Sister Wives, anyone???

[PlutosFriend]

I found this pic of the girls when they were younger

http://tvbythenumbers.zap2it.com/2010/10/29/sister-wives-renewed-by-tlc-for-a-second-season/70153/

They do look younger, but I can't tell if their weight is much less in that pic. Tonight I saw a preview for next weeks show Robyn says something to the affect of "Cody likes his women curvy". I think this is part of the reason she comes off annoying. She is the new one and seems to be Ms. Know-It-All with the wives, kids, what Cody likes etc. Hmm btw is it Kody with a K?! How could I forget!

 

[Mermaid02]

Heavier or not- I think the wives look better now than they did in that link!

Robyn is annoying. She's clingy and whiney. I like the other 3- I might not agree with their lifestyle, but I think I would like each of them if I knew them. Robyn, not so much.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Robyn is annoying. She's clingy and whiney. I like the other 3- I might not agree with their lifestyle, but I think I would like each of them if I knew them. Robyn, not so much.

Agreed!

 

[MichelleVW]

Finally caught up last night and I felt sorry for Baby Truely (or whatever it is) who only gets to see her Daddy every 4 days. You just can't be a good dad if you are only there every 4 days. When they were all in the same house it was different, but with Kody and his moving to a different bed every night there's no way he can spend quality time with all of the kids.

And if they are always complaining about a fixed budget why does he drive a Lexus??? We are on a fixed budget which is why we drive Toyotas instead of a Lexus....duh.

 

[Bren's Mom]

You just can't be a good dad if you are only there every 4 days.

Really? So for all of those dad whose wives have left them, and who share custody and only get to see them on weekends...they can't be a good dad?

And all of those dads serving in the military and gone for 3 months, 6 months, 18 months, longer? They can't be good dads?

The ones that have to work out of the area in order to support their families and only get to come home on the weekends...they can't be good dads?

 

[brockash]

Really? So for all of those dad whose wives have left them, and who share custody and only get to see them on weekends...they can't be a good dad?

And all of those dads serving in the military and gone for 3 months, 6 months, 18 months, longer? They can't be good dads?

The ones that have to work out of the area in order to support their families and only get to come home on the weekends...they can't be good dads?

I think the pp probably meant more along the lines of a good involved Dad, because it's just how it is. If you only see your kid one every 4 days, then you're only being an involved Dad 1 maybe 2 days a week. That's just not an involved Dad. Sometime ppl. don't have a choice and they just have to make the best of it. - I don't know that I consider the Browns in this group. My DH is in the Army, and honestly, no, those years he spent overseas, he was a complete absent father. He didn't really have a choice, and he didn't like it, but no my kids went basically without any kind of an involved Dad for years at a time. My parents were divorced when I was little, and we did the divorce every other weekend thing until we moved out of state and then did the summers with my Dad, and a few weeks during the year. I love my dad to death, but no he wasn't a good involved dad. He couldn't be, he wasn't there. He wasn't in our day to day life. He had no idea what it meant to truly raise a child, just like honestly, most of the time, neither does my DH. Neither of them liked it, but either way, it's just the truth.

 

[SaraJayne]

Really? So for all of those dad whose wives have left them, and who share custody and only get to see them on weekends...they can't be a good dad?

And all of those dads serving in the military and gone for 3 months, 6 months, 18 months, longer? They can't be good dads?

The ones that have to work out of the area in order to support their families and only get to come home on the weekends...they can't be good dads?

No.

To be an involved parent that actively participates in your children's lives, you have to be there.

Kody can't call himself a good dad, while missing half of his children's lives.

 

[ilovejack02]

No.

To be an involved parent that actively participates in your children's lives, you have to be there.

Kody can't call himself a good dad, while missing half of his children's lives.

A divorced parent usually isn't trying to be a doting husband too while catering to the kids too. Even a divorced parent is remarried , they see the spouse on a daily basis, so if they only have custody every other weekend or what ever, they can spend more time with kids .. at least that is how we worked it when my DSS came on weekends. DH made sure to spend plenty one on one time and I stayed out of way . Kody has fifteen kids at each house ( haha ! ) and a wife that is wanting to make more babies ; ) .

You are right , no way you can call Kody a great dad. He loves those kids I don't doubt, but he is spread way to thin, but continues to make more babies.


I still don't think their lifestyle is so crazy, but I disagree with the choices they have made to get them to the point of having to runaway to Vegas.

Should have stayed in Utah and kept their mouths shut.

 

[famousmockingbird]

No.

To be an involved parent that actively participates in your children's lives, you have to be there.

Kody can't call himself a good dad, while missing half of his children's lives.

Wait, are you saying that those serving in the military aren't good parents?
Seriously...

 

[MadamCankles]

I don't agree that its the quantity of time that you spend with your kids that make you involved but the quality. My dad worked the night shift when I was growing up, so I really only saw him on Saturday afternoons and Sundays. He made darn sure to spend that time with us - taking us places and having a good time with us, not just standing back and watching or going places he wanted to go and dragging us along.

He talked to us, asked us about school and our friends and talked to my mom about any problems we were maybe having and made sure to talk to us about it, even if it was just to let us know that he cared enough to take an interest.

I have a friend who is a sahm but the least involved parent I know. She has all the time in the world to spend with her kids but doesn't get involved in their lives, takes the easy way out when they've got problems, and makes tons of excuses for not doing stuff for them or with them. I see her kids struggling in school, but she just shrugs her shoulders and says its up to tem to make sure their getting good grades. Its sad. She may sit in the same house with them all day but she's not involved in their lives. Even when they go places they go where she wants to go even on vacation.

 

[Bren's Mom]

You just can't be a good dad if you are only there every 4 days.

This poster said 'good', not 'involved'. Another poster made an assumption that she meant 'involved'. But she said 'good'.

I do not agree they are the same thing.

And I do not agree that parents who are physically absent for any length of time cannot be good parents, because they certainly can.

 

[brockash]

Wait, are you saying that those serving in the military aren't good parents?
Seriously...

I think it's impossible for those that are only involved in their childrens lives half the time (sometimes less than that,) no matter the occupation to be considered involved parents. I mean, they're just not. They're not there, so how can they say they're involved parents? Some ppl. do it to provide financially to their children- great thing, but you still can't say they were actually involved in their children's lives. They may have made their childs life possible, but they still don't have a clue what their childs life is actually all about. Like I said before, some ppl. don't really have a choice, and no one likes it, but it's still how it is.

 

[famousmockingbird]

I guess my view of parenting must be skewed, but if a man is working hard to provide for his family (no matter when or where he works) that makes him a good parent. As for involved parent, you can be an involved parent and work long hours or work out of town (or serve in the military). Same way someone can be at home all of the time and completely neglect their children.

 

[Arm Flaps]

I don't believe that. A military father or mother and a weekend custody parent can be involved even though they are not physically present. Thank god for the computer age for these families. Military families sacrifice so much and then to question their parenting abilities is awful.

A parent might be divorced due to no fault themselves. Often the mother gets the primary custody, even if she was the one who caused the breakup of the relationship and the dad get court ordered weekends only to minimize the disruption in the children's lives. To say he is not a good parent due to no fault of his own is shallow and short-sighted. There are things called telephones and skype. It's how he is when he can be there that makes the difference and if you were to ask the kids, chances are they'd say their dad is a good dad.

 

[famousmockingbird]

I don't believe that. A military father or mother and a weekend custody parent can be involved even though they are not physically present. Thank god for the computer age for these families. Military families sacrifice so much and then to question their parenting abilities is awful.
A parent might be divorced due to no fault themselves. Often the mother gets the primary custody, even if she was the one who caused the breakup of the relationship and the dad get court ordered weekends only to minimize the disruption in the children's lives. To say he is not a good parent due to no fault of his own is shallow and short-sighted. There are things called telephones and skype. It's how he is when he can be there that makes the difference and if you were to ask the kids, chances are they'd say their dad is a good dad.

I bolded the part that I wish that I had said.

 

[momrek06]

You just can't be a good dad if you are only there every 4 days.

I wish Michelle would come back and read the responses. My Bro has just returned from his 4th tour overseas. Everytime he has been deployed it has been 2 years. I just want to add, he is one amazing Dad!



Ok back OT, I did not care at all for this past epi … Kody and the families all traveled to his hometown and it was just allot of 'he said she said'. To me it seemed like they ALL were bickering back and forth. I bet its a long time before we see them travel back there.

I am also glad to see that next week's epi has the SW's getting themselves in shape.

 

[CookieGVB]

I I wasn't too surprised by their name choice for the new baby. Many of their kids have very "different" names....

I was loving the son who suggested they name the baby "Cleveland" -

 

[nmmom95]

My DVR cut off after they announced the name. I saw that Meri liked it, but what about Christine or Janelle? Did they comment?

 

[monkeybug]

I think it's impossible for those that are only involved in their childrens lives half the time (sometimes less than that,) no matter the occupation to be considered involved parents. I mean, they're just not. They're not there, so how can they say they're involved parents? Some ppl. do it to provide financially to their children- great thing, but you still can't say they were actually involved in their children's lives. They may have made their childs life possible, but they still don't have a clue what their childs life is actually all about. Like I said before, some ppl. don't really have a choice, and no one likes it, but it's still how it is.

Military family here.
My husband may be gone for months at a time (and some others husbands for years, God bless them) and work long hours when he's home, and he may not be changing diapers, pouring cheerios, or correcting math homework during that time, but that does not mean he isn't an involved/good parent!
In fact I'd say that many military parents teach their children more about life, and what it really means to be a decent human while they're absent, than a lot of Dads do while their present.
Just sayin'

 

[bjgrazi]

Military family here.
My husband may be gone for months at a time (and some others husbands for years, God bless them) and work long hours when he's home, and he may not be changing diapers, pouring cheerios, or correcting math homework during that time, but that does not mean he isn't an involved/good parent!
In fact I'd say that many military parents teach their children more about life, and what it really means to be a decent human while they're absent, than a lot of Dads do while their present.
Just sayin'

I have to say there are some narrow minded, short sighted people out there. They truly haven't a clue what makes a good/involved parent. You can be a parent that is present every day and not be a good/involved parent. Just because you may be with your kids every day does not in any way make you a good/involved parent.