sensitive preggo announcement ideas?

[ashley0139]

As a very single and very happy twenty-something, I am offended by this post.

That's all.

 

[ccgirl]

First, you get over the idea that they aren't as blessed as you. I bet if asked, they would say they feel plenty blessed with their lives. I doubt they use you as measuring stick for how their lives should be.

Second, you just tell them. Chances are they'll be quite happy for you.

It's really not an issue worth overthinking.

This.

If they are true friends they would be happy for you. I wasn't the type to do a mass announcement type thing for either of my pregnancies. I only told my true friends. But then again, most of my friends knew before I told them the minute I didn't have the wine or beer at the party/cookout. They usually said, "What are you pregnant or something?"

I usually said something like, "I wanted to tell you face to face so you didn't hear it through the grapevine that <insert DH name> and I are expecting a baby".

Best wishes on your new addition.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

Yall, can we please try to be a little more constructive in the advice? We don't know her or her friends. She knows them all much better than we do. They could be bothered by the fact that she is married and starting a family. And if they aren't, who cares? Being sensitive is always a nice way to go about things.

 

[sunshinehighway]

Why not just tell the friends you are closest to. Word will spread through the grapevine. I guess I never really got the need for a big announcement about such things. I have one friend couple that would make a big "announcement" about things like this. Most of us thought it was silly.

Yes, we were happy for them but, we'd joke that they were "the royal couple" because they thought everything that was important to them deserved some type of celebration from everyone.

Congratulations!

 

[beatlesblonde]

Now, me on the other hand, I would think, "Oh, thank the stars it's her and not me!" But then, I don't want kids.

I'm the same way. I have several friends who have announced pregnancies and/or had children in the past few years since I've been married. I'm be happy for them but at the same time I'm thinking "Thank goodness it's them and not me!"

OP Just announce it, like others have said if they are really your friend they'll be happy for you.

 

[justhat]

I thought you were going to say someone in your circle was dealing with infertility or pregnancy loss. I agree with the others. Just tell them. I think you may be creating an issue here. (unintentionally)

I agree with the blessed part a PP mentioned. Just because they aren't married and aren't expecting doesn't mean they aren't blessed. During 3 years of infertility, I was still so blessed.

This. I thought there would be a reason you needed to be sensitive in your announcement. I recently posted a similar question, but in regards to a close friend who is going through an infertility struggle. For regular friends, I had no hesitation in the past.

I was 23 when I had my first child and if anything, I was the lonely one. My friends were all super excited for me (some married or in relationships, most not), couldn't wait to come over and visit the new baby. But then the novelty wears off and they went back to their single thing and I was home with a baby. All the time. Don't get me wrong, I was over the moon in love with my child and my husband and life was good, but it was very much different. There was no more going out with my friends on a Tuesday night cause I had a baby. I am fairly certain none of my friends were envious.

 

[AmericangirlinFrance]

I think I get it, OP - I am also mid to late 20s and I have a few friends (well, mainly 2) who are single and kind of bitter about it (a lot of "I hate men," seem to get ticked off when yet another friend announces an engagement or pregnancy, etc). They seem to have a hard time just being happy for the person and moving on with their life. I recently got married and one of them (one of my closest friends) really made it a point not to be involved in my wedding stuff, didn't come to my shower (she had traveled from out of town to be there and decided to do something else instead!), and left right after the wedding reception had started. I didn't expect a lot of warm fuzzies, but it hurt a little. I mean, if you can't at least be happy for your good friend on their wedding day, when can you be happy?

So I get where you're coming from. I would just announce it in a matter-of-fact way. I certainly wouldn't host some big event to announce it. There will be plenty of people in your life who will be thrilled for you and who will want to express that joy with you. So celebrate with those people.

 

[kwelch10377]

1) Don't say your preggo or preggers, generally only the people who say those words find it cute. Say you are pregnant or having a baby.

2) Unless they have displayed jealous behavior in the past, don't assume that they are single, bitter spinsters. There are many single people in their late 20's and even older that are perfectly happy with being single.

3) If they haven't displayed jealous behavior in the past just tell them like you would anyone else.

4) If they have displayed jealous behavior in the past, don't just say "Hey, I wanted to let you guys know I am pregnant" Say it in a happy, but not giddy way and as long as they are not rude about it, don't discount their feelings if they express them to you.

 

[mickeyboat]

I'm with everyone else. Don't assume that just because this is the most important thing to ever happen to you, that it is the most important thing that has ever happened to everyone else.

 

[2girls4me]

I agree, tell them and be done with it.

There's no reason to be ashamed about it. Be happy and they will be happy for you.

 

[Maggie Lizer]

I agree that just because it is what YOU want doesn't mean everyone else will be jealous. If that is what you really believe, it is kind of self-centered, right?

Just tell people. I am sure they will be happy for you, just like I was when I was 22 and my best friend got married and pregnant, but I wasn't looking for either a husband nor a kid yet - grad school and career loomed first - so I certainly wasn't jealous.

 

[superme80]

OP I totally understand! I have had jealous friends when I got married nad pregnant, or friends wishing it was them. I would just tell the ones you are most concerned about privately that you are expecting. They can deal with it on their own. Don't let them find our through the grapevine. That hurts more. Congrats on your new little blessing!

 

[monarchsfan16]

Just tell them. But as others have said, don't use the terms "preggo", "preggers" or "marital bliss".

I'm 25. I feel very blessed to NOT be married yet, and even more blessed to not have kids of my own. I work with kids, and love it, but I just barely finished school (went to grad school right after undergrad) and just can't imagine having a husband or kids yet. So I guess I'd also recommend not making it clear that you feel more blessed than them.

 

[inkedupmomma]

I'm so totally confused as to what this question even means? What is the issue? You're not 39 going on 40 and never been kissed. Jeesh....

If they are your friends, they should be elated for you! Did you handle the engagement weird? wedding invites weird? and only a year after being married is normal for those wanting to start a family.

Announce it how you always dreamed you would announce and don't worry about their feeling. They are big girls and can deal. If they can't shame on them!

 

[BlovesC]

First, it's pregnant, not pragnant.

Secondly, there's no reason for you to worry about this. Couples marry, couples have kids, it's the normal order of things. If you were 16, it might be a bit unusual, but I don't think anyone's going to be shocked. As for somehow worrying you might be the only one of your friends to be 'blessed' with the miracle of pregnancy...I don't know why you think that? As others have said, maybe if all your friends were 45 and had never married, I could understand. But you're in your 20s. This is a BIG period of change in your and your friends' lives. Trust me. I just turned 30, and I went from not having ANY friends with kids, to having to attend twelve baby showers in two years. TWELVE. It seemed to happen almost overnight!

You are not the first woman to have a baby and you will not be the last. So tell your friends however you want, and if they're good friends, they'll be happy for you, but obviously no one is going to be as excited about it as you and your hubby. And when your friends start getting pregnant, you can offer them advice and support!

 

[SaraJayne]

I'm so totally confused as to what this question even means? What is the issue? You're not 39 going on 40 and never been kissed. Jeesh....

If they are your friends, they should be elated for you! Did you handle the engagement weird? wedding invites weird? and only a year after being married is normal for those wanting to start a family.

Announce it how you always dreamed you would announce and don't worry about their feeling. They are big girls and can deal. If they can't shame on them!

It's the insinuation the OP is making that she is "so blessed" to be married and pregnant at "this age", while her friends are losers for being single with no prospects and no children.

That attitude tends to rub people the wrong way.

 

[inkedupmomma]

It's the insinuation the OP is making that she is "so blessed" to be married and pregnant at "this age", while her friends are losers for being single with no prospects and no children.

That attitude tends to rub people the wrong way.

still, who cares, just announce how you would normally. it's a pregnancy for goodness sake, not a place standing next to god.

 

[SaraJayne]

still, who cares, just announce how you would normally. it's a pregnancy for goodness sake, not a place standing next to god.

I'm guessing you've never had a friend who did believe being pregnant was just like standing next to god.

 

[FeelsLikeHome]

I thought you were going to say someone in your circle was dealing with infertility or pregnancy loss. I agree with the others. Just tell them. I think you may be creating an issue here. (unintentionally)

I agree with the blessed part a PP mentioned. Just because they aren't married and aren't expecting doesn't mean they aren't blessed. During 3 years of infertility, I was still so blessed.

I thought this was going to be a thread about friends dealing with infertility as well. The quoted poster gave some good advice, IMO, to just tell them.

If you do so in a respectful manner, which it sounds like you will (or you wouldn't be asking), it is up to your friends how they will react.

Congratulations and best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I'm with everyone else. Don't assume that just because this is the most important thing to ever happen to you, that it is the most important thing that has ever happened to everyone else.

I totally agree. I've been perfectly happy for all my friends at every stage of their lives. I have no intentions of ever having children, but I am always SO excited and happy for any friend or relative that is pregnant because it is exciting and important for them. I'm getting married for the first time this December and I'm 30. I thoroughly enjoyed being single in my 20's, but was always excited for a friend or relative that became engaged. It never crossed my mind that they may be thinking I'm pining away for what they have in life. There's pro's and con's to every hand we're dealt in life. The grass is not always greener.

Just tell them.