Reborn dolls...I just think they're sad...

[hsmamato2]

wow..... I kind of agree with a pp....WHY ???Are we supposed to abandon all reason now ?... think about it!
Having had grandparents with dementia, I know firsthand that a baby doll is very comforting to them, b/c it reminds them of the days when their own kids were babies,and that's where their minds were stuck.... I don't know anything about a lady that gives away teddy bears....
but what happens when some sane person at a daycare tells one of these women,"No, we don't babysit for dolls, this is a nursery for actual humans" ....then what? what happens when someone draws the line for a seemingly sane person,and tells them that their doll will be fine waiting in the car while they eat dinner....
Should my actual human child wait in a doctors office behind a plastic doll with an 'illness'?
I understand the concept of 'it makes them happy' but that doesn't equal 'it's a mentally healthy thing to do'.......
(FWIW,I dislike dogs being treated like babies also, but at least a dog is a living breathing being with actual needs to care for, not a plastic doll)
I feel sad for a person who feels the need to pretend to this extent...

 

[reader_girl]

Thank you. I'm sorry...but some people on the DIS take 'tolerance' and 'live and let live' to a new level and it gets tiring.

If you are a 30-something year old woman, and you are carrying around a fake doll, feeding it and taking care of it...THERE IS SOMETHING SERIOUSLY WRONG WITH YOU AND YOU NEED HELP.

If you are an adult taking care of teddy bears...THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU AND YOU NEED HELP.

That's just basic common sense...they need counseling and help. It is not okay, and they should be looked on as sad and needing help. It's very sad.

Let's all stop trying to be accepting of everything and anything...there are some things that are just not "okay". Taking care of a fake baby, unless you are in high school and doing it for a grade in your child development class, is not a mentally healthly thing to do. Period.

There I said it.

I am 29 years old and the proud owner of a reborn doll. I have him (yes, I got mine as a boy.) for two reasons.

#1: I do not want a real child. They are loud and messy and just flat out not for me.
#2: I have severe social anxiety and taking my doll out and even just holding it helps lower my anxiety and keeps me from having an anxiety attack.

I am in the "live and let live" crowd. If I were as cruel and judgemental as people like you and the others posting here, I'd be crying about how people who believe in God are "not right" and "need serious help."

So how about a deal? You do you and I'll do me. I'll change my dolls clothes, push him in a stroller (that I got used at a yardsale) and rock him in my arms when I'm anxious. And you can do whatever it is you enjoy doing.

 

[PrincessShmoo]

I am 29 years old and the proud owner of a reborn doll. I have him (yes, I got mine as a boy.) for two reasons.

#1: I do not want a real child. They are loud and messy and just flat out not for me.
#2: I have severe social anxiety and taking my doll out and even just holding it helps lower my anxiety and keeps me from having an anxiety attack.

I am in the "live and let live" crowd. If I were as cruel and judgemental as people like you and the others posting here, I'd be crying about how people who believe in God are "not right" and "need serious help."

So how about a deal? You do you and I'll do me. I'll change my dolls clothes, push him in a stroller (that I got used at a yardsale) and rock him in my arms when I'm anxious. And you can do whatever it is you enjoy doing.

You really had to dig up a thread that was 3 years old to lecture?

 

[Poohlove]

This poster is new and this is her first post, maybe she searched for a specific topic and didn't realize that the thread was so old. I've made that mistake myself.

 

[low-key]

what was the poster name, he used to take his stuffed animals with him to Disney and have character pics with them

 

[Mirielle]

what was the poster name, he used to take his stuffed animals with him to Disney and have character pics with them

Flowerschild

 

[low-key]

Flowerschild

, thats it, good memory, wonder what happen to him ? does he still go to Disney all the time ?

 

[dotfurio]

Were they stuffed animals that matched the character? Or just random stuffed animals?

 

[aristocatz]

I can understand the benefits of these dolls for patients with Alzheimers, dementia, etc...My grandmother was diagnosed schizophrenic in her later years. The care facility had given her a very realistic looking baby doll to hold, and it definitely seemed to reduce her violent episodes & instances of trying to escape. Her mind was not getting any better, so this made things much easier for her. As a kid, I was so angry they had given her that doll. I found it degrading to her dignity. As an adult now looking back, I can understand and I agree with it. & it was within the realm of a private facility with trained staff.

I do feel bad for people who buy these things as a way to cope from the loss of a child. It just does not seem healthy. Its not reality, and I can't see how it would not end badly.

I suffer from pretty severe social anxiety. Most people who know me would never know it, but it most definitely compromises my life & how I do things. I've learned some coping mechanisms. mastered the art of excuses when invited to a gathering that is out of my league.....For me, I could never carry around a doll. My comfort in a social situation is to not stand out or draw too much attention to myself. I would think carrying a doll would definitely create the opposite effect.

 

[low-key]

Were they stuffed animals that matched the character? Or just random stuffed animals?

no they were the same two, he acted as if they were his best friends

 

[reader_girl]

You really had to dig up a thread that was 3 years old to lecture?

I did not realize this was 3 years old. And how, exactly, am I "lecturing"? (Honestly curious.)

This poster is new and this is her first post, maybe she searched for a specific topic and didn't realize that the thread was so old. I've made that mistake myself.

Exactly. I did a search on google for reborns for anxiety.

 

[Jennasis]

I did not realize this was 3 years old. And how, exactly, am I "lecturing"? (Honestly curious.)

This is your lecture:

If I were as cruel and judgemental as people like you and the others posting here, I'd be crying about how people who believe in God are "not right" and "need serious help."

So how about a deal? You do you and I'll do me. I'll change my dolls clothes, push him in a stroller (that I got used at a yardsale) and rock him in my arms when I'm anxious. And you can do whatever it is you enjoy doing

To be fair, I'm with you on the "you do you" front. Oh, and welcome to the DIS. When's your next trip to Disney?

 

[MinnieMouse84]

What creeps me out is when people are so delusional that they think the dolls are real. reader_girl seems to understand that it's just a doll, and it helps relieve her anxiety, so what's the problem? They don't appeal to me at all, but I can empathize with the social anxiety.

 

[Poohlove]

Not all that long ago I read an article about coping with anxiety and it said that you should do what eases your levels and the heck with what other people think. For example, for some people it's singing a particular song, others it's running. If the doll eases a person's anxiety then I say roll with it. Maybe it will be a bridge to a different behavior that will work or maybe it will get them over their anxiety in a certain situation altogether. If it isn't hurting anyone than who are we to judge?

 

[Squirlz]

no they were the same two, he acted as if they were his best friends

He was a troll of the highest variety. Many have tried since, a few are trying currently, but he'll go down in history.

 

[BEloveDisney]

In a lot of cases, dolls like these are used to help bereaved parents still have a connection to their deceased children. It's not something that makes sense unless you've experienced the unending emptiness that comes from having your baby die. Probably not healthy long term and definitely not healthy if the doll owners are unable to accept the death of their child, but if it makes it so they can begin to heal and cope with their feelings, then who are we to judge how they cope?

 

[kimblebee]

I know this is an old, old thread but I still have to comment..

The lady in the video from page two..does she know that those are dolls? Or, is she actually treating them like children? The fact that she feeds them and has toys for them..gives me a creepy Weekend at Bernies vibe watching it.

 

[CinderDuffy]

I can understand the benefits of these dolls for patients with Alzheimers, dementia, etc...My grandmother was diagnosed schizophrenic in her later years. The care facility had given her a very realistic looking baby doll to hold, and it definitely seemed to reduce her violent episodes & instances of trying to escape. Her mind was not getting any better, so this made things much easier for her. As a kid, I was so angry they had given her that doll. I found it degrading to her dignity. As an adult now looking back, I can understand and I agree with it. & it was within the realm of a private facility with trained staff.

I do feel bad for people who buy these things as a way to cope from the loss of a child. It just does not seem healthy. Its not reality, and I can't see how it would not end badly.

I suffer from pretty severe social anxiety. Most people who know me would never know it, but it most definitely compromises my life & how I do things. I've learned some coping mechanisms. mastered the art of excuses when invited to a gathering that is out of my league.....For me, I could never carry around a doll. My comfort in a social situation is to not stand out or draw too much attention to myself. I would think carrying a doll would definitely create the opposite effect.

Seriously. If I see an adult start to rock a doll, I'm staring & I'm staring hard. I can't imagine many people would do anything less.

 

[Poohlove]

Seriously. If I see an adult start to rock a doll, I'm staring & I'm staring hard. I can't imagine many people would do anything less.

Honestly, I have seen some strange things and someone rocking a doll that looks like one of these Reborn dolls probably wouldn't even catch my attention. They are so real looking.

 

[reader_girl]

This is your lecture:



To be fair, I'm with you on the "you do you" front. Oh, and welcome to the DIS. When's your next trip to Disney?

I'm confused on how that's a lecture. But okay.

Also, I didn't realize at the time that this was a Disney board. I very much would like to go though. Will have to save my money and continue to work on my anxiety.