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[never2L8]

Thanks to everyone for their help and good thoughts last weekend. Didn't need to cancel our trip for next week. Unfortunately, my dad didn't make it through the latest hospitalization and passed away on Monday. I'm grateful he went peacefully and quickly but it's still so hard. After 13 years of his battle after his stroke, I guess he was ready. Even though you expect it, you still are shocked when it happens. Now I feel bad leaving my Mom for the week so soon. Brothers and I are trying to get her to come with me. She always loved Disney and went often with my dad when they traveled to Fla when we were grown. She always says that those days were over because my dad wasn't able to travel anymore. I always had to go on Small world twice...once for her.She really could use the break after this long haul. She's not sure she's ready, but we'll see. I have 2 brothers to pick up the slack but she really relies on me as we live only 5 minutes away, and I'm the DAUGHTER!! Anyway, I'll miss my dad but I know he's in a better place.
Thanks again for you thoughts and prayers.

 

[DeDixie]

So sorry for you loss. Will pray for you and your family.

 

[tinkgrl]

Hi,

So sorry for your loss. Pixie Dust is coming your way!

Allison
Offically DVC 7/23/03
Home Resort: BCV

 

[KelNottAt]

Sending my sympathies and prayers.

 

[mrsdon]

Im so sorry to hear about your fathers passing away.
Maybe in time your mom will be able to go to WDW with you.
Hope this trip brings you peace,

 

[BCV23]

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sorry for your loss.

I hope everyone can convince your mother to join you. If she can't quite do it this trip then maybe next.

 

[PamOKW]

I'm very sorry to hear about your father. I know what you mean by being shocked even when it was expected. Take care of yourself so you can continue to help your Mom. Maybe she'll change her mind and come with you. Being togther in a happy place would probably make your father smile and be good for everyone.

Take care.

 

[Mai Ku Tiki]

Aloha!

Prayers & Pixiedust to you and your family...

**~~``**~`~*~*~*``~*~`*``~~**`~~**``**~~``

I lost my dad two years ago...stroke also...he was the one who first brought me to POLY & WDW in 1972. He changed my life...

I predict you will feel quite at peace while you are at WDW....Mom will, too, when she eventually goes again!


Hugs!! {{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}

~aloharose~

 

[ripleysmom]

Sorry for your loss

 

[skelooch]

never2L8,

My sincerest sympathy to you and your family, I know exactly how you feel I lost my wife a year ago. Her wish was to get something close to Disney for our grandaughters, and that's how I came to buy into DVC, I know she would have loved it. I recently purchased Leave A Legacy plaque in her memory so we can visit it each time we go home.

 

[cdy16zz]

never2L8,

We are sorry for your loss, our prayers will be with you and yours tonight. God Bless.

 

[Terry S]

I am really sorry for your loss. You are right your Dad is in a better place now! I hope you will be able to convince your Mom to go, I think it will be good for her!

 

[married@wdw]

I'm so sorry for your loss! The same thing happened to me in March -- my dad passed away six days before our trip to Disney, which I was just about to cancel. My family demanded we have the funeral quickly so my husband and I could still go (we were also going for my sister-in-law's bridal shower and my mom and sisters didn't want me to miss it, as I was "running the show").

I too tried to convince my mom to come along. She wouldn't and I really didn't want to leave her. Thankfully, she lives with my sister in an in-law situation so she had her grandkids to keep her occuppied. I hope your mom decides to go with you though -- it'll do both of you good to be together at this hard time and would probably be a relief to your brothers as well to know she was someplace where she could remember all the good times and relax some.

I'd like to say the break did me good, but it was very hard. I was very close to my father and while he'd had heart troubles for 21 years, we didn't expect the most recent round of troubles to be the end. And I had so many great memories of my dad at WDW -- I cried for most of the trip. But if you have those kinds of memories of your dad and you're emotional like me, the first time will probably be that way. We went again in June for my SIL's wedding and I just had the great memories, not so many tears (still a few -- I'm VERY emotional). Just try to enjoy yourself, make sure you try to get lots of rest and don't push to hard!

God bless you and your family!

 

[MinnieGi]

I'm so sorry for you loss.

 

[JVL1018]

Originally posted by never2L8
Thanks to everyone for their help and good thoughts last weekend. Didn't need to cancel our trip for next week. Unfortunately, my dad didn't make it through the latest hospitalization and passed away on Monday. I'm grateful he went peacefully and quickly but it's still so hard.

I'm sorry for your loss. {{{}}}

 

[mckryan]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you enjoy yourself and remember the happy times with your dad. I hope your mom decides to join you, but if not this time, maybe the next time.

 

[fkj2]

never2L8,

I felt as though your post could have been written by me. My folks and I travelled annually to WDW during the last years of his life until he wasn't able to go and then I went with just the mom. Now, she isn't able to go. I'd haul her on board the next plane in a hearbeat if I could.

I stayed at VWL for the first time in May, without her along, and it was OK. Certainly not the way I wanted it to be but just being at WDW triggered a lot of memories. Just one more way of being at "home."

Try to convince your mom to go but don't insist on it. Probably, in her own time, she'll be ready to resume her life but it sure is hard to imagine that after being the caregiver for such a long time. You sacrifice so much for someone else that it becomes difficult to concentrate on yourself.

My dad's been away from us now for, well, 11 years next week. Can't visit WDW without thinking of him on Pirates of the Caribbean or Country Bear Jamboree. And that's good; memories that last a lifetime.

 

[cgcw]

My deepest sympathy.

 

[jennymouse]

I know it hurts. I lost my mother May 3rd....right before my first trip home. Try not to put too much pressure on your mother to go, as she would probably be better off at home to relax/rest and sort through her feelings alone. I wanted my dad to go to WDW with us too, but he just wasn't ready. When we returned, he said it was good to be alone and rest after all we'd been through taking care of Mom. Just call her often while you're gone and she'll be okay. Hang in there. If you need to talk PM or email me.

 

[Macnjac87]

So sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my Mom in January after a long battle with emphysema, then 2 weeks later my father in law- i planned a "pixie dust" trip for 6 weeks after that, and we had a wonderful time- my Mother in law came, her first trip and that was so super. I wanted to call my Mom when I got home to tell her all the highlights and I couldn't and I wrote her a letter anyway, which really seemed to help. It turns out that my Mother in law passed away in June,(broken heart) so we were so happy she got to spend some great quality time with my kids at WDW.
Have a great time and know that your Dad is watching from above.