Robin - I am so very sorry for your family's loss. I cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through. I do want to tell you though, that I was told the same penny story when my dad was terminally ill, and at first, it did not really help, but now, 3 years later, any time I see any coin on the ground, I know dad is saying hi. And, on the really bad days, I am usually finding quarters and such, and I know that dad is sending me lots of hi's and hugs. I hope that eventually you will be able to say "hi" back to Dan when you find the coins. Right now - take all the time you need to come to terms. Do not let anyone rush you. I just started to be able to accept things about 3 months ago...even though I was told by my family 2 years ago that I needed to be done grieving.
WE are all here for you..