Sad news!!!

[Disney Ron]

I hate to post this to my DVC friends, but I have sad news. My wife of 19 years is leaving me. She said she doesn't love me anymore, so I told her to do what she has to do.

Our daughter is 18 and our son is 15, and both kids want to stay with me.

We were in DW in August and while there my wife wanted to purchase SSR which we did. Two weeks after arriving home we bought into the VWL, then 2 months later she tells me she's leaving.

The good news besides the fact I'm getting the house and kids, is that I'm also keeping SSR and the VWL. I'm just going to have to put them both in my name only.

It's been a tough holiday this year, but I'm getting better with each day, and can't wait for the kids and mine first trips home to SSR and the VWL in April and August.

BTW, a year ago my wife had gastric bypass surgery and lost 100 pounds and her personality has changed tremendously. She's not the same person I fell in love with 20 years ago, and her own sister told me the same thing. I've never seen a sweeter more down to earth person, become so self absorbed in all my life. Too bad!

Thanks for reading and sorry for venting!

Reading these boards have helped me cope each day so thanks everyone.

Disney Ron

 

[tjkraz]

You're always welcome to vent here, Ron. Keep your chin up.

 

[athenna]

I am so sorry to hear that. I once heard a saying, I believe it goes-that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger. And it's true. That saying has gotten me through many events in my life. And you have your wonderful children with you.

 

[goofy4tink]

I'm sorry you are in this situation. I've seen it happen before. I'm glad though that your kids are with you. That must really help. Well, that and keeping your DVC points!! Hope your trip is the best yet!!

 

[lck33]

So sorry to hear your news. I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason! So even though this probably doesn't help you feel better now, who knows what the future holds for you. Think positively and believe me, it'll get better! Good luck to you!

 

[Terry S]

So sorry this has happened. As other have said, it may not seem like it now, but it will get better. Another saying that I like is when one door close another one opens. Things really do happen for a reason and a few years from now you will probably look back on this and realize it was for the best! Feel free to post here and we will all give you and your kids a big hug!

 

[spiceycat]

I am so sorry!!!

She is just crazy.

You and the children are probably better off without her.

People change that is part of life - but she reallys has changed.

when people lose weight strange things can happen to them.

 

[canwegosoon]

Ron sorry to hear the sad news...it sounds like you tried to do a lot to make her happy. Best of luck to you in the future, and I'm glad that you will be able to continue on with DVC!!!

 

[Patty3]

I am so sorry that this has happened to you. As you said, she is not the same person that you feel in love with, so I hope those words are giving you some comfort. Come here and vent anytime. She is the loser.

 

[DVCconvert]

Ron, I am sorry that you all are going thru this. I don't mean to pry, but I hope it was at least discussed that your wife seek some counseling. From what you've said, it sounds as if this personality change has coincided with the operation and subsequent results. I can only imagine that such a drastic and dramatic body change would have some psychological impact. At least with some counseling perhaps all would feel some comfort out of knowing if her current actions were rational and not as a result of the operation.

I hope whatever is right and best for you, her and kids comes to pass.
You're in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[TammyAlphabet]

I am sorry to hear this story. I am glad that you are doing okay. Enjoy your vacations.

 

[MiaSRN62]

Ron ~
So sorry to hear this. I'm sure things have been pretty rough lately. Hoping you and the kids pull together and hang in there.
You all have a fantastic time in WDW

 

[bobbiwoz]

Just to let you know I'm thinking about you, that's sad news.

Bobbi

 

[mamaprincess]

Venting is good. You will become friends one day in the future once the emotional aspects of this is over. I dont know any personal details about your situation but I can empathize. My childrens father decided to get ahot young girfriend after we had the twins and I had to eventually end it. I am now happily married to the love of my life with a new baby, new home, new life and in retrospect I see that God was just making room for this knew life and I thank that hot young thing for speeding things up. My ex and I are now good friends, my husband gets along with him famously and there are no hard feelings which is great for the kids. Life will go on. Your ex sounds like she needs to find out who she is in the new body. I understand that that can be pretty weird for those going through it. She may want to experience the myth of the skinnier side of life. Eventually she'll find that things aren't that much more fabulous on the other side. In life what matters most is love and support as you age thats what it boils down to, when youre sick or not at your best or having tough times thats all you have and allyou need, not the approval of strangers. Continue to enjoy your life, hold on to your values and go get some of that disney magic.

 

[laceemouse]

Prayers and Pixie Dust to you and your kids Hugs, hugs, hugs Lacee

 

[lllovell]

Hang in there hun. I am sure your children are the joy of your life, so let them shine for a while and try to absorb what you can from them. One day at a time.

 

[wilderness01]

I'm so sorry.

 

[Desnik]

So sorry to hear your news.

I know what you mean by someone being so nice and a great person, and then become someone you can't stand to be around! My sister gained weight after her 3rd child. When she lost the weight she had a tummy tuck and **** job and left her husband! She needed to leave him anyway, but she didn't need to become the person she is today. I can't stand her anymore, and that's really sad. We were close. It's hard accepting peoples personality changes, but life goes on.

Glad to hear you will have your home and children, and your DVC.

 

[AnnaS]

I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. You can vent here anytime you are down. Be strong, enjoy your children and life. It will get easier and better with time. I always say, it could be worse.

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Sounds like your wife thinks she's a real "hottie" now that she's lost the weight. I suspect it won't take her too long to find out the grass may be greener on the other side but it's usually Astroturf!!! She'll miss the "real" thing in a hurry. Try to hang in there and keep your mind off things by planning the best trip ever for you and the kids...