Sleeping arrangements the night before the wedding?

[minniebride]

Anyone out there sleep with their DF the night before the wedding rather than being separated?

My DF and I have lived together for the past 4 years. I know we are not supposed to see each other before the wedding, but I just don't want to sleep in a separate room the night before the wedding-seems like a big PITA to plan. I definitely do not want to stay with my parents the night before. My BM #1 has a husband and 2 kids and it would be a real hassle for her to not stay in her own room the night before the wedding. My BM #2 is single, but I think she is staying with our friend who's husband cannot come so she can help out with my friend's 2 kids. My brother is married, I don't have a sister, and I definitely do NOT want to sleep alone.

Is it a big deal to sleep with my DF the night before and then we can go our separate ways & get ready in separate rooms??

 

[Boston Disney Bride]

completely a personal preference. I chose to separate the night before and was happy with my decision, but I can understand you not wanting to.

 

[Nikisha421]

definetely a personal pereference...and since you guys live together I don't see the big deal...im going over this same decision in my head...I live with my DF and we have a DD so to me not being together would seem strange and we are having a 1 bdrm...plus are ceremony is later in the day....so it seems like too much time a part...what time is your ceremony??? maybe that too can also be a deciding factor...

 

[DisneyShamrock]

When my best friend got married, she stayed at her house and her husband stayed with a friend so they wouldn't see each other.

DF and I are going to be sleeping in the same room, but my parents will have my dress in their room. I think as long as he doesn't see you in your dress before the wedding (or if you're doing First Look) it would be ok. At least, that was my interpretation of the tradition...

But, I agree, it's really personal preference.

 

[minniebride]

definetely a personal pereference...and since you guys live together I don't see the big deal...im going over this same decision in my head...I live with my DF and we have a DD so to me not being together would seem strange and we are having a 1 bdrm...plus are ceremony is later in the day....so it seems like too much time a part...what time is your ceremony??? maybe that too can also be a deciding factor...

Our ceremony is at 11am but we are having a photo shoot early in the morning before the wedding.

 

[minniebride]

When my best friend got married, she stayed at her house and her husband stayed with a friend so they wouldn't see each other.

DF and I are going to be sleeping in the same room, but my parents will have my dress in their room. I think as long as he doesn't see you in your dress before the wedding (or if you're doing First Look) it would be ok. At least, that was my interpretation of the tradition...

But, I agree, it's really personal preference.

We are doing a First Look and we definitely want to get dressed in separate rooms. I just cannot see myself feeling calm or waking up on the right note if he is not beside me. We rarely sleep apart, and the few times we have, I end up awake the whole night!

 

[DisneyShamrock]

We are doing a First Look and we definitely want to get dressed in separate rooms. I just cannot see myself feeling calm or waking up on the right note if he is not beside me. We rarely sleep apart, and the few times we have, I end up awake the whole night!

I know how you feel.

 

[lilonstitch12008]

We spent the night apart. I stayed in the room at the Yacht Club (where our ceremony was located) and he stayed in his best man's room. I feel that I made a good decision because I was very stressed. I was in the room alone and it was good to have that time for myself. We lived together prior to getting married as well, but I appreciated my "me" time.

 

[dreamwedding]

This is definitely a personal decision but personally my DF and I have lived together for the last 9 years we are obviouly not a first time bride and groom and so we really don't believe in all the traditions because we have tried that route before and it didn't work so we both say what the heck lets just be together the night before!
He is going to the Best Mans room to get dressed but i think thats becuase he wants to get away from all the crazy girls LMAO!

 

[pezaddict231]

We stayed together the night before the wedding. We already lived together and were staying together the days before the wedding so it seemed a little silly to have to pay for another room just for that one night. We thought that money could be put to much better use and our room was really awesome, so neither of us wanted to stay somewhere else! Plus, I don't sleep very well if DH is not there, and we definitely needed a good night's rest.

The next morning I went to brunch with the girls and DH went to lunch with his guys. I got ready in our room and he got ready in a conference room with the guys. I think it worked out perfectly. We did see each other before the ceremony because we did a first look. I don't think that seeing each other that morning or for the first look took anything away from how we felt that day. It's still your wedding day and will feel special.

The way I think of it, the tradition really stems from when there were arranged marriages. Sometimes the couple did not see each other until the ceremony and the fear was that if they did they might not like what they saw and the wedding wouldn't happen. Since DH and I know what the other looks like, I wasn't too worried about it.

I definitely see how it can be fun to spend the night apart and not see each other because it builds the anticipation and can be a fun bonding time between the bride and groom and their family and friends. Ultimately, you should do what's right for you .

 

[girli565]

We spent the night apart. We had live together since January (we got married in June) but my mom insisted we separate, LOL! I figured it was easier to just appease my mom than fight about it and besides, we did have 2 complimentary nights at the Beach Club from when we signed our contract so we didnt' have to pay for a room.

I stayed in the Beach Club room (which coincidentally was upgraded to concierge, we were only booked in to a standard room), and DH stayed at POFQ which was where we had been staying.

 

[Stephie77]

We also stayed together the night before the wedding. We had lived together for 3 years at that point anyway. I am not a superstitious and to pay for another room the night before just seemed silly and a waste of money. The next morning we got up, got breakfast from the concierge and he went and got ready in our reverands room while I did my thing in our room. Additionally, we were doing a reveal so we were going to see each other anyway before the wedding. I mean when I had my hair and makeup trial during our planning session, he obviously saw what it looked like so he knew what I was going to look like anyway (except of course for the dress).

I know it is hard at a destination wedding to not stay apart as cost comes into effect and not everyone is lucky enough to be able to get an additonal room or stay in someone else's room. Also my husband wanted a good night sleep in our own hotel room instead of on a cot in someone else's room. It really just comes down to a personal preference. Do what is good for you and your future husband.

 

[*Pixiedust1438*]

There was a thread about this a while back. Me and DF are deff. staying together the night before the wedding. We have lived together for a while, and hardly ever spend the night apart. I know I am going to be nervous enough and it will be hard to sleep, and I feel like being apart will make it even worse. Plus I just like the idea of waking up in the same room on our wedding day. Our ceremony isn't till 5pm and he will be leaving very early to golf and spend the day with the guys. Were also staying at the GF and I know whichever one of us couldn't stay in that room would be mad!

 

[Pirate's Princess]

It's a personal preference for you and your fiance. Mine refuses to see me before the wedding, so we are planning on doing the rehearsal in the morning then separating for the day. I'll be spending the night in my parents room (kicking out my dad )

It sounds, however, like staying in another room isn't an option, unless you're paying for it. Personally I don't think it's worth the money, but definitely evaluate how both you and your fiance feel about seeing each other beforehand. I'm not superstitious and I don't think it will affect your marriage in anyway. It's a sweet sentiment to separate but totally unnecessary IMO.

 

[Disney-Chick]

I will be staying with my parents at the house they rented. DF will be at AKL to get ready then I will make my way over once I know the limo took him off to SBP. I don't want him seeing me until the wedding. And we have been together almost 5 years now. It is what you feel comfortable with.

 

[pigletgirl]

No, we will be apart. He won't see me until the ceremony.

 

[wintermouse]

Although we have lived together for 3 years, DF insists on spending the night before the wedding apart. He doesn't want to see me until our first look photos. He will stay in his brother's room at POP and all of my bridesmaids will be staying with me at AKL.

 

[princesswendy720]

I wanted to be traditional and spend our last night as an unmarried couple apart...but when I mentioned it to Df he got a little sad and said he wanted to spend it with me. By the time of our wedding we will have lived together 3.5 years. Our wedding will most likely be at 5 pm...so I will just kick him out early in the morning and get brunch with my bridal party and we'll spend the day apart before our first look.

 

[Jules~Marie]

My fiance and I have been living together for over 5 years, and he is insisting that we spend the night before the wedding apart. At first I was terrified about this and thought he was crazy. We don't spend any time apart, ever, and I'm pretty much afraid of everything, so the thought of spending the night before the wedding alone was freaking me out.

The more time I've had to think about it though, the more excited I am about it. I think that it will be kinda nice to have the room all to myself the night before. My sister is trying to get me to agree to letting her stay with me so we can have a girls night...but our wedding is starting at 10 am, so I'm going to have to get to bed early the night before anyway. I'm looking forward to taking a bath and relaxing by myself, while DF spends the night in my brothers room (his best man).

I also think it's going to add to the excitement of the wedding. We're going to miss each other that much more now, and when those doors in the Wedding Pavilion open and I see him standing there, I think it will make it that much sweeter. Like a mini reunion or something. I can't imagine waking up the morning of the wedding with my fiance there and saying OK, I'm going to get into my dress, see you at the altar...I don't know, just my own preference. My sister spent the night before her wedding with her now husband and she said it was the most amazing thing waking up next to him knowing she was going to marry him in a matter of hours.

It's all personal preference, just wanted to add my opinion in.

 

[torsie24]

100% personal preference. I wanted to stay with Jack the night before as

A. I know I'd sleep way better with him there as over the past 4 years we've only spent like 4 nights apart.

And B. We only have our GF suite for 3 nights and I sure wouldn't want to miss a night of it, so didn't expect him to.

But he is being quite traditional and doesn't want to see me at all from like lunchtime the day before. It's totally his choice but if it were all up to me we'd be spending the night together and then saying bye early in the morning. I do feel bad he'll be alone in his room the night before but his best man is at AKL and his mum at CSR so hopefully he'll only be alone to sleep.