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[disney50fam]

I am not a bad mother and I just needed to vent.
Like I said I sent him to the shower while I cleaned up the vomit.
He said he was sorry to him and had a long talk with him.
Who said he was the stepdad anyway?? I wouldnt care if he was my sons step dad or real dad. I wouldnt let any of my children clean up there own puke!!!! Some men are just very insentive ( not all just some ) He just has never been around (working) to see the kids sick or vomiting!

Thank you for listening to me vent but dont judge me.
Everything is settled at our house and aplogies have been said
and we are now moving on!!!!!

 

[poohandwendy]

I am glad to hear things are better now. And no, it doesn't matter if he is the biological or step father. I am glad to hear it was resolved and apologies were made.

I don't think anyone thinks you are a bad mom. I hope your son feels better.

 

[ECurto]

My son had a headache all day yesterday and didnt feel well. But he ate dinner and about a hour later went to bed. Then around 45 mins after he fell asleep I heard him trying to hurry off his bed and then he LOSTit everywhere and kept running and made it to the bathroom....
My vent is he is only 9 years old and my DH made him clean up his own vomit...
He told me to stay out and let him do it all his self "he is old enough to know when he is going to puke he said"
That pissed me off even as a adult I have had a vomit accdeint.

* needless to say I went in there and helped my poor little guy *

just want your veiw...
And thanks so much for listening to me vent!

God I hope this is an April fools joke!

 

[aprilgail2]

I am not a bad mother and I just needed to vent.


Thank you for listening to me vent but dont judge me.

I don't think you are a bad mother...I just think he is an awful father! No compassion is not a good thing!

 

[Planogirl]

I'm glad that Dad apologized and you're all moving on now. This was so wrong in so many ways but to be fair, I imagine that many of us have reacted poorly and have felt bad about it afterwards. If the Dad doesn't do this type of thing regularly and feels genuinely sorry, I don't see much sense in slamming him.

 

[Martha7]

My guess is that your DH thought that if he cleaned up the mess, he might vomit himself. That's the way my DH feels, so vomit automatically falls under my jurisdiction! Since he didn't want to order you to clean it, he may have fallen back into the default of "he has to clean it up himself." It sounds like your DH just panicked to me, and I'm glad that all has been resolved!

 

[Sleepy]

As a longtime sufferer of migraines (from age 7) and vomiting as a side effect, I would NEVER make a child clean up the mess. Often, you never know when it is going to happen. I think having 2 parents can be a blessing because when one does not use good judgement, the other is there to help the child through it. I'm afraid if this were my husband, I would have used his shirt to clean it up....and he would still be wearing it.

 

[epcotfan]

Am I the only kid that cleaned up my own vomit most of the time? I was never yelled at, but always felt obliged to do so after I made a mess. I didn't want my parents to have to deal with it because I was embarrassed. Don't get me wrong, my mom took really good care of me if I was sick (she's a nurse) but I certainly don't blame her for not wanting to "handle" it.

 

[hentob]

Who said he was the stepdad anyway??

You have said it in many of your past posts. You have said that you had your first 4 children with your ex-husband, and #5 with your current relationship.

 

[chobie]

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Sorry, but I have to strongly disagree with that.. There is no "position" in the world that demands respect.. Respect has to be earned.. Would you say a man that beats his children or a mother who starves her children demands a "certain respect" just because of their "position"????

The man was dead wrong and owes his son AND his wife a SINCERE apology..

Amen.

 

[hentob]

And no, it doesn't matter if he is the biological or step father.

You are so very right about this PAW. But, sadly, many people do not "bond" with the step children the way that they should I have seen it so often. Adults treating the step children not as nicely as the "bio" children.

This is not always the case, thank goodness, but I actually thought it would be relevant to this post since everyone kept referring to the DH of the OP as the "boy's father".

 

[hentob]

I am not a bad mother and I just needed to vent.

I don't think anyone said you were a bad mother...Am I missing something?

You did say that you "would like everyones view" on this matter, and that is what you got

 

[GEM]

Am I the only kid that cleaned up my own vomit most of the time? I was never yelled at, but always felt obliged to do so after I made a mess. I didn't want my parents to have to deal with it because I was embarrassed. Don't get me wrong, my mom took really good care of me if I was sick (she's a nurse) but I certainly don't blame her for not wanting to "handle" it.

When I decided to be a mom, I knew I was signing on for hazzardous duty - pee, poop, vomit, the whole nine yards. That's just part of the deal. Now, if my teenager came home drunk and vomited everywhere, heck yes, they would be cleaning it up. (And that would be the nicest thing that would happen to them!) But, if my child is sick (I don't care if they're 2 or 20!) all I want to do is help them feel better - and that does not include making them clean up after themselves in that situation.

When my father was dying from cancer, the chemo made him very sick and we all cleaned up our share, I guarantee. And, we never resented it because we knew that he had certainly done his share of cleaning up after us. That's respect.

 

[hentob]

When I decided to be a mom, I knew I was signing on for hazzardous duty - pee, poop, vomit, the whole nine yards. That's just part of the deal. .

Hazardous Duty

But oh so true.....

 

[DVC Sadie]

I for one do not see the OP as ever being a bad mother or OP dad being a "horrible" father. What I do see is a lot of people here on the Disboards as being perfect parents all the time. Every parent in my opinion has made parenting mistakes once or twice in their parenting years but I don't think it helps a whole lot to basically get the rope and noose ready for a hanging.

OP, I am so glad that everything has worked out and things are back to normal. Hugs to all of you and I hope your child is feeling better.

 

[disfanatiks]

That's wrong on so many levels, I don't know where to start.

ITA