, but if you’re my friend or family member, I am coming in for the hug.

 

[tvguy]

I’m a hugger. #1 on the hug scale. I am mindful of personal space, but if you’re my friend or family member, I am coming in for the hug.

Yeah, for me the borders of personal space aren't always clear. I had a supervisor who brought her mom in to meet her co-workers. My desk was on a raised platform, and I was introduced to her and she said "I'm a hugger, not a hand shaker" as she walked up the one step to my desk and gave me a hug. Was it a violation of my personal space? Yeah. Was it a genuine display of who she was, yes. That kind of canceled out the personal space violation.