S/O: Divorce... how to cut down?

Single people don't purchase anything? And the children they "create" don't survive? Why wouldn't they be part of the future?
It actually seems like single people would drive the economy more than a married couple. A single man and single woman would need 2 places to live, 2 sets sets of all household items, both would be paying separate utility bills, etc.
 
How exactly does someone else's divorce or marriage status effect me? That's what I'm not understanding, I guess.
I spelled it out above in my post. If it doesn't, great. But that is a BIG if. Unfortunately, it often does effect people who are not a party to the divorce. To the co-workers who are missing work, and not paying attention to their work due to their divorce, to neighbors having to live next to a couple in the middle of a divorce and not keeping their house up. To parents getting divorced whose kids "seek asylum " at their friends house because their home is not a good place to be.
 

It actually seems like single people would drive the economy more than a married couple. A single man and single woman would need 2 places to live, 2 sets sets of all household items, both would be paying separate utility bills, etc.
Do they have discretionary income for vacations and luxury items or are they just paying the bills and getting by or worse are they taking on more debt? Paying utility bills does very little to drive the economy.
 
Marriage for love is a more modern concept afforded to the last few generations. There are still some cultures that a marriage is seen more as a business transaction between two families for status, property preservation or mutual benefit as it was in the past.

I don’t think there should be any limits on divorce, no one should be forced to stay in a bad situation. I married my HS sweetheart and we are still going strong 3 teens later. It’s not always easy and it definitely requires give and take. If one spouse is the giver and the other is always taking it will never work, there needs to be a mutual desire to do what’s best for each other.
 
I spelled it out above in my post. If it doesn't, great. But that is a BIG if. Unfortunately, it often does effect people who are not a party to the divorce. To the co-workers who are missing work, and not paying attention to their work due to their divorce, to neighbors having to live next to a couple in the middle of a divorce and not keeping their house up. To parents getting divorced whose kids "seek asylum " at their friends house because their home is not a good place to be.
My neighbours who are getting divorced just lowered their house price by 75k. I think they are getting desperate. This is not the best time of year to put a house on the market.
 
Do they have discretionary income for vacations and luxury items or are they just paying the bills and getting by or worse are they taking on more debt? Paying utility bills does very little to drive the economy.
Does the married couple with 2-3 kids have discretionary income for those things? One's marital status has very little to do with their income status. I could even say that a single person with no children income potential could even be higher because they do not have the obligations that go along with a family.
 
Does the married couple with 2-3 kids have discretionary income for those things? One's marital status has very little to do with their income status. I could even say that a single person with no children income potential could even be higher because they do not have the obligations that go along with a family.
You would have to have a very high income as a single person to qualify for a home in my neighbourhood. I think that is true about every where right now. The average age for homebuyers is at all time high at 56 years old.
 
You would have to have a very high income as a single person to qualify for a home in my neighbourhood. I think that is true about every where right now. The average age for homebuyers is at all time high at 56 years old.
And what does home ownership have to do with the having discretionary income? Not everyone needs to be a homeowner. In fact one can say that by renting a more affordable place to live you would have MORE discretionary income.
 
And what does home ownership have to do with the having discretionary income? Not everyone needs to be a homeowner. In fact one can say that by renting a more affordable place to live you would have MORE discretionary income.
I guess, but rent is just as high. Two incomes make it easier.
 
I guess, but rent is just as high. Two incomes make it easier.
No doubt about it two incomes can make things easier, I even said as much above. But when you add kids into the mix the discretionary income does start to dwindle. But marriage in and of itself does not mean that a couple has more income than a single person. A lot goes into than that, like what jobs the individuals have.
 
It’s never better. Ever. Had I stayed with my XH my kids wouldn’t be who they are today. They probably would’ve turned out like their cousins on their dad’s side and that makes me shiver a bit.
I agree, it’s not better. It doesn’t happen any more, but I used to get comments about my daughter coming from a broken home. I’d reply with yes, it was broken; that’s why I left.
 
I spelled it out above in my post. If it doesn't, great. But that is a BIG if. Unfortunately, it often does effect people who are not a party to the divorce. To the co-workers who are missing work, and not paying attention to their work due to their divorce, to neighbors having to live next to a couple in the middle of a divorce and not keeping their house up. To parents getting divorced whose kids "seek asylum " at their friends house because their home is not a good place to be.

Plenty of happily married couples don't take care of upkeep on their homes. They also miss work. Maybe even more so if they have children to take care of.

I had friends with married parents who were awful and they would often seek "asylum" at friends houses too.

None of the things you are describing are unique to divorce.

I guess, but rent is just as high. Two incomes make it easier.

You can have 2 incomes without being married.
 
Plenty of happily married couples don't take care of upkeep on their homes. They also miss work. Maybe even more so if they have children to take care of.

I had friends with married parents who were awful and they would often seek "asylum" at friends houses too.

None of the things you are describing are unique to divorce.



You can have 2 incomes without being married.
Not unique but more likely in my experience.
 
I'll defer to the wisdom of Judge Judy. She asks the wife why she's so mad at the girlfriend. It's her HUSBAND she should be mad at. "Flatten HIS tires, not HERS!"

There are so many stories where the wife is seems to blame the woman for her husbands cheating. Why aren't you blaming the SOB who is cheating on you?

I never understood why many (or even the majority of) women affected blame the “other woman” for their husband’s infidelity.

She’s called a homewrecker by the wife and the wife’s family and friends. The cheating husband rarely gets called derogatory names and his role is often downplayed or overlooked.
 














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