Should be a fun weekend

[KarenB]

exactly what I would have said.....

I can't help it monkey....I have to hijack this thread for a quickie and say that those squirrels in claudia's siggie are making me laugh uncontrollably!

 

[disykat]

I can't believe all the people that are so "mature" here. It seems I'm always hearing about people who wouldn't be caught dead at a wedding without a date. However, there are people here who think she should be dateless when she has a perfectly good offer of a friend offering to be her date?

I don't get how there's anything immature about having her friend being her date for the wedding and simply not allowing the ex to have an opening.

Monkey68, every single person I know, no matter what age, thinks about what scenarios will or could play out when they see their ex. I think it's normal! I also think it's human nature to daydream of them playing out in a way that makes you look good and the ex look foolish.

 

[monkey68]

Lol, I've gone to enough weddings dateless, I really don't care about that part. I just like thinking up ways to get revenge knowing that I will see him. Of course I will look fabulous, I have a new black dress, hot shoes, just got my nails done today in a gorgeous red. My sister drew me a face and wrote out which makeup to use and where to put it (I am really bad with makeup). Whether I need my buddy as a back up or not, we'll see. But it's nice knowing I have the option. He offered to intercept any offers to dance, said if he sees my ex coming over looking like he's looking for a dance, he'll lead me onto the dance floor.

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

I agree with the majority of the other posters.

 

[Mom2Nick]

I can't believe all the people that are so "mature" here. It seems I'm always hearing about people who wouldn't be caught dead at a wedding without a date. However, there are people here who think she should be dateless when she has a perfectly good offer of a friend offering to be her date?

I don't get how there's anything immature about having her friend being her date for the wedding and simply not allowing the ex to have an opening.

Monkey68, every single person I know, no matter what age, thinks about what scenarios will or could play out when they see their ex. I think it's normal! I also think it's human nature to daydream of them playing out in a way that makes you look good and the ex look foolish.

It's is immature to deliberately mislead her ex for the sole purpose of getting back at him. Not sure where you think people are saying that bringing a date is immature since the OP is not bringing a date.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

It's is immature to deliberately mislead her ex for the sole purpose of getting back at him.

Since when do people feel "mature" about boyfriends who coldly dumped them? I've been around for, oh, 52 years or so and I don't know anybody who's mature about that. Monkey can play out her fantasies for all they're worth as long as she doesn't do anything to disrupt the wedding (and she wouldn't, 'cause she's our mature Monkey, for gosh sakes, and a med student to boot, if I remember correctly ).

Monkey, your friend's offer to intercept offers to dance, etc., is right on the mark of a true friend.

 

[disykat]

It's is immature to deliberately mislead her ex for the sole purpose of getting back at him. Not sure where you think people are saying that bringing a date is immature since the OP is not bringing a date.

People have said it would be immature to have her friend be her date.

I'm almost 50 and if I saw an ex, I'd rather he saw me looking good and, if there was dancing involved, with someone. If it was a recent ex, I'd want to look like I had moved on and had no need for a dance partner. I think it's human nature, not immaturity.

 

[HunnyPots]

Don't give him ANYTHING that he could perceive as a challenge and DON'T try to make him jealous! Unless of course you actually do want to start something up again. I think you're putting way too much thought into this...

 

[shortbun]

Seriously, take the high road and have fun without involving him.

 

[Mom2Nick]

People have said it would be immature to have her friend be her date.

I'm almost 50 and if I saw an ex, I'd rather he saw me looking good and, if there was dancing involved, with someone. If it was a recent ex, I'd want to look like I had moved on and had no need for a dance partner. I think it's human nature, not immaturity.

Must have missed that one then because I didn't see anybody say that hanging with the other guest was immature.

 

[monkey68]

Since when do people feel "mature" about boyfriends who coldly dumped them? I've been around for, oh, 52 years or so and I don't know anybody who's mature about that. Monkey can play out her fantasies for all they're worth as long as she doesn't do anything to disrupt the wedding (and she wouldn't, 'cause she's our mature Monkey, for gosh sakes, and a med student to boot, if I remember correctly ).

Monkey, your friend's offer to intercept offers to dance, etc., is right on the mark of a true friend.

I think that's what it is, playing out fantasies. Wouldn't actually do anything at the wedding. But it is a 4 hour drive to the wedding, so I'm sure my friend and I can come up with lots of fun ways to get back at him, none of which I will do, but oh so fun to plan out.

Now if only I can convince my friend offering to pretend to be my date to wear his army dress uniform, it would be even better. But he says he doesn't want to because the bride's brother is in the Navy, and will be wearing his dress blues, and he doesn't want that extra attention. But it would be nice to have the ex wonder if the guy is my date, and he would be so jealous of a handsome guy in a uniform, since he knows I have a thing for guys in uniform. I always was planning on going and being polite, but if I was living in movie-world, I would totally do something like flirt with him all night, drive him crazy, and then at the end of the night, say something like "I've gotta run, my fiance is picking me up." Of course, if it were movie-world, I would actually have a fiance.

So how about I rephrase the question. If you could live out your fantasies about your ex, what would you do if you know you'll be seeing him at a wedding?

 

[SydneyBristow]

I would take the grown up road and talk to him if he engages in conversation just like you would anyone else. Don't be overly flirtatious or mean and nasty. Just be.

Take the high road on this one.

Id be nice. What will you gain by being anything else? Plus, its the day for the bride and groom, not you and your ex. Be a grown up and be there for your friends.

I agree, don't be deceptive just go and have fun.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

People have said it would be immature to have her friend be her date.

I'm almost 50 and if I saw an ex, I'd rather he saw me looking good and, if there was dancing involved, with someone. If it was a recent ex, I'd want to look like I had moved on and had no need for a dance partner. I think it's human nature, not immaturity.

Not my nature and I never said she was "immature to have her friend be her date". I just said to act normal. For me acting normally brings a sense of power in itself and is very freeing.

I would even dance with the ex. and probably talk to him if he talked to me or asked me to dance. However I would not go out of my way to talk to him.

Just go and have fun OP!!!!!

 

[monkey68]

Just an update if anyone cares. I just came back from the wedding weekend, and it was awesome. First of all, I looked amazing, if I may say so myself. I didn't see him at the ceremony, but at the reception, I was talking to a couple of my friends, and he taps me on the shoulder and says hi. So I said hi back, it was nice seeing him again, and that was it. I basically just danced the rest of the night, I love to dance. He stayed at the bar all night. But it was great. At one point, I was dancing with a couple of my girlfriends, when a salsa-style song comes on. Well, my friend, the one who offered to look out for me, is apparently a very good salsa dancer. I had no idea. So he walks out onto hte dance floor, grabs my hand, and we start doing a little salsa. He was leading me all over the dance floor, spinning me around, dips and all that. I had such a great time. After a couple numbers, I went to get water and take a breather. The bride sits down next to me, and said the whole time I was doing the Latin dances with my friend, the ex was just watching us, looking very upset. The thing is, I really don't care. I didn't even look at my ex the entire night, i was just having a great time.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

Yay, Monkey!! You looked amazing, and you danced the night away. Your ex was a little green, and you didn't care. Life is sweet!