Sigh... No-one is coming to our wedding

[Beep]

Well, looks like it's just the 4 of us.

Brother and his wife said they could go due to financial reasons, but we know it was because she was jealous and resentful. Haven't spoken to them for a year. No big deal.

Friend 1 has been in hospital for 5 weeks, needs operations and is on Warfarin so at high risk of DVT. Probably will not be able to fly long-haul.

Friend 2 is being made redundant and is very specialised in his job - it took him a long time to find this one. He was taking out a loan to come to the wedding but has had to cancel it.

Friend 3's husband is being made redundant in September so they can't go.

Friend 4 has not been in touch for about 3 months and kept telling me how much it was going to cost her to come, and virtually how inconvenient it is as she has to now bring her 8 year old and has to pay Disney $11 per hour for baby-sitting. There are loads of other things going on too, so we are going to end the friendship and tell her not to come.

Just leaves us and Mom and Dad, which is brilliant as that was what we were originally going to do, but I feel sad after planning for other people to be there that they now won't be.

Anyone going to be on the Boardwalk on 9th December? Fancy stopping at SBP?!

 

[tiggerrifficheidi]

I'm sorry you're disappointed, but in the end, I think you'll have a great time. It's fewer people to worry about, so you can concentrate on enjoying yourself.

We had two adult guests (and one baby) at our Escape, and it was WONDERFUL!

Wish you the best!!

 

[29apr00]

Anyone going to be on the Boardwalk on 9th December? Fancy stopping at SBP?!

I"ll be there!! I"m sorry none of your friends can make it! I remember when we 1st started planning our VR and i was worried that no one was going to make it! I was prepared for no one to come, but it still upset me a bit!! Our plan is to be at Epcot on Wednesday so it'd be so easy to walk down the Internationl Gateway to celebrate your wedding with you!!

 

[Tink&PirateMama]

I'm sorry, I know that feeling sucks! But remember what this is about in the end- the two of you beginning a new chapter in your life- together, committing to eachother- together. It's about you two.

We eloped when we married, although we would have had guests (we had originally planned a small wedding on a boat), we had so much drama with it- in the end, it was WAY better the way it was- just us (and we did have to witnesses, co-workers- as that was required in our state). For our VR it will be just us and our kids. Sorta eloping again! I went through a stage where I wanted to have people come, but in this economy, I felt it was asking too much of the people closest to me, considering their situations at the moment. We did discuss it for a bit, and if it was two years ago, I think we might have gone the other way, but not how things are now. I've just been invited to destination wedding I could not attend for various reasons, so I guess I put myself on that side more than the bride I suppose. My mother is the only person that it's possible will come at the last minute, but I really doubt it. Anyway, when I realized all the stuff I DIDN'T have to do and spend money on without guests... and all the things I could be doing instead with our time/money... it started to feel much better Eloping really is the most romantic thing... if you can, look at it that way

What is it that saddens you the most? I thought about it for me, and I really wanted a moment of celebration with those I really cared for- one friend suggested I do a 'reception' here (something I didn't really do with our elopement!)... but I'm just not the type to plan that sorta thing. Atleast not now! But if I were getting actually married for the first time, I think it's a splendid idea! Anyway, I'm going to email out video and pics from the trip, not instantly, but close to it, and I think people will love it. I'm also going to send out real ones by regular old fashioned mail For me that was enough! And ofcourse, I have the PJ going, and eventually TR, so I can share with others and have them learn from what we've done. But in the end, we are so blessed to have eachother. That is what is most important.

Wishing you peace and joy with this situation, in whatever way gets you there!
And congratulations on getting married!

 

[LittleStinkerbelle]

I'm sorry about your guests but I know you are going to have a wonderful day! We're not going in December but if I was going to be there at I'd come celebrate with you in a heartbeat!!

 

[celerystalker]

Hang in there, beep! Concentrate on your love and what it means to you... and if I can make it in December, I'll be there!

 

[Bride-to-be]

You guys will have a blast without them. Its so much easier to move around the parks in a smaller group then it is in a big group. This way you guys can do exactly what YOU want and you don't have to worry about anyone else.

We originally wanted to get married at Hong Kong Disney - but I knew only our immediate family would come (even if we covered expenses). So thats why we choose to move everything closer to home so everyone would be able to come. Now I sort of regret the decision.

So cheer up. You will have such a great time without them. Then when you get back you can show all of your friends the pictures and make them very jealous.

 

[twiu]

I'll be here too! I actually have plans to be at Epcot all day & night... Jennifer, maybe you and I can meet up and go to the wedding. Wanna? If you need people, we can be there! And we like cake!

 

[gemmybear83]

I'm sorry - but you will have an amazing time!!

 

[29apr00]

I'll be here too! I actually have plans to be at Epcot all day & night... Jennifer, maybe you and I can meet up and go to the wedding. Wanna? If you need people, we can be there! And we like cake!

Aboslutely!!

Look out Alex!! We're on our way!!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Hang in there...if I can talk DF into it can we come???

 

[tinkerlisa]

Sorry about your troubles! I can definitly cry with you on this! Most likely nobody will come ours since everyone only has about 2 weeks left to RSVP and so far, nobody has except my cousin and her hubby. Not even my mom! That's ok though. I am marrying Stan not my guests. I just wanted them to share my special day!
I wish I would be at Disney. I would come in a heartbeat if I could!
Just don't forget that is your special day and have fun!

 

[acwinsett]

We'll be at WDW at that time! Our wedding is on the 8th and our family's leaving on the 9th . . . we'd love to stop by and celebrate with you!

 

[linzwylie]

I'm sorry !! Thats really a bummer !

I know how I felt when we had 12 people pull out

Dont worry - It will still be magical

and....

by the looks of it, all your dis friends will be there


Linz xxx

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

by the looks of it, all your dis friends will be there


Linz xxx

Linz
With all the Dis friends she has here she will have to make it a wishes wedding!!!

 

[Beep]

Awww, bless you all! Come to the wedding by all means but KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF THE CAKE

Originally we only wanted my parents with us (they are our best friends) but my Mom didn't feel comfortable with us not asking my brother and his god-awful wife. As we asked them, we asked the other people too to make a bit of a 'do' which would have been great.

We planned to do some things that we wouldn't have done with just the four of us and paid deposits for it. To give you an example, we have a stretch Hummer for us and the limo for the guests. Now we won't need the Hummer but have paid the deposit for it. Don't get me wrong, we still want the Hummer as it is our favourite car and I know we can use the limo another time but we probably wouldn't have had the Hummer if it was just the four of us.

We also wanted to do a Dessert party and there would have been 10 of us. It's not worth doing it for four of us.

You are right though - the money we would have spent on things like the dessert party will go to something else. We wanted to take Mom and Dad to Cirque du Soleil and Jiko and were struggling to afford it but now we can so there is a silver lining!

Hey, maybe people will feel really bad at not going and give us a HUGE present on our Disneymoon gift card

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Awww, bless you all! Come to the wedding by all means but KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF THE CAKE

You are right though - the money we would have spent on things like the dessert party will go to something else. We wanted to take Mom and Dad to Cirque du Soleil and Jiko and were struggling to afford it but now we can so there is a silver lining!

Hey, maybe people will feel really bad at not going and give us a HUGE present on our Disneymoon gift card

NO CAKE!!! Um..We have to talk. LOL

YOU WILL LOVE CIRQUE DU SOLEIL! What an awesome idea to take your parents to see it. It is absolutely wonderful! (and thanks for the idea-I just might do that for my parents...)

I'm glad you can see the silver lining and here is to hoping that you get LOTS on your Dismoon card!

 

[Tink_Kel]

Hi Beep! I'm so sorry it's not working out the way you had planned, but I know you are going to have a wonderful time with you, you DF, and your parents!! You didn't really want the pain-in-the-you-know-where sister-in-law there anyway, did you? It's people like that suck the joy out of special occassions....you don't need the stress. Just think how much more intimate and special it will be!

It's great that you're planning on taking your Mom & Dad to Cirque, it is a wonderful program, you guys are going to have such special memories...and, no memories of "certain people" trying to pull you down. (There's always someone that want's to poo-poo on peoples parade!)

Oh, btw, what's redundant mean? I know what the american definition means, but the way you are using it, I'm thinking it has a different meaning.

 

[twiu]

Well.. if there's no cake, then I'm not coming over. Just kidding. Hope it all works out for you. And if you do want some company, let us know.. we'll show up with bells on!

 

[Beep]

You can show up with bells on or off - as long as you're not in a white dress!

Another silver lining is that my sister-in-law drinks like a fish so now our wedding costs will be halved and she won't embarrass herself or anyone else! Imagine a mouth that runs at least twice as fast as the brain, with little intelligence and too much alcohol.

Redundant means no job. Lots of that going on unfortunately...

Thanks guys, I'm actually quite looking forward to none of our guests going! Just our luck they will now and I'll be on here again, moaning about that