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[disney50fam]

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[momof2inPA]

That's wrong on so many levels, I don't know where to start.

 

[kirbsam]

normally i am all for making kids clean up after themselves, and i have been accused of being a disciplinarian. but making a sick kid clean up his own puke is wrong...plain wrong. the kid is sick, he is not going to learn anything by cleaning up his own puke. it will probably make him puke again. your husband is wrong and could learn a little compassion.

 

[AllieKat]

This makes me sad. Yeah, I'd be pissed at DH as well...to say the least.

 

[GEM]

Sorry, but that's about the meanest thing I've ever heard. I would have taken the poor little guy to sleep in our room and told DH he could sleep in the one with the vomit.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would have cleaned it up for him. He did not do this on purpose.

 

[Captain Brain]

He's sick. Cleaning up your own puke will just make you puke again.

BTW: I love the pictures of your kids.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

That is HORRIBLE! He's a kid, for crying out loud. My kids have all thrown up in their beds, my DD as a teen at the Swan. Can we all say "yuck" together? At least he woke up and tried to get to the bathroom. My kids tend to sleep heavily and wake up after the fact. And yes, I help then clean it up as much as it grosses me out. And so does my DH. Sorry that your DH did not handle it well.

 

[JESW]

Poor little guy!

Both my kids recently had the stomach bug (they are 7 & 11) and I would have NEVER asked them to clean up after themselves! I don't agree with your DH that he would be old enough to know when he was going to puke. My DS is 11 and that bug was so sudden and so violent that even at his age he just about made it to the bathroom but still got some on the floor (and on the wall, and on the toilet, you get the picture)

Is your DH usually that nasty to the kids??

Jill

 

[disney50fam]

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[lw49033]

I'm all about being a disciplinarian but that is not the appropriate time nor place for it. You're right on this one.

 

[drakethib]

Not cool.

The little guy was sick.

 

[lw49033]

Two weeks ago my 8 yo boy had the flu and got diarrhea that was so bad I actually had to set him in the bathtub to clean him up. So, I can empathize with both you and your son.

 

[Buckalew11]

I'm glad your DH is sorry. Not sure what else he can say. He was dead wrong but it is over now. And he'd better not do it again or the DIS mamas will be after him!!!!!!

I hope he has sat down with his son and apologized for his worse decision. Has he? Your son needs to know FROM HIS DAD that his dad was wrong. Not from mom saying dad is sorry or dad was wrong. If he hasn't apologized to your DS than I would strongly suggest to him that he should. His decision won't hurt the child in some ways but in other ways, it will. Your DS will probably never forget his dad's reaction to his being sick. Poor child. And dad needs to remember he is ONLY 9. He may be the oldest of 5 but at 9, he is still a little boy.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Let's put it this way....there is a line you don't cross and this would be one of them.

 

[FreshTressa]

I still don't get 'warnings' when I'm going to puke and have had accidents as an adult.

So has my dad.

Nothing to be learned by cleaning it up himself....I would clean up after DH if he was sick and had an accident. At 9, it would not even occur to me to ask him to help!

 

[Alice's Mom]

Poor little guy, I would have helped him clean himself up first, put him in my bed and then cleaned it up for him. I think your husband was very harsh.

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I got it beat though, my co-worker told me how she would punish her daughter when she wet the bed. Her daughter often slept with her and in the middle of the night she might have an accident. She would wake her daughter up, make her clean it up and then make her sit in a corner until the sheets were changed. I normally would not say anything about someones parenting style, but I told her she is only humiliating and traumatizing her poor kid and she'll probably continue to have accidents. She took her daughter to a doctor and he told her the same thing as there was nothing medically wrong with her. Her daughter was 7 at the time.

 

[Zandy595]

He was VERY wrong! I agree with Buckalew11, your DS will probably never forget this. I hope your DH apologizes to him and does something nice for him to make up for it. Maybe have a special father/son day when DS feels better.

 

[Lynn CC]

I've heard everything now That is just awful.

Next time your DH is really sick and wants sympathy I'd let him fend for himself and see what doing "the little tasks" when your not feeling well feels like, I wouldn't even get a cup of tea for him! See how he likes being treated when he's sick.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but he needs a taste of his own medicine, especially to treat his son like that.

 

[momof2inPA]

OK, I have to say something. Your husband was wrong for telling your son to clean it up and for telling you to leave your son to do that.

You were wrong for not standing up to your husband and for letting your boy help clean up the vomit.

I would NEVER allow my husband to dictate how I decided to care for my sick child-- NEVER. He wouldn't dream of such a thing.