Should Dd go solo to Junior prom?

[Stacerita]

Thats a pretty crappy thing for her so-called-friend to do to her. Your DD should still go to the prom and have a great time. And I agree, get her a corsage.

 

[snowwite]

I just showed her all of the posts. It cheered her up. She does think I am nuts though for talking to you all about it! Thanks for being there !

 

[agnes!]

Well, you ARE *nuts*. But it's OUR kind of nuts - we understand.
("Hi, my name is agnes! and I am a DIsney Nut.")
("Hello agnes!")

Plus you're nuts about your wonderful daughter who will go on to great things in life and will continue to be a nice person, while her previously so-called friends (who should really now be called mere acquaintances)?...

They are, will be and shall remain, complete and utter JERKS.

agnes!

 

[snowwite]

Well, you ARE *nuts*. But it's OUR kind of nuts - we understand.
("Hi, my name is agnes! and I am a DIsney Nut.")
("Hello agnes!")

Plus you're nuts about your wonderful daughter who will go on to great things in life and will continue to be a nice person, while her previously so-called friends (who should really now be called mere acquaintances)?...

They are, will be and shall remain, complete and utter JERKS.

agnes!

Thanks Agnes!

 

[SPAM]

i did. and senior prom. for junior prom two days before all of the guys dropped (it was a group thing) so me and sister were left dateless. i was really mad because i had gone to alot of trouble, i had lost weight to fit into my dress, had the dress tailored twice, bought shoes, jewelry you name it. i didnt want to go at first but i ended up donig it anyway. i had a blast even without a date.

 

[ashjohnson80]

i did. and senior prom. for junior prom two days before all of the guys dropped (it was a group thing) so me and sister were left dateless. i was really mad because i had gone to alot of trouble, i had lost weight to fit into my dress, had the dress tailored twice, bought shoes, jewelry you name it. i didnt want to go at first but i ended up donig it anyway. i had a blast even without a date.

I remember you and your sisters pictures from last year, you guys looked so pretty and looked like you had a really good time.

 

[SPAM]

I remember you and your sisters pictures from last year, you guys looked so pretty and looked like you had a really good time.

do these faces look like we cared about going stag? i think not.

 

[sharbear]

I have a DS who is a senior and if he did something like this, I would shoot him! Seriously, if a girl asks him to something, he goes, he doesn't blow her off and at the dance he's nice to his date. Maybe this is why he always has always had a date to every dance. But then he never asked the girl who all the guys are hanging after. He usually asks a girl who wouldn't have a date otherwise. He has gone with the same group of girls, they just trade dates. For Senior prom, I think that he is going to ask a girl who has never been asked to a dance through HS. BTW the girls that he's gone to dances with are cute pretty smart girls.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I sort of had the same thing happen to me my Junior year. I started seeing a senior who had just broken up with his long-time girlfriend (bad move on my part, lol). He asked me to the prom and I accepted. About two weeks before it, he and his long-term girlfriend got back together. However, he was going to be a gentleman and still take me to the prom. I told him to take his girlfriend. I then ended up going with a group of friends (some were couples, some were solo also).

My senior year, I didn't even bother with a date, I went with a whole group of friends and had an awesome time.

 

[Dan Murphy]

If she goes, she will have a blast.

 

[Disneyglobegirl]

I have a DS who is a senior and if he did something like this, I would shoot him! Seriously, if a girl asks him to something, he goes, he doesn't blow her off and at the dance he's nice to his date. Maybe this is why he always has always had a date to every dance. But then he never asked the girl who all the guys are hanging after. He usually asks a girl who wouldn't have a date otherwise. He has gone with the same group of girls, they just trade dates. For Senior prom, I think that he is going to ask a girl who has never been asked to a dance through HS. BTW the girls that he's gone to dances with are cute pretty smart girls.

This is so cool! Your DS sounds like a great guy! I only hope that I can help steer my DS in the same direction. My DS is in middle school and they recently had a Sadie Hawkins dance - a girl that he is friends with asked him first and he said Yes then as the dance got closer other girls started to ask him and the girl he really liked asked him. I was proud of him as he did tell them all "no that he had already been asked" but he was really wanting to tell his friend that he wanted to go with this other girl. We sat down and talked about it and he agreed that it was best to keep his word and go with his friend. He went with his friend and they had a great time!

To the OP - I hope that your DD can find some friends to go with and enjoy herself. That really stinks that a so called friend would do that to her. Hugs to your DD!!

 

[tiggger1]

When i was a Junior, my boyfriend dumped me for another girl about a month before his senior prom. He told me he asked his new girl friend to the prom. Since my parents already bought my gown,I was too upset to tell them. I was talking to my a friend on the phone, who happened to be my ex's sister. She told her mom and the next day, i get a phone call from my ex's telling me his mom told him that he had to take me or he couldnt go. I really wanted to go (with or without him) so i told him i'd let him know.... i ended up going with him and we had a great time and he ended up breaking up with the new girl friend and we we dated for another year..... ( although now looking back at it i should have made him miss his prom....he dumped me on Valentines day for the only person in the entire world i hate..........and he is now married to her

 

[KAMLEM]

I recently saw a situation similar to this on People's Court. The girl's family actually brought the boy to court because he cancelled on the girl after they had spent all kinds of money on a gown, shoes, tickets, etc. They actually won because the judge said that they had a verbal contract and the boy breached the contract. If your daughter decides not to go here's an alternative!

 

[Christine]

A big pet peeve of mine is no one is ever made to follow through on anything anymore. No ones word means crap anymore. IT's all about what people feel liike doing at that very moment no matter who's feelings they hurt. I see this at every age level now. It really is the height of selfishness.

I agree with you and that's where I have to step up and say "Where are the parents?" I realize that these kids are JUNIORS and SENIORS now, but they still need the parental guidance and involvement. The parent of the girl who did this needs to slap her around, the idiot boy needs to be lectured by his parents, etc. But, I'm sure that probably most of the parents involved probably don't have a clue. When my DD gets invited to the prom and I know who her date is, she won't be "stealing" anyone elses date. Same with my son, he won't be "changing" dates either without a full interrogation from me.

 

[malibuconlee]

Are they alowed to ask freshman or sophomores? Some places they are not allowed to.

Since she's involved in theater she could ask one of her guy friends from that group that may be younger? That happened all the time in my school.

I went with boyfriends in 9th, 10th, and 11th grades. Then went with a guy friend in 12th grade. It's fun either way.

I did have girlfriends that went together without dates to Prom our Junior year.

Heck, I even have pictures from our Valentines Dance my senior year with one of my best girl friends because we were the only ones in our group without dates. Other posters are right. There was always someone to dance with.

 

[Puffy2]

For what it's worth, my 2 cents:

First of all, go easy on your daughter - it is embarrassing enough to be dumped and , as I remember, the last thing I wanted was for my family to "make an issue out of it" - that will just make her feel worse.

Secondly, by all means, yes she should go IF she has at least one "friend" (girl or otherwise) to go with and hang out with. I'd say no to going alone unless she is determined to do so.

Third, these other two kids are rude and they may never grow out of it. I had a friend who dumped her prom date so she could go to a woman's lib meeting (100 years ago...) - can't believe her mother allowed her to do so. She is still grotesquely selfish and self centered. And , we are no longer "friends" .

Fourth, your daughter should realize that there are people in this world who are like that and she will learn over time to recognize them. Keep in mind though, that some do learn from their mistakes.

and if she doesn't go to the prom, perhaps have a special night at the movies or at home, etc... It is NOT the end of the world. High school ends and most of the "regular guys" go on to have full, great lives while often the "jocks and cheerleaders" are left reliving highschool, because for some of them (not all by any means) that's all they ever have.

 

[VSL]

I haven't read the whole thread (yet! - my connection is being really slow for some unknown reason) but...

This 'friend' lost any rights to use this boy as her second choice as soon as he agreed to go with your DD.

(Now I'm going to try to read pages 1 and 2 - which are no doubt full of good advice that I agree with!)