Dzny Dreams,
The tours start at 8:45 for check in (actual tour is 9a-11a).
Rather than hanging out with your husband, I think you and your daughter would rather go to the Princess Breakfast at the Norway Pavillion. This is what I plan on trying to do when I go with the kids and my husband.
I kind of doubt they will let you hang out with the tour, but you can always ask (the last part of it includes going around the world showcase on the segway so you wouldn't be able to keep up with that anyway.)