Relationship vent....yes another one :) Update Post 54

[mickeyfan2]

You are seeing a man with a live in girlfriend

I agree.

Add to it his lack of access.

Cancel the WDW vacation now!!!!!

 

[mickeyfan2]

Well I didn't know about her till August after we had been talking for a few months. At that point he told me he had broken it off with her. And I had been seeing other people, we weren't dating exclusivley.

I really don't know what to do. Everything you guys say makes sense...but I just feel really confused about the situation.

Why would you vacation with a guy if it is not an exclusive relationship?

No way would I go anywhere on vacation with a sort of/kind of boyfriend.

 

[GJM]

Please listen to everyone's advice.

Have you been to his apartment? Do you call him at his apartment or only his cell.

If they broke up in August, it wouldn't take that long to find a new apartmnet.

It just doesn't all sound right -

Enjoy your trip even if he doesn't go.

 

[MainStMandy]

I agree.

Add to it his lack of access.

Cancel the WDW vacation now!!!!!

He is a very small part of this trip...I am going with or without him. No man ruins my Disney vacation

 

[MainStMandy]

Oh commmme onnnn!!!! I clearly called it first!!!!!

You both can come We rented a 2 bedroom villa and if he doesn't come that leave me, my brother and his 2 friends...plenty of room!!

I don't know if any of what he is saying is true. But at some point I guess you have to make the decision to trust someone or not. Granted he lied about her in the first place but has been upfront about her since then. He could have lied and told me she moved out. Sounds like they were stuck in their lease, but obviously what do I know...

This all may be moot (or moo, like a cow's opinion....haha) if he didn't get approved for the time off...I think that will be the last straw. I have put a lot of work and money into this trip and the fact that he didn't request time off from work till 3 weeks before...

 

[mickeyfan2]

He is a very small part of this trip...I am going with or without him. No man ruins my Disney vacation

Then go without him. Stop even thinking of with him.

 

[mickeyfan2]

This all may be moot (or moo, like a cow's opinion....haha) if he didn't get approved for the time off...I think that will be the last straw. I have put a lot of work and money into this trip and the fact that he didn't request time off from work till 3 weeks before...

Or maybe he could not come up with a good excuse from his live-in girlfiend to fly to WDW without her.

 

[CookieGVB]

I'd remove him from the DP now.

Tell him you've changed your mind, and that you're going to enjoy the trip with your brother. And then turn off your cell phone. Don't be available during his time frame. Have your answering machine at home pick up calls, and turn off the ringer.

That should get the message across nicely.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I'd remove him from the DP now.

Tell him you've changed your mind, and that you're going to enjoy the trip with your brother. And then turn off your cell phone. Don't be available during his time frame. Have your answering machine at home pick up calls, and turn off the ringer.

That should get the message across nicely.

I agree with this.

 

[marymrg]

This all may be moot (or moo, like a cow's opinion....haha) if he didn't get approved for the time off...I think that will be the last straw. I have put a lot of work and money into this trip and the fact that he didn't request time off from work till 3 weeks before...

I could be wrong, but my guess is that he would use that as his excuse for not going. Let "him" off the hook now and tell him you don't think the trip is a good idea at this time. Then have a great time with your brother and his friends! Sounds like you can have a lot more fun going on a "friends only" trip than one where you are working on serious relationship issues. JMHO though.

 

[FSUGrad97]

Just give me a minute, will ya?

This guy that I am kinda "seeing" (if you read my other thread, this is the one with the live-in gf...that I think is gone).

Ok, here's your first clue that this relationship may not work out.

It sucks. I know part of it is his work schedule, but I think this is kinda extreme. I am frustrated and we are supposed to leave for Disney in 2 weeks. I really don't know what I want to do, but I am really stressed and upset about this today. In the past I have kinda "complained" about the lack of time we spend talking and it usually results in an argument and doens't get us anywhere, so this time I haven't said anything. Just kinda "wait" around for a text or a call from him. Yesterday he said he'd call me at 11 when he got out of work...I got a call at 12:40 (I was asleep) and we didn't really talk cause I was exhausted and he had to get up at 5.
Lol I am starting to wonder if it's me or if it's men...

If you are having to "wait around" for him to call you in the middle of the night, it sounds like the live in girlfriend is still in residence.

I haven't read the entire thread, but why would you get involved with someone who may or may not be involved with someone else? The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. I don't mean to be harsh, but you are making a broad generalization that all men are dogs, instead of realizing the guy you chose is sketchy and shady.

 

[MainStMandy]

Ok, here's your first clue that this relationship may not work out.



If you are having to "wait around" for him to call you in the middle of the night, it sounds like the live in girlfriend is still in residence.

I haven't read the entire thread, but why would you get involved with someone who may or may not be involved with someone else? The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. I don't mean to be harsh, but you are making a broad generalization that all men are dogs, instead of realizing the guy you chose is sketchy and shady.

Sorry, I didn't mean to say that all guys are dogs. I was just kinda kidding...I don't really think that all guys are like that.

He is out of town right now training for his job and he does work late hours. I know he's not even around her right now. Even still, you guys have lots of valid points and have given me a lot to think about.

 

[ButchJohnson]

Nah, if your getting a free trip to WDW out of it, you gotta stick around at least for that.

 

[MainStMandy]

Well here's a bit of an update...He dumped me today. Over text messaging.

Enough said I guess??

He asked if he could keep in contact with me and call me IF he ever moves back to NY.

I know I can do better, but I can't help but be upset about this. He did a lot of crappy things, but I feel this tie to him that I can't explain. Never really thought it would end this way.

He said long distance is too hard and that I expected too much from him.

Disney here I come.

 

[autumnbaby9]

Well here's a bit of an update...He dumped me today. Over text messaging.

Enough said I guess??

He asked if he could keep in contact with me and call me IF he ever moves back to NY.

I know I can do better, but I can't help but be upset about this. He did a lot of crappy things, but I feel this tie to him that I can't explain. Never really thought it would end this way.

He said long distance is too hard and that I expected too much from him.

Disney here I come.

You're better off without him. Have fun at Disney!

 

[poohandwendy]

Well here's a bit of an update...He dumped me today. Over text messaging.

Enough said I guess??

He asked if he could keep in contact with me and call me IF he ever moves back to NY.

I know I can do better, but I can't help but be upset about this. He did a lot of crappy things, but I feel this tie to him that I can't explain. Never really thought it would end this way.

He said long distance is too hard and that I expected too much from him.

Disney here I come.

I am sure that really hurt. I hope you have a great vacation. The best is yet to come.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Now start planning that celebration at WDW.

 

[TDC Nala]

You're dating a guy who 1) doesn't live near you and 2) ALREADY HAS A GIRLFRIEND WITH WHOM HE LIVES (are you sure she doesn't live with him anymore?). And you are buying him hotel rooms and dining plans?

 

[AdventurerKat]

You're dating a guy who 1) doesn't live near you and 2) ALREADY HAS A GIRLFRIEND WITH WHOM HE LIVES (are you sure she doesn't live with him anymore?). And you are buying him hotel rooms and dining plans?

She's not anymore. He broke up with her.

 

[TDC Nala]

She's not anymore. He broke up with her.

Lucky her.