Sad news!!!

[kathleena]

Sorry to hear the news. I hope this story might give you something to think about when you are down:

Whenever I went through a really awful time in my life (and it usually was a break-up, although not of a marriage) my dear angel Mom would always tell me that something good always comes from something bad. You just may not see it as soon as you'd like, but eventually you will see another door has opened that wasn't there before.

I lost my job in 1995 and became self employed for two years. Almost every day, I went for a 1-2 mile walk with my Mom. It was very important time. We did a lot of good talking and healing. I went back to another day job and had to stop walking everyday with her. 10 months later, Mom passed away from a brain tumor. If I hadn't lost my job, I never would have shared all that time with her. And the loss of my mother paved the way to a new relationship with my step-daughter. So even that bad brought something good.

There will be something good in here for you - maybe time with your kids, a new understanding of them and you - who knows what it will be. But there will be something.



Nancy

 

[N&B'smom]

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. That's a shame that your wife changed and is no longer the woman you loved for all those years. It's so sad when we're disappointed by those we love. I'm so glad your children are with you, they will be your salvation in this. Keep them close and have GREAT trips in the future!!!!!!!!!!!!

Shelby

 

[CarolAnnC]

Sorry to hear this sad news. This is not the first time I have heard of a weight loss patient going crazy and leaving their loved ones. Better days ahead for you! Hugs..

 

[CaliforniaDreaming]

So sorry this happened, Ron. My prayers are with you and your children.

 

[DVC-Don]

Sorry Ron, but you'll have your kids and the DVC to busy yourself with. Neighbor of ours lost weight a few years ago and walked out on her husband and two young kids (3 year old daughter & 5 year old son). Did not surprise us though as all she talked about was motherhood was not what she thought it would be. The husband is doing just fine as a single father though. Visit with us here Ron.

 

[mom23boys]

Ron, I too am so sorry you and your children are going through this.

 

[Deep-Thots]

"She is just crazy."

"You and the children are better off without her."

"She is the loser."

"Sounds like your wife thinks she's a real 'hottie' now that she's lost the weight."

Jeez, care for a side of humility to go with that judgmentalism?

Let me say that I am indeed sorry that Ron is suffering through what is obviously a deep and painful loss, and that it is a beneficial thing that people here can be so supportive of him.

However, I think most of us know that there are (at least) two sides to every story. It is just plain meanspirited to make derogatory statements (like those quoted above) concerning someone about whose emotional and life experiences you know nothing. This is especially true when said person has no way of defending herself.

I know that we all have a tendency to want to believe only the best of our fellow DISers, and there's nothing wrong with that. But it's possible to believe the best and be supportive without ignorantly casting aspersions on anyone else.

For what it's worth, Ron, I am sorry for your loss.

 

[debbiedoo]

Ron,

I am so sorry that you ae going through a tough time. Remember that we will always be here and the lord above. Enjoy your home, your dvc, and especially be there for your kids. You will have a lot to live with them, college, marriage, grandkids, take life one day at a time, and as my mother has always told me, everything has a reason for happening, you may not know now, but one day you will

take care. . .

and lots of pixie dust coming your way

 

[Tooneric]

I suspect it won't take her too long to find out the grass may be greener on the other side but it's usually Astroturf!!! :

Good one! Hang in there Ron. It's her loss. Besides, look at all the women posting here to lift your spirits. You da man!

 

[OneMoreTry]

I'm sorry to hear this. I wish I had something to offer, but don't, except a prayer that all involved will be willing to let the wounds heal over time.

 

[Sammie]

I know this is a horrible situation for all involved.

I won't cast stones, as I don't know you or her. I do know the children always are the hardest hit and for them I send my prayers.

Best to all involved.

 

[DD2Disney]

Hi Ron,
Sorry to hear about this. Just offering prayers to you and your family.

God bless you,
Tricia

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Jeez, care for a side of humility to go with that judgmentalism?

Coming from you...this statement is quite humorous.

If I am guilty of "ignorantly casting aspersions", then so be it. The reply I posted was based on my interpretation of the information provided by the OP.

I feel I was being supportive and do offer my deepest sympathies to Ron and his family. And yes, Ron -- I do want to believe only the best of you...even if it turns me into an evil, ignorant aspersion caster.

 

[donmil723]

DisneyRon, I've heard that the breakup of a marriage is similar to a death of a spouse. Give yourself time to grieve and remember God will give you the strength to see you through this. I'm happy that your children will be there for you and that you have good times like your trips to WDW to look forward too.

Sorry if this became preachy. Didn't mean for it to sound that way.

Hugs and pixie dust for you and your family.

Donna

 

[Merilyn]

I have known 2 different people whose personality changed after that surgery. I guess it isn't uncommon. So sorry to hear about your family breaking up.

 

[MiaSRN62]

I feel I was being supportive and do offer my deepest sympathies to Ron and his family. And yes, Ron -- I do want to believe only the best of you...even if it turns me into an evil, ignorant aspersion caster.

Calypso.....I found nothing wrong with your first post. Sounded supportive and caring to me. I'm sure the OP took it that way.

 

[greenban]

Ron, sorry for your loss. Hoping for a brighter future for you and yours. We're here for you!

-Tony

 

[WithDisneySpirit]

Lisa

 

[Disney Ron]

I just wanted to say I'm blown away by the kind and supportive words from everyone, but not surprised.

My children and I are doing just fine and knowing they're with me makes all this easier to take.

I appreciate all the helpful sayings some posted and will remember all of them each day.

Life will go on and with my kids, family, friends and the very special people here on the DIS, I know I'll get through this with flying colors.

Thanks again so much, and I'm here every day reading the banter from the good people here. The DIS is one of my more enjoyable acts of each day!

Disney Ron

 

[Disney Ron]

looks like I arrive at SSR a day ahead of you in April.

Maybe our families could say hello!

Disney Ron