I have one thing to say in regards to SAHM thinking us working moms look down on them......I know many SAHM and am no longer friends with most of them cause they looked down on ME! I don't care about my kid cause i choose to work. I am letting my child down cause i am not there 24 hours a day etc etc.
So it goes both ways. I respect (and sometimes envy) the SAHM however I am the type of person that wants my own money, wants to be able to afford to take my kids to Disney etc. I couldn't do that if I stayed at home. I would have to live very frugally and I am not willing to do that. I am lucky in that I have had family that could watch my son when he was young and i am lucky that my mom doesn't work and can be my before and after care. I am also lucky that I can work from home and have a flexible work schedule.
and for those that comment that the hubby doens't do their share of the work...sometimes it doesn't work out that way. My hubby is a contractor...when our son was small I would do the nighttime because my theory was this..if i am sleepy while sitting at a computer it is OK...if he is sleepy while standing on a roof we could have problems. I ALSO take care fo the "inside" work. I do this because he PHYSICALLY has a demanding job and i don't. So it doesn't bother me. It isn't that he is deadbeat or lazy etc.
And lastly, I am divorced and as i stated...I choose to work for serveral reasons...and one being...if hubby decided to up and leave...guess what i can take care of myself and my son. I would not WANT his money or anything from him if he decided he no longer loved me.
So we are all different...am I right? For me, yes. Is the SAHM mom right, Yes for her she is. Is the way I look at alimony (meaning I wouldn't want his money)...yes it is right for me. But that isn't to say that the SAHM shouldn't get it.
Each situation is different and SAHM judge us working moms as much as us working moms judge the SAHM. I am so sick of being told I don't love my kid as much because i choose to work. My son is just as happy as yours. There are benefits to 2 working parents and there are benefits to one parent staying at home.
Believe me...my mom didn't work and I LOVED not having to get up in the morning on summers, being lazy in the pool etc. But that choice came at a slight cost and that was money...we couldn't afford to go on vacations, have the Nike shoes etc. And I hated it back then but I do respect her decision now. As I said, I can work from home so maybe I have the best of both worlds..if my son is sick I can be here with him. When he had his appendix removed at 3 years old I was able to be with him at home for a week AND still work AND still cook, clean etc. So we are all different.
OK..end of rant. Back to working...at home in my living room...and throwing in a load of laundry every hour.