rude people

[Hedy]

Oh, the joys of customer service.

 

[Tiggernut_jadie]

I have to agree with VSL - in the UK we aren't expected to carry ID with us at all times. We aren't even expected to carry our driving licenses - if you get stopped here by the police you are usually given 7 days to produce your documents (like license, insurance details etc) at you local police station. Also the legal drinking age is 18 in the UK.

This is no excuse for these people's rudeness or their ignorance of local laws - however it may expalin why they didn't have their ID with them.

 

[arminnie]

I actually had a dad try to berate me last Sat because I asked his 24 year old daughter for an ID. He started yelling about how she was his daughter and if he said it was ok to serve her alcohol then I have to do it no matter her age.

Totally rude and this is no excuse for his awful behavior - but in some states it is legal to serve a child with a parent. I was with a couple at a brunch in Houston when their FIVE year old daughter ordered a mimosa - a REAL one. The waitress just shrugged and said it was legal if the parents said okay. I was pretty shocked that the parents allowed it.

I took my nephew out to eat in New Orleans several times - he could order a drink at 18 because they assumed I was his parent. Of course no one really cares in New Orleans anyway. Legal age was 18 forever until the feds made them change the law.

 

[Tiggernut_jadie]

Oh that reminds me too - in the UK it is legal for people age 14 and over to drink wine or beer with a meal (if their parent or guardian is present) and for children under that age to drink in their own home with parental permission.

 

[Enchanted Tiki Bird]

Oh that reminds me too - in the UK it is legal for people age 14 and over to drink wine or beer with a meal (if their parent or guardian is present) and for children under that age to drink in their own home with parental permission.

Not to start a different debate but I agree with those laws (or lack there of), especially when it comes to one's own home.

 

[korbbec]

Totally rude and this is no excuse for his awful behavior - but in some states it is legal to serve a child with a parent. I was with a couple at a brunch in Houston when their FIVE year old daughter ordered a mimosa - a REAL one. The waitress just shrugged and said it was legal if the parents said okay. I was pretty shocked that the parents allowed it.

I took my nephew out to eat in New Orleans several times - he could order a drink at 18 because they assumed I was his parent. Of course no one really cares in New Orleans anyway. Legal age was 18 forever until the feds made them change the law.

He was right- the thing is, the girl had her ID and had no problem producing it. He was creating a problem where there was none because I had the *audasity* to ask for her ID. And he was only partially right- I can serve him and he can legally turn around and give it to his custodial minor- but that is a catch 22 here in CT because you can only serve a person one drink at a time- so he would have had to choose- him or her! I should have taken him up on that.

 

[arminnie]

He was right.

Well even if he was "right" he still didn't have the "right" to be rude to you and just be utterly obnoxious.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

Oh, the joys of customer service.

Amen

 

[minechuchie]

When I carded people wanting to purchase cigarettes I usually got a much harder time from the younger people than the 30+ crowd. My standard comment to all that gave me a hard time was this, "Take it as a compliment that I'm carding you, in a couple of years you'll be glad when someone says hey you look young for your age." That one line usually lightened up the situation before tempers flared. Any way you look at it people are tough to deal with. Terri

 

[Cool-Beans]

My mother was carded for cigarettes in her 60s. Then I tried to buy them, with my ID, but the woman wouldn't sell them to me, because I might give them to mom, who hadn't proved she was old enough to buy them...and that's illegal, too.

So, we had to call a manager over to buy the danged things.

Sometimes the people asking for ID are doing the right thing...sometimes they are just being dumb.

But even if they are dumb (which I'm sure the OP isn't!), you can deal with it without being rude.

 

[jama]

The other day a man in front of me at the grocery was carded for buying beer. He laughed as he showed his license because he was 89!

 

[JR6ooo4]

Mmmmmmm, crazy people watching, hehehehheee

in my life experience one in ten people is a complainer.

Mikeeee

 

[Toot Sweet]

Mmmmmmm, crazy people watching, hehehehheee

in my life experience one in ten people is a complainer.

Mikeeee

True dat.

 

[Hixski]

The other day a man in front of me at the grocery was carded for buying beer. He laughed as he showed his license because he was 89!

That is what makes me crazy. I still get carded from time to time and I am 47. Ok, I do look younger than that but I don't remotely look 21. I think there needs to be some common sense involved sometimes. Carding under 100 is ridiculous IMHO.

 

[Enchanted Tiki Bird]

I agree. Carding under a hundred just seems like a waste of time.

 

[ZPT1022]

This happened to me and DH when we were in Hawaii too!

I'm way past 21, but it was good feeling being carded!

That's how I always feel too! Flattered. Two little funnies- one night DH and I went out to dinner, no kids I ordered wine and the waitress said to me "I'll need to see some ID" Well, I got kind of excited and she was like "Now I know you're over 21" Little too eager I guess

New Years Eve 2005 we were invited over our friends house and thought it would be nice to bring something so we brought stuff to make cosmos. I was very excited to be asked for my ID (seeing a trend?? ) until DH had to rain on my parade and point out that it was only because I was writing a check

He was right- the thing is, the girl had her ID and had no problem producing it. He was creating a problem where there was none because I had the *audasity* to ask for her ID. And he was only partially right- I can serve him and he can legally turn around and give it to his custodial minor- but that is a catch 22 here in CT because you can only serve a person one drink at a time- so he would have had to choose- him or her! I should have taken him up on that.

Yup! CT is weird like that. I "shared" lots of drinks with DH for the few months that he was 21 and I wasn't.

The other day a man in front of me at the grocery was carded for buying beer. He laughed as he showed his license because he was 89!

Maybe they are required to put it in? I know some of our local grocery stores actually scan your license in, I guess to have a record to be able to prove they didn't sell to minors? Never seen it at a package store, just the grocery store

 

[#1MMFan]

To be honest, people don't always carry their passports because having it stolen is much more of a problem than having, say, a regular i.d. card stolen. And we don't have regular i.d. cards in the UK. Not everyone's driving license previously had a photo. So I can understand why they might be reluctant to carry i.d.

I don't condone ignorance or rudeness whatsoever, but I do think as far as the alcohol policy goes, there are a heck of a lot of things the US could be more concerned with than allowing someone who may only be 20 an alcoholic beverage. It always seems to me that the US is obsessed with liquor laws - does this hark back to prohibition etc?? JMHO. These days, even tho' we can drink legally at age 18, I don't get the impression that there is any more of a drinking culture over here than in the US/Canada.
But then if that's your law, I can understand servers enforcing not serving people who aren't carrying i.d.

 

[DISUNC]

You should have told him you were going to call immigration if she entered the country illegally with no ID.

I like when 16 year old store clerks, card 30 year old woman when they want to buy cigarettes!
You can be under 18 to SELL them, but not BUY them!

 

[ZPT1022]

To be honest, people don't always carry their passports because having it stolen is much more of a problem than having, say, a regular i.d. card stolen. And we don't have regular i.d. cards in the UK. Not everyone's driving license previously had a photo. So I can understand why they might be reluctant to carry i.d.

I don't condone ignorance or rudeness whatsoever, but I do think as far as the alcohol policy goes, there are a heck of a lot of things the US could be more concerned with than allowing someone who may only be 20 an alcoholic beverage. It always seems to me that the US is obsessed with liquor laws - does this hark back to prohibition etc?? JMHO. These days, even tho' we can drink legally at age 18, I don't get the impression that there is any more of a drinking culture over here than in the US/Canada.
But then if that's your law, I can understand servers enforcing not serving people who aren't carrying i.d.

I agree that our liquor laws are too strict, and at least slightly ridiculous. However, the penalties for not enforcing them, and the fact that there are routine "sting operations" to try to catch people serving minors, if I were a waitress or working in a store or something, I wouldn't want to take the chance either. I don't want to pay a fine and lose my job so someone else can drink, it's just not worth it, even if I don't always agree with the law.

 

[Freyja]

Very rude.