Sad.....I miss my Mom.....

[CathrynRose]

Im not looking for sympathy - boo-hoo me, or anything, but I am MISSING my Mom. It's only been a month (yesterday), and I started thinking "Gee, if all goes as planned and I like to be 70-ish - I have like 40 more years without her.

And Im sad for my boys - Like Ive said before, my youngest doesnt like his paternal Grandma - and was really, really close to my Mom.

THIS SUCKS!


Man - death is a real you-know-what, if you ask me.

 

[anewvance]

I'm sorry.. that's so tough, I couldn't imagine. Life is so unfair sometimes, just gotta get through it. Hugs for you and your boys.

 

[winniedapooh]

Gentle hugs to you...my hug button is not working sorry.

 

[ntburns22]

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[Tigger_Magic]

Sadly, I know how you feel -- both my parents have passed with my dad being the most recent (only 2 years ago). With my oldest brother also gone, it's just my (evil) twin brother and me left. Some days are harder than others; sometimes I miss them more than others. It's like a void that never really heals or stops hurting.

When I miss them, I try to recall pleasant memories to relive for a few moments. It helps sometimes.

Hope your day gets better!

 

[CathrynRose]

I feel like a chunk of my DNA is missing, or something.

AND Good Lord - the range of emotions is just CRAZY! From completely okay, to sad, to angry, to just *blue*, to numb, to "is this for real?", back to okay and on and on and on.

It's just so weird!

Where's that Xanax thread? Im gonna request a few be cyber-thrown at me...

 

[mickeyboat]

After almost 4 years, I still miss my MIL every day. It just doesn't seem right that she isn't part of my life anymore, and that my girls will never get to know her.

But then I remember that she is part of my life. She has helped make me the person I am today. She raised DH and was an important part of the kids' lives when they were very small. So she is making an impact on me, even now.

I am sorry for your loss.

Denae

 

[Stitchfans]

I am truly sorry. I know exactly what you are feeling and going through. I felt the exact way when I lost my mom. As a matter of fact I still feel some of that sometimes and it has been six years. When something good or bad happens I want to share it with my mom and then it dawns on me that I can't and I get so mad or sad.

My next closest kin my cousin Cindi is dieing of cancer and has been in hiding. I usually went to her and talked to her. now I can't. I guess that is why I am glad I have this board. I have someone even if they are strangers someone I can talk to.

as I said I am sorry.

 

[mtblujeans]

I am so sorry....I have an idea of the pain you feel (as I know others do, too)! It was 5 years after my Dad passed away before I could talk about it without crying! And, you know how I have been bouncing off the walls around here with my DMIL passing!

I felt that the pain seemed 'fresh' for more than a year after my Dad died! There was just no one else in my life like him....that hole in my heart was HUGE!!

Just be patient with yourself and cry as often as you need to, don't try to hold your pain in!! I am just so sorry no one can make this better for you! Your heart will mend in its own time!

 

[Kimberly815]

 

[MinnieM3]

40 years does seem so long. Try to take it one day or maybe even one hour at a time. Whatever you need. I'm sorry you're hurting.

Stitchfan....so sorry about your cousin.

 

[Dan Murphy]

 

[Royalbear]

I am sorry for your loss. The loss of a mother seems especially hard. Hugs to you.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Awww, I am so sorry. Sadness is such a normal emotion and one that you will be feeling for awhile. Knowing that it's normal of course doesn't exactly help, of course. to you and your family.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

great big hugs to you.

 

[DawnCt1]

I know how you feel. My Mom has been gone for 10 years as of yesterday. Sometimes it feels like it was yesterday.

 

[Mishetta]

My heart breaks for you. I totally understand. I look at my Mom's photo everyday & say "this is yet another day without you" & I wonder how I've gone on with my life since July 2, 2003. I was 43 when my Mom passed on & we lived together all but 3 months out of my life (when I was first married). Then my kids came along & she was like their second mother, let alone a Grandmother!

Funny thing is that my DS is now 10 y/o & yesterday he got into some trouble at school & had to meet with the Vice Principal. (He's normally a good kid...never has he been in trouble at school.) She wants to meet with me now since he ended up being in her office the rest of the afternoon (which I had no knowledge of) & he talked a lot about my Mom. I found out through his teacher this morning when we met at church for Ash Wednesday services. My DS didn't see me there so he has no idea I know what their discussion was about. So even after 2.5 years, this is still (obviously) a big issue for my DS. So keep an eye on yours. I'm only sorry I never took mine to counseling but I may now afterall! I went to counseling myself & if you haven't thought about it, it does seem to help a little. I was also on antidepressants. The combo of grief counseling, antidepressants & exercising really helped me along. It's still a very fresh wound for you but think about what I've mentioned here.

Anyway, I do understand your pain & it's deep & will be there forever altho people tell me that it does lessen. I'll let you know when it lessen's for me.

I'm so very sorry you're feeling like me. It's not a good feeling. Please feel free to PM me anytime if you need to talk.

 

[pixiemomma]

I lost my Mom at 20. I can completely relate to everything you said.

 

[CathrynRose]

I know how you feel. My Mom has been gone for 10 years as of yesterday. Sometimes it feels like it was yesterday.

My mom is one month, yesterday -

We share a (crappy) anniversary.